Akatswiri a zaumulungu ndi akatswiri a maganizo amaganizira deta malinga ndi zomwe khumi ndi awiri okha mwa mabanja omwe chiyanjano chawo chimachokera pa chilakolako chiri ndi mwayi wopeza banja lolimba. Chikoka champhamvu kwambiri cha kugonana ndi chilakolako, chimene chinawonekera kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi kapena msonkhano, chidzachepa pang'onopang'ono. Pambuyo pa zonse, ubale uyenera kuthandizidwa osati ndi caresses wokondana, komanso mwa kukambirana, kuyenda, ndi chidziwitso cha "maganizo". Izi zimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi theka lachikazi. Choncho, atsikana ambiri amafuna kubwezeretsa nthawi yoyamba ndi mnzawo kwa nthawi yaitali.
Zoonadi, kukana kugonana kwachinyamata kungakhumudwitse achinyamata. Makamaka ngati iye akukhazikitsidwa yekha pa izi. Kenaka ubalewo umakhala wolakwika. Koma mu chibwenzi chokhazikitsidwa ndi chiyanjano, nayenso, posachedwa funso lidzayamba pamene chibwenzi chidzachitika.
Msungwana angagwiritse ntchito zochitika zapakati pake ndikuwombera chiyambi cha kugonana ndi mnzanu watsopano kwa kanthawi. Choncho, kuti musayambe kukondana kwambiri, ndi bwino kukumana poyamba osati kunyumba kapena ndi mnyamata, koma m'malo ammudzi. Makamaka ngati mumakonda madzulo.
Koma kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano ndi bwenzi lake, ndibwino kuika masana. Pambuyo pazimenezo, pamene inu, mwachitsanzo, mugona kutsogolo kwa malo ozimitsira moto, omwe muli ndi bulangete limodzi, ndipo musanakhale ndi botolo la champagne ndi zipatso, amuna amawona ngati chizindikiro chotseguka kwa zochitika zogonana zogwira mtima. Musalole "zochitika" zoterezi mu magawo oyambirira a chibwenzi ndi zina zambiri mpaka mutasankha kuti mwakonzeka kugonana. Musabweretse munthu wanu kunyumba kwanu ndipo musapite kwa iye.
Mulole kuti abwere kwa iwe ndipo iwe upita kumalo ena ambiri kapena mabungwe a boma. Chikondi mu ubale sichingachitike popanda kupsyopsyona. Koma kusuntha kwa milomo imeneyi ndi kugonana kwambiri komanso zamaganizo. Chifukwa chake, amatsogolera kwambiri pa zokondweretsa anzawo. Atsikana sayenera kuyamba kumpsompsona pamene mulibe malo omwe angakulepheretseni, kuti ubale ufike patali kwambiri. Musati mupsompsone mukakhala pakhomo ndi mnyamata wanu. Komanso, musalole mwamuna kapena mnyamata kutenga nawo mbali ndikukupsompsona mukakhala nokha ndi iye.
Nthawi zina amuna omwe amafuna kugonana mwamsanga ndi mtsikana angathe kusintha mwadala zinthu zosiyanasiyana zokopa. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, patatha masiku angapo, inu mubwereranso kunyumba, ndipo nthawi yayandikira pakati pausiku. Ngati wachinyamata wanu akuwonetsa kapu, mukhoza kuona kuti izi ndizoitanira kugonana. Ngati simunakonzekere chiyanjano chotero, musamangokhalira kukambirana ndi zokambiranazi. Kuyankhula bwino kumakhala pakhomo la khomo, kumaliza msonkhano ndi kupsompsona pang'ono. Pankhaniyi, onetsetsani kuti mumathokoza mnyamata wanu madzulo. Kumbukirani kuti ngakhale mutamuitana chibwenzi chanu usiku "kwa kanthawi kochepa", ndiye kuti padzakhala kuyesayesa kukondana naye.
Kuitanidwa koteroko kumatengedwa ndi mwamuna wamwamuna komanso chizindikiro cha kuchitapo kanthu. Kuti musalowe pachiyambi pa nkhani ya kugonana, nthabwala zambiri, kuseka nkhani zomwe zanenedwa ndipo mwachizolowezi zimayesetsanso kukhala mabwenzi. Cholinga cha msungwana aliyense ayenera kukhala kuti mnyamata amakuwonani ngati bwenzi, osati wokonda chabe. Mukhoza kumvetsa kuti muli pa njira yoyenera, ngati muwona kuti mnyamatayo nthawi zambiri amakuuzani za iye mwini. Amuna amadziulula okha kwathunthu okha kwa akazi omwe amawakonda. Zikatero, mkazi akhoza kutengeka, koma musayambe kukonda kwambiri.
Muyeneranso kukhala osamala ndi nthabwala pa nkhani yogonana. Uthabwala woterewu kawirikawiri ulibe tanthauzo kapena tanthauzo losabisika. Kawirikawiri abambo amagwiritsa ntchito nthabwala zoterezo kuti aone, motero, pansi pansi. Musakhale okhudzidwa ndi nthabwala iliyonse, koma mudziwe momwe mungayankhire kuti ziwonekere kwa munthu kuti simunakonzekere kugonana tsopano.
Mwachibadwa, lingaliro limeneli liyeneranso kubweretsedwa kwa iye ndi chisangalalo. Kawirikawiri, musamangoganizira za kugonana, ndi bwino kumasulira zokambiranazo kukhala mutu wina. Ngati bwenzi lanu ali ndi galimoto, musamapitirire zomwe zimaloledwa ndikukhalamo. Musalole mwamuna kuti awononge zovala zanu kapena kuchotsa kwa inu. Ngati zina mwazochitika, zidzakhala zovuta kusiya. Kuti mutanthauzire ubalewo mu njira yowonjezereka, nthawi zambiri muuzeni mnyamata wanu zoyamikira. Chikhumbo choyandikira kwa munthu chingatsimikizidwe osati ndi zochita zokha, komanso ndi mawu. Uzani munthuyo kuti ndi wofunikira kwa inu ndipo amatanthauza zambiri. Amuna onse amasangalala pamene msungwana, ngati kuti mwadzidzidzi, koma mozama komanso mwachimwemwe amapuma fungo la madzi a chimbudzi panthawi yopuma. Komanso pamsonkhano, muuzeni munthuyo kuti akuwoneka bwino. Kotero inu mumamuwonetsa munthuyo kuti kuyembekezera kwanu ndi kuwona khalidwe sikumayenera kuti asamamukondere iye, koma iye ndi wokondweretsa kwa inu ngati mnzanu. Ngati ndi kovuta kuti muteteze malingaliro anu, ndiye kuti mungathe kuwasonyeza. Komabe, ziyenera kuchitidwa pagulu kapena m'malo ammudzi. Popeza kuti zina mwazimenezi sizingatheke. Atsikana ambiri, atayambitsa chiyanjano cholimba ndi mnyamata watsopano, ngati kuti asanakhazikitse nthawi yawo.
Musamuuze mnyamatayo za kufunika kuyembekezera mwezi umodzi kapena awiri. Ndipo musamapereke nthawi yeniyeni. Izi siziri zoyenera konse. Muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti palibe amene akuyenera kulowa mu ubale wapamtima nkomwe. Izi ziyenera kuchitika kokha pamene mukuwona kuti ndizofunikira. Mphindi yoteroyo iyenera kutsimikiziridwa kokha ndi chikhumbo chanu ndi chikhumbo chanu. Koma musatenge malo otetezeka, ngati munthu ali wokondwa komanso wakukondani. Onetsani zochita zanu kuti mumakhudzidwa ndi munthu komanso mumve naye. Izi zingatheke ndi manja osavuta. Mwachitsanzo, sungani mutu wanu paphewa, mutenge dzanja la mnyamatayo. Izi zidzamuthandiza kumva mphamvu yake yamwamuna. Atsikana sayenera kukhulupirira ziganizo za amuna omwe mumangokhala pobinimaetes. Kawirikawiri kumayambira kumeneku, mahomoni amphongo amadzimva okha ndipo mumatha kutali kwambiri. Yang'anani zochita zanu ndipo musamupatse mnyamata ngakhale zizindikiro zosasangalatsa kapena zosangalatsa. Amunthu amaganiza mosiyana. Ndipo ngakhale kuyang'ana kwanu kosalakwa amatha kuvomereza kuti akufuna kugonana.
Theka lachimuna laumunthu limakonzedwera mwanjira yoti msungwanayo agwiritse ntchito zogonana aziwonetsedwa kale m'masiku oyambirira. Komabe, ngakhale izi, anyamata ndi amuna ambiri m'mitima yawo amafuna kuti amayi azichepetsanso chiyambi cha ubwenzi wawo wonse. Kotero iwo amamva kuti pamaso pawo mtsikana kapena mkazi wapadera. Zambiri kuposa kugonana, amuna akufuna kuti muwapeze iwo amatsenga, oseketsa ndi oyambirira. Munthu aliyense amalota kukomana ndi "mulungu wake". Ndipo amayi omwe ali ndi ndondomeko yotero sangathe kuleka msanga komanso mosavuta. Iyenera kupambana. Kotero apatseni amuna mwayi uwu.