Posachedwapa, nthumwi za zofooka zochepa zakhala zikuyendera katswiri wa zamaganizo. Funso lodziwika kwambiri lomwe iwo akufunsa ndi lakuti mwamuna wanga anasiya kundifuna, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Anasiya kundikonda?
Kwa kanthawi ankakhulupilira kuti kukana kudzipatulira ku zosangalatsa za kugonana - kumenyana kwenikweni. Ndipo mfundo yakuti kugonana sizingatheke munthu - chinthu chofala kwambiri ndipo simuyenera kuopa. Timalangiza kuti tikambirane zomwe zingayambitse mwamuna kugonana komanso kuthetsa vuto lake.
Okhudzidwa ndi makhalidwe abwino ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi majini
Mwamuna amene adagwidwa ndi mavuto ambiri adzalandira mavuto mu njira yogonana. Amuna atatu pa 100 aliwonse ali ndi chiwerengero cha chibadwa chogonana ndi lamulo lofooka la kugonana ndipo samagonana. Mavuto ngati amenewa angakhalepo chifukwa cholepheretsa kugonana kwa mwanayo, chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kwambiri. Zimakhalanso kuti mwana amakula mu chikhalidwe chogonana. Zonsezi zimakhudzanso chitukuko chake cha kugonana. Amuna amenewa amatha kukwatira, koma nthawi zonse amakumana ndi zovuta pochita ndi akazi, m'maganizo komanso m'thupi.
Pali njira imodzi yokha yotuluka: simungathe kuthetsa mavuto amenewa nokha, tsatirani kulumikizidwa kwa madokotala odziwa ntchito, monga wodwala kugonana kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo. Mkazi ayenera kuthandiza mu nkhaniyi ndi kumuthandiza wokondedwa wake.
Kalasi yapamwamba neurosis
Kugonana kumakhudzidwa ndi zinthu zambiri. Ndi nimotnosyatsya: zochitika nthawi zonse m'madera osiyanasiyana a moyo wawo, nkhawa zokhudza chirichonse chomwe chidzayenda bwino komanso ngati padzakhala zolakwika, komanso maganizo oipa a ena. Pamaso pa katundu wotere ndi kovuta kuti mumane.
Chotsatira: kuthetsani zomwe zimayambitsa vutoli.
Zovuta zimabwera nthawi ndi nthawi
Kawirikawiri zimachitika kuti kusowa kwa chikhumbo kumagwirizanitsidwa ndi kugonjetsedwa. Mwamuna amatsogolera mphamvu zake zogonana mu njira ina. Kusiyanasiyana kwa matenda a neurosis ndiko kuti apa munthu sakhala ndi maganizo olakwika. Zitsanzo za zochitika zoterezi: maonekedwe a ola limodzi, ntchito yowonetseratu, mwayi wokwaniritsa mimba, mwachitsanzo, kumanga nyumba yanu.
Zotsatira: mutatha ntchito yanu, idzakhala malo ake omwe.
Zaka
Si chinsinsi kwa aliyense yemwe ali ndi msinkhu, mwamuna amavutika kwambiri kutumiza lamulo lachiwerewere. Ngati panthawiyi, wokondedwayo adzafuna zambiri kuchokera kwa munthuyo kusiyana ndi momwe angamupatsire, akhoza kukhala ndi maofesi, ndipo munthuyo adzachita zonse kuti asagonana.
Kuchokera: mkaziyo ayenera kulingalira momwe zinthu zilili. Kutsutsidwa, kumalira nthawizonse, sikungasinthe mkhalidwewo. Ngati mwamuna wanu wachikulire, kambiranani naye vuto ili ndikupeza yankho loti mumuyandikire.
Vuto m'banja. Zilakolako zosayenera za kugonana
Ngati mwamuna wasiya kukhala womasuka ndi mkazi wake, ali ndi vuto. Amabwezeretsanso miyambo yambiri yofunikira, kugonana kwa neugustrachivaet kuwala kwake ndi kudzidzimutsa, palibe chilichonse chatsopano, kupatulapo malo omwewo sichimasintha, zambiri zamaganizo sizinakwaniritsidwe ndipo kugonana kumakhala kosavuta.
Kutuluka: Kulankhulana nthawi zonse ndi munthu. Mukuganiza kuti mumadziwa zonse za iye, ndipo mukhoza kulingalira zofuna zake, koma izi siziri choncho.
Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti sangathe kufooka ndikudandaula za mavuto awo. Komabe, ndizofunikira kumvetsa kuti bata sichikwanira chabwino, ndipo izi zidzetsa kuwonongedwa kwa mgwirizano umodzi womwewo.
Kambiranani ndi munthuyo za zomwe angafune kusintha pamoyo wake, zomwe amakonda komanso zosangalatsa. Khala kwa iye bwenzi lokhulupirika ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, yemwe angathe kupirira mavuto ake onse. Dziwani kuti sakukhalanso wosangalala ndikuchitapo kanthu.
Nkhanza
Zizindikiro zazikulu zomwe zimayankhula zokhudzana ndi kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu zingapangidwe kukhumudwa kwa munthu wanu, kupeĊµa kukambirana momveka bwino ndi kusafuna kutsatira zokhumba zanu.
Tulukani: ngati mukuwopa kuti mukumane ndi choonadi, yesetsani kuyankhulana ndi munthu. Yesani kuzindikira vuto. Mwinamwake ubale watsopano, uku ndikuyesera kuthawa mavuto. Ndipo mwinamwake chikondi chatsopano. Kodi akuyesera chiyani, ndipo akufuna kuti abwere? Kupitiliza pa izi, zitsimikizani kuti mupitirize kukwatirana kapena kuti muwononge chiwonongeko chake.