Izi zikutanthauza kuti mkaziyo ndi wokonzeka kupitiriza kugonana. Chinthu chofunika kukumbukira ndi chakuti kuwonetsa chiwonetsero pamaso pa munthu wopambana ndi wopanda tsankho alibe ntchito. Kuwombera mitsempha ya chiberekero kapena kusungunuka kwachinsinsi, zomwe zimamveka, n'zosatheka.
Inde, ziŵerengero apa sizilimbikitsanso konse: pafupifupi 35% azimayi samakhala ndi chilakolako chachikulu, ndi moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana kumayambira zaka pafupifupi 17. Nthaŵi yonseyi amasangalala ndi kugonana popanda chiwonetsero, kutsanzira izo. Ndi chidziwitso chenichenicho chikuchitika pafupi zaka 25-27.
Mu ubale weniweni, muyenera kunena zoona. Kunama kuli koipa kwambiri. Koma palibe amene akukulimbikitsani kuvomereza kuti simungathe kumaliza naye. Ndiuzeni kuti ndi kovuta kuti mupeze chiwonetsero ndi wina aliyense.
2. Mawu ake: "Ndili ndi akazi ambiri." Izi zikutanthauza - Ndili katswiri pazogonana, bwanji inu simubwera kwa ine chifukwa cha khofi?
Amayi ambiri, amakwiyitsa mawu oterewa. Komabe, anthu onse, njira imodzi kapena yina, ali otsimikiza kuti motero amachulukitsa chiwerengero chawo m'maso mwa akazi. Ndipotu, imayankha. Mkaziyo akuganiza kuti adzakhala mmodzi mwa ambiri mwa mndandanda wa apapa ndipo adzakumbukira za mawa. Kodi zingakhale zotani? Tangodumpha mawu awa ndi makutu, ndizosamvetseka pazinthu za abambo ndipo sizikutanthauza chilichonse. Mwamuna nthawi zonse amakumbukira amene anali wabwino kwambiri, ngakhale ndi chiyanjano chochuluka.
3. Adati: "Chabwino, iwe sitinagone naye." Izi zikutanthauza kuti akuyembekeza kuti mudzapeza chinachake chovuta. Kawirikawiri, amai amawopseza kugonana kwawo, motero amayesera kuwonekera bwino. Ngakhale, ngakhale amayi omwe akudziŵa bwino akhoza kuyamba kukumbukira bwino, ndikuyendayenda. Tsekani mgwirizano ndi owopsa chifukwa bodza lidzatseguka posachedwa kapena kenako ndipo mudzadandaula mawu anu. Koma ngakhale kudziyesa wosalakwa ndi wopusa. Ngati munapita kukakambirana za kugonana, lankhulani m'mawu ambiri, popanda mayina, masiku ndi mfundo.
4. Iye anganene kuti: "Ichi chinali chikhalidwe chabwino kwambiri pa moyo wanga." Musadzitamande nokha. Malingana ndi kafukufuku wosadziwika omwe anachitika m'mayiko onse, amayi nthawi zonse amawonjezera kukopa kwa chisangalalo, ndipo amuna amasankha kukhala chete, kusiyana ndi kuchepetsa chibwenzi chomwecho pafupifupi theka. Pankhaniyi, yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito machitidwe ndikuyankhula zomwe amakonda, komanso momwe angafunire nthawi yotsatira. Mabodza amvetsetsedwa mwamsanga.
5. Mawu ake: "Sindikuganiza za malingaliro oipa." Pazinthu zenizeni, zikutanthawuza - Ndakhala ndikufuna kugonana ndi amuna awiri okongola, koma sindinauze aliyense za izo. Ambiri, amuna ambiri amalota za amai omwe akuyambitsa. Kumbukirani - Amuna amakonda makutu komanso amayi, osangolankhulapo. Ndipo nkhani ya malingaliro anu okhudzidwa adzagwira ntchito bwino kusiyana ndi malo ozizira kwambiri a causative padziko lapansi.
Mukhoza kuyesa payekha kuti muwonetse pamodzi zolaula kapena zolaula, kukwera kumalo kumene anthu omwe amagonana ndi kugonana atakhala, ndi omwe sazengereza kukamba za izo. Ngati mukufuna zofanana, koma simungavomereze - tumizani SMS, kapena kalata yolembera imelo ndi zinthu zokhudzana ndi zochitika. Ndikhulupirire, izo zigwira ntchito.
6. Mau ake: "Kugonana kunali, koma ndibwino kuti musakhale." Izi ndizopatukira mwachindunji kumalo a nsanje. Mwa njira, apa izo zidzakhala zopindulitsa kwambiri. Kugonana popanda chifundo kumakhalapo paunyamata, kapena ndi mahule. Ngati anakumana ndi munthu, zikutanthauza kuti chinachake chimagwedezeka, ndipo izi ndi zoona.
Ndibwino kuti musamachite chilichonse, ingowerengerani.
7. Mawu ake: "Kukula sikusamala." Izi zikutanthauza kuti sakufuna kukhumudwitsa munthu wabwino. Ndipotu, bwanji? Kuphatikizapo kukana kwamakono kwa msonkhano wotsatira.
8. Mawu ake: "Simundikhutitsa ngakhale pabedi." Pano muyenera kuganizira mofatsa. Kufuula, kupsa mtima, kugunda poto pamutu - zonsezi sizomwe, poyerekeza ndi mawu awa. Amuna adzakumbukira izi nthawi zonse, ziribe kanthu kuchuluka kwa kupepesa kwa inu musanatsanulire. Simuyenera kugunda pansi pa lamba. Ndi bwino kuganizira pasadakhale zomwe munganene kwa iye mukunyoza.
9. Mawu ake: "Ndasintha iwe." Ndipotu, zikutanthauza kuti mkazi sakudziwa momwe anganyozere munthu. Ambiri - pafupifupi mkazi aliyense wachitatu - amadziwika kuti ndi wonyenga, ngakhalenso zongopeka. Choyamba ganizirani! Ndiye, pamene mukufuna kukhala ndi ubale wochezeka, mawu awa sadzalola kuti akuchitireni bwino.
10. Mawu ake: "Kodi mumakonda kugonana m'kamwa?". Choncho: osati zoipa, koma osakwanira. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ganizani, koma kodi iye anali mnyamata wabwino posachedwapa?
Chonde dziwani kuti chiwerengero chapamwamba cha malingaliro ogona sichiphatikizapo mndandanda wathunthu wa mawu omwe mutha kukayika mobwerezabwereza. Phatikizani mutu ndi malingaliro opyoza, maganizo - ndiye.