Kugonana ndi bwenzi: ubwino ndi chiopsezo

Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti sipangakhale ubwenzi pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna mwachiyero ndipo, mwa njira imodzi, chirichonse chidzachepetsedwa kugonana. Ndizosatheka kunena ngati izi ziri zoona kapena ayi, koma zimadziwika kuti, kugonana ndi abwenzi ndi chinthu chosavuta kutchedwa kuti chosowa. Ndipo ndizomveka bwino - chilakolako cha thupi ndi champhamvu kwambiri ndipo chingachititse kuti anthu athe kuphatikizapo malo abwino kwambiri. Kuonjezera apo, kwa mkazi yemwe akufuna kugonana, ubwenzi ndi bwenzi lapamtima, ngati palibe wokhala naye nthawi zonse, ndi njira yabwino. Anthu ambiri amazunzidwa ndi funso limodzi lokha - kodi chiyanjano chawo chidzakhala chotani pankhaniyi ndipo kodi kugwirizana pakati pawo kungawonongeke?

Kugonana ndi bwenzi: ubwino

Chinthu chimodzi chofunika kwambiri cha kugonana ndi abwenzi ndi chophweka komanso kumasuka mu ubale wotere, ngati onse awiriwa akuzindikira kuti chiyanjano chawo sichitsatira chilichonse. Iwo amagona okhaokha ngati atanganidwa ndi izi komanso kuti aliyense azisangalala nazo. Misonkhano yokhudza kugonana imakhala yopanda mavuto, popanda zoletsedwa ndi kupanikizika, popanda kukhala ndi chikondi chilichonse. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, kugonana kwaubwenzi sikuli ngati kugwiritsirana, ndipo ndizokha.

Komanso, kuchokera pa chikhalidwe chogonana, abwenzi ali ndi kusiyana kwakukulu. Choyamba, palibe gawo lopewera, komanso mantha omwe apamtima adzapita momwe akufunira kwa amuna ndi akazi, chifukwa amadziwana bwino. Amamva kuti ndi omasuka komanso ophweka, amatha kuchita chilichonse chimene akufuna, popanda kusamala, kusangalala kapena kudziwonetsera okha bwino kuposa momwe iwo aliri. Ngakhale ngati pali mavuto alionse, abwenziwo akhoza kukhalabe paubwenzi ndipo angakambirane mobwerezabwereza kuyesayesa koyesa kukondana kwambiri.

Komabe, zoterezi ndizotheka kokha pansi pa zikhalidwe zomwe amachitira momasuka komanso moona mtima kwa wina ndi mnzake. Palibe mmodzi wa iwo ayenera kuyembekezera mwachinsinsi kuti chiyanjano chawo pambuyo pa chibwenzi chidzakula kukhala gawo loyandikira. Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi (makamaka akazi) ali, ngakhale ang'ono ndi osadziwa kanthu, chiyembekezo cha chinthu china choyipa kuposa chibwenzi, ndiye kuti atatha kugonana, ubwenzi udzakhala utayika kwamuyaya. Monga momwe ziwerengero zimasonyezera, pambuyo pa ubwenzi wapamtima mwamuna wa chibwenzi chake nthawi zambiri sakhala wokonda kapena, makamaka, mwamuna. Ndipo ngati zili choncho, atatha kugonana, msungwanayo amayesa kudziyerekezera ndi udindo wina, kupatula pa udindo wa bwenzi, munthu akhoza kutaya moyo wake. Ndicho chifukwa chake nkofunika kuti atsikana ndi amayi onse azikumbukira kuti kugonana sikungalepheretse ubwenzi wokhawokha ngati akufuna kukwaniritsa chilakolako cha kugonana, ndipo palibe. Apo ayi, pali chiopsezo chachikulu chochotsera mnzanu basi.

Kugonana ndi bwenzi: cons

Chovuta chachikulu cha kugonana ndi abwenzi ndikuti nthawi zambiri mmodzi wa zibwenzi amayamba kugwirizana kwambiri ndi wina, pang'onopang'ono akubwera ku lingaliro lakuti akufuna chinachake osati kungokhala bwenzi, ndipo ngati cholinga chake kuchokera kwa wina sichiyankhidwe, ndiye akuyamba kukhumudwa kupikisana.

Pakapita nthawi, kusinthanitsa koteroko pambali pa ubwenzi ndi chikondi koposa zonse, kumayambitsa chiyanjano, monga momwe tafotokozera kale, kukangana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti izi zimakhala choncho chifukwa nthawi zambiri zotsatira za kugonana pofuna kukhala pa ubwenzi ndizo.

Wina, kusagwirizana kwenikweni ndi kugonana kwaubwenzi ndizovuta kwambiri pa ubale wam'tsogolo ndi okondedwa awo Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnyamata amadziwa kuti amagona ndi bwenzi lake, ngakhale atasiya kumusiya, Zidzakhalanso nsanje kwa abwenzi ake onse, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi zina zotero. Mofananamo, nkokayikitsa kuti mkazi adzamudalira mwamuna kwathunthu ngati atamva kuti wagona ndi chibwenzi chake chokongola.