Tanthauzo la mawu akuti "munthu wachiwawa" ndi lovuta kufotokoza mu chiganizo chimodzi. Komanso, nkhanza sizingakhale zenizeni, komanso zonyengedwa. Kodi mungathe bwanji kusiyanitsa munthu woopsa kwambiri pakalipano?
Choyamba, tiyeni tiwone chomwe chiri, nkhanza izi ndi mtundu wa munthu yemwe angatchedwe kuti ndi wachiwawa kwenikweni. Kawirikawiri, mawu oti "nkhanza", poyamba amatanthauza nkhanza ndi nkhanza. Koma, mu lexicon yathu, lingaliro ili lapatsidwa mtundu wosiyana. Ngati munthu amatchedwa wankhanza, akhoza kuonedwa kuti ndi wolimba mtima komanso wolimba mtima, koma alibe nkhanza. Kuphatikiza apo, kuzungulira munthu uyu nthawi zonse kuli mlengalenga wa chinsinsi ndi chinsinsi. Amuna achimuna amatha kugonjetsa akazi ndi mphamvu zawo, zolephera komanso chidziwitso chachimuna chimene "anthu oipa" ali nawo okha. Zimandivuta kusiya mwamuna wotero ndipo ndizosatheka kuti iye akane. Ngakhale poyamba angakwiyitse mkazi ndi kunyenga kwake, malingaliro ameneŵa adzasintha ndi nthawi, chifukwa kuuma kwake kudzawoneka ngati wamunthu. Pafupi ndi mnyamata wotere, mkazi aliyense amamva ngati kumbuyo kwa khoma lamwala. Ngakhale, ndithudi, amuna awa samakonda nthawi zonse anthu ena, makamaka makolo ndi ena omwe amaimira kugonana kolimba. Kuumitsa kwawo, kunyansa ndi kusokoneza, kumapangitsa makolo kusamala, ndipo anyamata amakwiya chifukwa cha kaduka. Amadziwika kuti osadziŵa, anyamata okhwima ndi amwano ngati akazi, chifukwa ndi momwe mphamvu imamverera. Ndipo amuna ena amadziwa kuti achinyamata achiwawa ali ndi maudindo ndipo amangowachitira nsanje. Inde, anyamata samavomereza ndi kufotokoza khalidwe lawo podandaula zakumverera kwanu ndi chitetezo, chifukwa chapafupi ndi inu si njonda.
Koma, tiyeni tiwone, kusiyana ndi chiwawa chenichenicho chosiyana ndi chinyengo. Choyamba, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti munthu wonyengerera ndi woopsa kwambiri. Iye nthawizonse, ali ndi kapena kunja, amatulutsa nthabwala zake zowopsya, kuyesa kunyalanyaza ndi kumunyoza winawake. Makamaka, izi zikugwiritsidwa ntchito pa milandu pamene mnyamata ali mu gulu la amuna. Koma, nthawi yomweyo muyenera kupanga malo osungirako ndikudziwa kuti anyamata pafupi naye ayenera kukhala achichepere, okhwima kapena ofooka. Ngati mnyamata woteroyo akuwona kuti mphamvu ya mawu ndi nkhonya siziri pambali pake, kudzikuza konse kumatuluka nthawi yomweyo, ndipo amachitira zinthu mwakachetechete komanso mosavuta. Munthu wotero amangonena zambiri ponena kuti iye ndi maso komanso wotetezeka kwambiri. Ndipo, kwenikweni, ndi anthu osokoneza bongo omwe amathamangira koyamba pamene akuyandikira ndi winawake mumdima wakuda. Komanso, amachitanso chimodzimodzi ngakhale atsikana atayandikira. Pambuyo pake, ndithudi, munthu woteroyo nthawizonse amalankhula zozizwitsa nkhani kuti zidziyese yekha. Ndipo pano zimatengera zenizeni zamalonda ndi chikondi cha mtsikanayo, amamukhulupirira kapena ayi. Komanso, achinyamata achinyamata a mtundu umenewu wa malingaliro ndi khalidwe, akhoza kukhumudwitsa mkazi kapena ngakhale kukweza dzanja lake. Amakhulupirira kuti mwanjira imeneyi amatsimikiza kuti ali ndi mphamvu ndi kukhwima komanso amayesa kuyesa khalidwe lawo pamaso pa ena. Iwo, kwenikweni, alibe mphamvu zokwanira kapena nzeru kuti apeze woyenera woyenera. Koma, amangoyenera kudziwonetsera okha komanso ena kukhala akutha msinkhu komanso chikhalidwe chawo. Amuna achizoloŵezi nthawi zonse amawasiyanitsa anyamata enieni kwenikweni kuchokera kwa ochita masewerawa ndipo samangowasamala, kapena amawabweretsa ku madzi oyera. Koma atsikana ena amakhulupirira ku malo oterowo omwe amachititsa, omwe, nthawi zambiri, zowawa ndi kuzunzika. Izi sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa posankha mnyamata, mkaziyo amayang'ana chitetezo ndi chikondi, ndipo amapeza munthu yemwe sangathe kuchita chirichonse ndipo akutsimikiziridwa ndi kufooka kwake.
Munthu wachiwawa weniweni sangakweze dzanja lake motsutsana ndi mkazi. Kuuma kwake kungawoneke m'machitidwe, mawu, manja, kugonana kwa amuna, koma kuti mwamuna wotere amugwire mkazi ali pansi pa ulemu wake. Munthu wachiwawa weniweni amadziŵa kuti ndiwe wofunika, choncho samadzipangira yekha mwa njira zonse zomwe zingatheke komanso zosatheka. Mwachidule, amachita monga momwe amachitira ndipo amakhalabe momwemo. Kuuma kwake ndi chikhalidwe chake chikuwonetsedwa mwa zovala, magalimoto amene amasankha kuyenda, njira yolankhulira, kuyang'ana, kusunthira. Mnyamata uyu, zonsezi zikuwoneka ndipo zikuwoneka zogwirizana. Iye samayesa kukhala wabwino kapena woipitsitsa kuposa yemwe iye aliri kwenikweni. Amuna achikulire sali odziwa kumva, koma ndi oyandikana nawo oyandikana nawo - alangizi amadziwa za iwo. Mwachidule, chowonadi ndi chakuti amuna achiwawa samayesa kuoneka ngati osowa. Mwachidule, iwo amazoloŵera kuti asatengeke mtima ndi kuchita monga momwe amaonera. Sadzachita chilichonse kutsimikizira mphamvu zawo kwa anthu ena, kaya akhale anyamata kapena atsikana. Achinyamata oterewa amangopanga zosankha zawo ndikuchita mogwirizana.
Tanthauzo la mawu akuti "munthu wachiwawa" ndiloti mawu amodzi amamvetsa mwamuna weniweni yemwe angathe kudziyimira yekha ndi kuteteza iwo amene amamukonda. Ndipo mulole munthu wachiwawa asamakonde aliyense chifukwa cha khalidwe lake lodzitukumula, kudzikweza komanso, nthawi zambiri, wonyansa, anthu apamtima nthawi zonse amadziwa kuti ndi munthu wabwino, amene mungadalire pazochitika zilizonse. Nkhanza zake sizitha, koma kuphatikizapo. Ndipotu, anyamatawa ndi amuna ndi abambo abwino. Mwachidule, pakapita nthawi amakhala anzeru komanso odzisangalatsa, koma mphamvu yaumunthu ndi chisomo amakhalabe nawo kwa moyo.