Moyo, kunyumba, ntchito, ana, mavuto, matenda ... Zonsezi zimakulepheretsani kupeza chimwemwe chokwanira kuchokera ku zomwe, makamaka cholinga, maanja apangidwa. Kugonana kumakhala chopunthwitsa, za mabanja ambiri osangalala ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu zathyoledwa. "Kodi mungakonde bwanji kugonana ndi mwamuna wake?" - Dzifunseni akazi. "Kodi mukusowa izi?" - omwe sakugonana akuzunzidwa ... Vuto la kugonana m'banja
Chilengedwe chimakonzedwa kotero kuti tipeze kukongola kwambiri kwa wina ndi mzake kokha kwa nthawi inayake. Monga momwe asayansi amasonyezera, kupititsa kwa zinthu zoyenera zomwe zimayambitsa chisangalalo ndi kuledzera, ena amasiya miyezi itatu atakumana, patatha zaka zitatu zokha. Koma posachedwa nthawi ino ikubwera. Ndiyeno amayi, omwe kawirikawiri amadalira kwambiri kugonana, ayambe kudzifunsa okha: momwe mungadzisankhire nokha ndi kugonana ndi mwamuna wanu, mungapeze bwanji maganizo okhudzana ndi kugonana?
Thupi lathuMwachibadwa, zimadalira kwambiri thupi la thupi. Pambuyo pake, ndi bondo lopweteka kapena kukhala nkhani m'misewu (ndipo panthawi yomweyi ndi mutu wa zolemba zambiri), kumutu kumakhala kovuta kumva chinachake kupatula ululu. Sikuti kukopa -kumverera ndibodza komanso kosavuta, koma simungamvepo fungo lapadera la zopsereza! Kotero, ngati thupi likugwira kale ntchito "kunja kwa mphamvu yotsiriza," ndiye ndi mtundu wanji wa kugonana (umene uli chibadwa cha kubereka) tikhoza kukambirana nawo? Thupi likuyesera kuthawa, ndikumva kupanikizika kosafunikira kwa iye kulikonse!
Choncho, yesetsani kuti musadzisokoneze nokha, kuyesa kukondweretsa kugonana ndi mwamuna wake - komabe izo zidzakhala zowawa kwambiri, monga ndi mkazi wozizira. Mkazi wowawa chifukwa cholakalaka - ali ndi chinachake choti asonyeze, amatha "kuwonetsa" m'chikhumbo chake pamaso pa wokondedwa wake.
Choncho, musanafike nthawi yaulere, yomwe mukufuna kudzipereka kwa mwamuna wanu ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, nokha, kugonana:
- Palibe nthawi yoposa ola limodzi, koma musadye njala (pangozi yotaya mwachangu mumtendere pakati pa oohs ndikusuula "maulendo a njala");
- Osamwa zakumwa za diuretiki (kwa iwo, mwachidziwitso, zimakhala ndi zokondedwa ndi tiyi wambiri wobiriwira), pewani zamadzimadzi (zosasangalatsa kwambiri zomwe zimasokonezedwa ndi mphindi yachikondi paulendo wa chimbudzi);
- Onetsetsani kuti (mvetserani nokha, popeza madotolo kuchipatala mwakachetechete "amaundana") kuti mumamva bwino.
"Chotsani ana pawindo!"
Chotsatira, osati nthawi yochepera - maganizo. Tsoka, psyche yathu imakonzedwa kotero kuti zochitika za kugonana pakhomo kapena chiopsezo chogwidwa ndi amayi omwe timachita nthawi. Kwa ena, ndithudi, ndipo mutatha kufuna zosangalatsa, koma mulimonsemo, ana athu sali ndi zovuta zathu. Choncho, ngati pangakhale chiopsezo kuti mwanayo abwerere ku sukulu mwamsanga, ndi bwino kubwezeretsa kugonana mpaka Loweruka, pamene (malinga ndi mwambo) musatumize ana kuti akachezere agogo anu. Ndipotu, m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, pamene mkazi samva bata ndi kutetezedwa, zimakhala zovuta kuyesera kuti achite zinazake ndi kugonana ndi mwamuna wake.
Zosintha Nthawi
"Kodi tili ndi chiyani mu nthawi? Kugonana? "
Zingakhale zogwiritsidwa ntchito poyimbira ponena za mkazi wosasangalatsa kapena chithunzithunzi cha filimu ya mtundu "X X". Koma m'moyo weniweni kuti adzikonzekerere kugonana ndi mwamuna wake, pamene kwa iye muli ndondomeko khumi ndi zisanu, sizingatheke. Mzimayi amagwiritsidwa ntchito kapena mwinamwake mwalakwitsa pamene ali mwamwano komanso mosadzimva "atakanikizidwa" nthawi yomweyo. Monga ngati anali mkulu wa odyera ndikuyenera kukwaniritsa dongosolo la wina.
Buku liyenera kulamulidwa ndi mkazi - ngakhale amanena kuti mfundo yaikulu pa kugonana imadalira amuna. Inde, patapita nthawi, libido ya mwamuna wake imachotsedwa (makamaka poyerekeza ndi nthawi ya achinyamata osokonezeka). Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuyang'ana m'maso ndi "kugwira" omwe amawakonda maminiti 2-5 pamene akufuna.
"Mphindi khumi, kuthawa kwathunthu!"
Mayi wamba ndi ovuta kugonana. Ngati chilakolako cha munthu chimatha, zambiri zogonana, monga lamulo, zimasiya. Ndipo mwina angafune nthawi ina, ndipo pakapita mphindi zingapo amakayi ake amanyansidwa. Ndipo tsopano akusintha malingaliro, ndipo kachiwiri ndi zabwino ... Kodi mungadziteteze bwanji kugonana ndi mwamuna wanu nthawi zonse mukamafuna chinachake, ndiye simukuzikonda?
Muyenera kulankhula. Muyenera kufotokoza ndi kufulumizitsa. Nthawi yoyamba, pamene muzindikira kuti ndiwe-mkango wamphamvu, tigulu, nyama. Inu mumapeza zanu, ndi theka-miyeso (chabwino, ine ndikuyimira inu, wokondedwa, chifukwa mwinamwake inu mukonzekera ine) - ndizolakwika. Kuchulukitsa ndi chinthu chosatha, ichi ndi chomwe chimakhutiritsa (odyetsa amamva njala). Ndipo ndi njala yanji yoyamba yomwe ingakhalepo, ngati mumakonda "kulekerera", mukuganiza kuti ndi nthawi yopenta denga?
Mutu waukulu wa mkazi ali pabediM'madera ambiri, mkazi ali ndi ufulu wokhala wabwino, wokoma mtima, womvetsa chisoni komanso wachifundo. Malingana ndi wolemba wina, "akhoza kutsanulira mkaka." Koma kugonana - ili ndi gawo lomwe ndilo nthawi yodzikongoletsera mabokosi opangira zida, kukula mano ndi mitsempha. Ndipo ndi kugonana, chilankhulo cha mkazi ndi kusankha mawu amphindi "Tengani!"
Chiyankhulo cha Chirasha, ndithudi, chimapangitsa chisokonezo. "Perekani", "patsani", ndipo ngakhale ovuta kwambiri - "davalka." Koma izi siziri choncho! Amuna amakonda kwambiri zomwe amapeza. Kotero, ndi nthawi yoti mutenge. Ndipo mwamsanga mukangodziwa zomwe ziri "kwa inu", ndipo mukungofunika kubwera ndi kutenga - kugonana kumakhala chimwemwe. Ngakhale osakonzekera. Ngakhale zachilendo. Mwina zosayenera kapena zonyansa. Ndipo simukuyenera kusintha. Idzakhala nthawi yokwanira kuti mudziwe zomwe mukufuna lero