Pali otsutsa ambiri omwe amadzipereka mwaufulu malinga ndi chiwerengero, popeza mkazi yemwe sakufuna kukhala ndi ana amaoneka ngati ifeyo kukhala odzikonda, kumangoganizira chabe chilakolako chokhala ndi moyo wopanda pake. Kodi izi ndi zoona? Nchifukwa chiyani mabanja ena amachitira mwakhama kuteteza malo awo opanda ana? Ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani muyenera kuteteza otsutsa, osati kungokhala moyo wanu kuti musangalatse khalidwe lanu loipa?
Ndipo kodi mukudziwa kuti malingana ndi tanthauzo la anthu osakhala ndi ana, anthu omwe abereka ana ndipo akupepesa za izi angathenso kutchedwa? Kodi ali ochepa kwambiri pakati pathu? Tsoka, ndithudi. Kotero sizinali bwino kuti mudzidziwe nokha pasadakhale ndi kuyesa kutenga udindo wa makolo, ngati simunakonzekere mkati, kusiyana ndiyeno kuchotsa mkwiyo wanu pa mwana yemwe alibe vuto? Ili ndi funso lopweteka, ndi ochepa okha omwe ali ndi mphamvu kuti avomereze okha kuti iwo anafulumizitsa ndi kubadwa kwa oloŵa nyumba, kuti ine ndikanakonda kukhala "ndekha", koma tsopano sindingathe.
Mfundo zazikulu za mafilimu a chailfree
- Kubereka ana amavomereza ana, amavomerezedwa, osati choyipa kuposa chisankho chofuna kukhala ndi mwana. Winawake akufuna, ena samatero. Aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosankha.
- Azimayi (ndi amuna) osasankha ana amapanga chisankho chosowa ana, pogwiritsa ntchito zifukwa zingapo. Zofuna ndi chuma zakuthupi zimathandizanso kwambiri, koma sizofunikira. Malinga ndi ena, kuti asabereke ndi okhulupilika kwambiri kuposa nkhuku, osakhala ndi ndalama zoyenera zowonjezera zakudya, masewero, mapangidwe a zosangalatsa ndi malipiro a maphunziro a mwana wanu.
- Childfree (mosiyana ndi zikhulupiriro zambiri zokhudzana ndi iwo) sakhala ndi nkhanza kwa ana a anthu ena. Amayankhula mwachangu ndi apabanja ang'onoang'ono, ali ndi ana m'mabanja a abwenzi, koma sakufuna kubereka mwana wawo. Pambuyo pake, kukonda chinachake mwamtheradi sikukutanthawuza kupeza "chinthu" ichi.
- Nthawi zina, chifukwa cha kulankhulana ndi ana ena, amai amasankha kuti asakhale ndi ana awo. Mwachitsanzo, aphunzitsi kapena aphunzitsi.
- Childfree amakana zotsutsa za kudzikonda kwake, chifukwa amakhala ndi mwayi wosamalira wokondedwa wawo kapena zinyama. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, n'zotheka kulingalira lingaliro la "kudzikonda" m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, anthu omwe ali ndi ana ndiwo makamaka egoists - amachita molingana ndi zilakolako zawo ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Chifukwa chiyani Childfree alibe ichi?
- Chilakolako cha kubala mwana sizomwe "kusagwira ntchito m'thupi", chizindikiro cha "kuchepa" kwa mtundu wa anthu kapena chizindikiro chachikazi chochepa. Uku ndiko kupusa. Anthu amangochita zinthu mogwirizana ndi zofuna zawo.
- Azimayi ena chajldfri amawopsyeza kukongola, kukongola ndi kukongola kwa kugonana, chifukwa cha mimba ndi kubala. Mavuto ndi msana, asinthidwa kukhala osadziwika kwa formazhodi ndipo adawoneka olemera kwambiri - izi si zomwe akufuna kuti apite pamoyo.
- Ena mwa ana osayamika samangoganiza za dziko lozungulira kwambiri, kupatsa moyo "chisokonezo" ichi kwa munthu mmodzi. Palibe amene angatsimikizire kuti mwanayo adzakhala ndi moyo wokhutira ndi wachimwemwe pambuyo pake. Ndipo ngati dziko liri lokhwima, mavuto azachuma ndi osakhazikika, kuzungulira kosatsimikizika ndi kusagwirizana - zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kukhala mwana wokondwa.
- Childfrigomogut kulima ndi malo awa: dziko lathu lapansi ndilolopambana kwambiri, bwanji ilo liri anthube? Ndipo kotero chilengedwe chakhala chikuphulika kale. Izi zikutanthauza kuti palibenso kudzikonda, koma mosiyana ndi dziko lonse lapansi.
- Moyo ndi wokongola, wambiri komanso wosangalatsa. Kukhala ndi mwana ndi umodzi chabe mwa mitunduyi mu pulogalamuyi, koma osati maziko a moyo - kotero muwerenge chillyfri. Nthawi ndi nthawi yokwanira kuti munthu atumize, kuyenda, mwamuna ndi zofuna zake, ndipo nthawi zina mwanayo akhoza kuwonjezera vutoli.
- Childfricheschitayut kuti ufulu wawo nthawi zonse umaphwanyidwa ndi chidwi chokwanira cha kunja kwa "vuto" la kusowa kwawo kwa ana. Nthawi zina ngakhale zovuta za boma zimamveka. Ndipo ngati mungathe kugwirizana ndi achibale anu, simungathe kuika pakamwa panu, kunena. Apa palinso kofunika kumvetsera chitonzo chilichonse: "Mukukambirana ndi ana ati?", "Udzakhala liti wolowa nyumba?". Kusokoneza kumeneku mwachinsinsi, ndi otsutsa njira iyi akhoza kumvetsetsedwa bwino. Aliyense amasankha yekha momwe ayenera kukhalira.
- Inde, pazinthu zambirizi, ngati mukufuna, mukhoza kupeza zotsutsana zambiri. Komabe, kungakhale kupanda chilungamo kuti tisayime udindo wa mbali inayo - anthu omwe akufuna kapena kukhala ndi ana. Alipo ambiri mdziko lathu. Ndipo apa pali kusiyana kwawo.
Ambiri amanena kuti chayldfri
- Amafalitsa ana, amapanga midzi, magulu ndi mabungwe. Musafuule kwa dziko lonse lapansi kuti simukufuna kukhala ndi ana. Sitifuna_musati, koma palibe chifukwa chokhazikitsa izi m'malemba omveka, omveka.
- Nthawi zambiri amakhala osasokonezeka maganizo ndi ana a anthu ena - m'malo ammudzi, poyenda, mu cafe. Ana okhawo amakhumudwitsa ena chayldfri.Eto sichivomerezeka, maganizo awo amafunika kuti athetse.
- Childfrryavlyayut nechutkost ngakhale potsutsana ndi alongo awo, abale ndi abwenzi awo omwe amatchulidwa koyamba za ana awo. Iwo sangakhoze kuzindikira ana ngati gawo la moyo (ngakhale osati awo). Iwo amakana ngakhale kungokhala ndi mwanayo, awone zithunzi zawo, zomwe zimakhumudwitsa kwambiri makolo awo achikondi.
- Ambiri mwachangu kwambiri omwe amasonyeza bwino kwambiri maganizo a nthawi yaitali. Mwachitsanzo, kulemera kwapakhomo kumayambiriro aunyamata, kusowa chikondi kwathunthu kapena zowawa zina. Anthu awa samadziwa kukonda ena kapena iwo okha.
- Chifukwa cha omvera, chiwerengero cha mimba chimakula. Ngati okwatirana sakufuna kukhala ndi ana, ndipo kusamalidwa kumalephera, mkaziyo amachotsa mimba. Palinso kusiyana pakati pa malo omwe alibe ana ndi mfundo zina zachipembedzo.
- Chithunzi cha mwana wa mayi wamng'ono ngati mkazi wandiweyani, wokonzekera, wopusa, atagwira Vuma kokha ndi nsapato. Childfri amagwira ntchito ndi "nkhani zochititsa manyazi" za umoyo, zokopa ndi moyo wotsatira wa kugonana kwa mayi amene akubereka mkazi.
- Childfriyslishkom amatsutsana kwambiri ndi ubwino wa amayi ndi ntchito (kuwonetsera izo zonse kuti moyo ukhale wopambana). Kuphatikizidwa kubadwa kwa mwana kumangokhalira kutaya chidziwitso, maluso ndi chiyembekezo chofuna kupeza ntchito yabwino pambuyo pa tchuthi lapadera.
Inde, malingaliro onsewa ali ndi ufulu wokhalapo. Tsopano popeza mwaphunzira zambiri zamatsenga ndi otsutsa awo, mukhoza kumvetsa bwino kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu ndi kusapereka, osatulutsa malemba ndipo musaiwale kuti aliyense ali mfulu kuti akhale moyo wake monga momwe akufunira. Ndipo pamene izo zikutembenukira.