Zindikirani kuti amayi omwe adachita mantha kuti azindikire maloto ogonana ndi okondedwa awiri, samangodandaula, koma amafunanso kubwereza. Zomwe zimakhala zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa kwambiri ndizokumverera, kusiya zomwe sizili zophweka. Kugonana katatu kumayambitsa mchitidwe wamantha! Koma ndi chiyani chapadera ponena za zamkhutu? Nchifukwa chiyani iye akulamulidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro a akazi, ngakhale amanyazi ndi makhalidwe abwino? Chowonadi n'chakuti pa kugonana kosasokonezeka (zomwe ndi zofunika kwambiri) zothandizana nazo, mkaziyo amakhala ndi chikondi ndi chidwi ndi abwenzi angapo panthawi imodzi. Amafunidwa kuchokera kumbali zonse, akuyang'aniridwa ndi kuyembekezera chidziwitso chake chomwe chimabweretsa mphamvu ndi mphamvu. Kuchokera kunja kumawoneka ngati kugonana kosalekeza, kosalekeza, kugonana.
Ndi chizolowezi chogonana, pamene wokonda mkazi ali yekha, atatha kugonana, pause amatengedwa kuti abwezeretse mphamvu ndi chikhumbo. Mkazi yemwe wakhala akuwotcha ndi kulakalaka kupitiriza, akukakamizidwa kuti aphonye ndi kubisa zokhumudwitsa zake. Izi sizichitika ngati pali zibwenzi zambiri. Ndikofunikira kuti titsirizitse imodzi, monga yachiwiri kuchokera pa kulingalira za zomwe zikuchitika kuchokera kumbaliyo ndi zosangalatsa. Kotero, mkazi nthawi zonse amamva kukhudzidwa kwachikondi kwa thupi lake, manja ndi milomo, zomwe zimamufuna iye, ndi mkati mwake, ulemu wamwamuna umakhala wolakalaka ndi chilakolako. Oyenera makamaka kwa iwo amene apereka chilengedwe mphamvu ya libido. Kwa iwo, zochita ndi amuna awiri nthawi zonse zidzakhala zosasokoneza mtsinje wa zosangalatsa zakuthupi ndi ziphuphu zambiri.
Chifukwa chiyani "Ndikufuna" sizikutanthauza "Ndikhoza"
Ngakhale uzhenshchina pali lingaliro la kugonana ndi amuna awiri kamodzi, sikuti aliyense angakhoze kungolilankhula, osati chinthu chomwe chimayendetsedwa. Nchiyani chikukutsani inu? Choyamba, mkaziyo ali ndi nkhawa ndi zomwe abwenzi ake omwe akuchita nthawi zonse amachita molimbika. Zosokoneza: pafupifupi amuna onse amakhulupirira kuti kugonana ndi kovuta, pamene ali pabedi iye ndi atsikana ena awiri. Koma yesetsani kupereka zofanana zokhudzana ndi kugonana, koma ndi mnzanu wina pambali payekha. Zotsatirazo zidzakhala, mofulumira kwambiri, ndizolakwika. Mwamuna akhoza kuganiza kuti ndiwe wodetsedwa, kapena woipa kwambiri.Zidzakhala zokayikira kuti zovuta zonse, zidzasokonezeka podziwa kuti iwe, mwinamwake, udzakwaniritsa maloto anu popanda ... Izi ndizo zomwe amai ambiri amaopa-kuziyika zomwe zilipo osati m'chikhalidwe chonse).
Chifukwa chachiwiri chokhalira osakonzekera kuchoka ku malingaliro kuti azichita ndi malingaliro a pagulu ndi maphunziro achipembedzo. Ichi ndichitetezo cholimba pa njira yokwaniritsira zofunikila (osati zolembera zokha). Zikuwonekera kwa mkazi kuti chinachake chalakwika ndi iye, ngati akuganiza za zinthu zotsika. Makamaka ngati ali mkazi wabwino komanso mayi wachikondi. Akazi amayamba kudzigonjetsa okha m'malingaliro amalingaliro, ndipo ena (izi ndi zoona) amakhala pansi pa zowonongeka zamphamvu, poganiza kuti ali ndi mantha osakhalitsa.
Chilichonse chidzakhala chosavuta, ngati tavomereza zoonekeratu: zozizwitsa zoterozo ndizochitika zachilendo kwa mkazi. Mu chilengedwe, ndi mkazi yemwe amasankha wokondedwa kuchokera kwa oimira angapo, ndipo ndi bizinesi yake yeniyeni. Pa bedi la chikondi, chikondi, chifundo, mkazi amafunikira zambiri kuposa munthu. Ndipo ndi wokondedwa mmodzi, sizingatheke kuti tipeze chofunika. Kotero simukusowa kuti muwoneke ngati maso a munthu ali raspy. Zonsezi ndi zachibadwa komanso zachilengedwe. Kuyesa kukambirana ndi mnzanu nthawi zonse - mwadzidzidzi adzatenga dongosolo lanu ndi chidwi. Ngati akukonda ndikukuyamikirani, ndiye kuti mumayenera kulandira kwathunthu ndi zokhumba zanu zogonana.
Momwe mungapangire malingaliro akukwaniritsidwa
Inde, munthu wosadziŵa zambiri adzakondwera kukumana ndi lingaliro loitana mnzake wachiwiri kuti akweze bedi. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kungoiwala za chikhumbo chanu. Ayi, ndi bwino kuyandikira kukhazikitsidwa kwake moyenera monga momwe zingathere, musangomveketsa mwamsanga kuti: "Ndikumvetsera, ndikubweza, ndikubweretsa gawo lachitatu." Choyamba, kambiranani ndi mnzanuyo, fufuzani kuti ndi zofunikira bwanji kwa iye. Ngati oyamba atchulidwa wokondedwayo amanyansidwa ndizinyoza ndipo akunena kuti "ayi" - musataye mtima. Awa si mapeto. Awonetseke ngati mutu watsekedwa, amati, mumamvetsa chilichonse, mumachikonda ndikuyamikira maganizo ake. Pambuyo pake, pakapita kanthawi, yesetsani kumuitanira kuti ayang'ane filimu yokhudzana ndi kugonana pagulu la kugonana, penyani zomwe anachita. Ngati filimuyi ikuwombera molingana, moyenera komanso mwabwino, ikhoza kudutsa aliyense. Mudzawona kuti ngakhale pang'ono - ndipo wokondedwa amene ndimamuona kuti ndizongomveka bwino. Choncho chitani choyamba m'manja mwanu. Koma chitani mwapadera.
Kotero, tiyeni tiwone kuti wokondedwa wanu wamuyaya adagwirizana. Ndani ayenera kutenga lachitatu? Akatswiri amalangiza kuitana munthu kuchokera kwa abwenzi omwe ali nawo - izi mtsogolomu zidzakhala ndi mavuto ambiri mu chiyanjano. Nsanje sidzapewa. Ngati mulibe mnzanu weniweni, palibe vuto. Chilichonse chiri chophweka kwambiri, palibe amene akuyenera kukhala wotsimikizika ndi wokakamizidwa. Kulankhulana kwachidziwitso pakadali pano kulibwino. Koma chikhumbo cha amuna osankhidwa ayenera kukhala, ndithudi, chiyanjano.
Kodi izi zimawoneka motani? Pali zinthu zitatu zomwe zimayambitsa kugonana ndi amuna awiri nthawi imodzi. Chofala kwambiri ndi pamene mkazi amachita chiopsezo kwa mmodzi mwa zibwenzi, ndipo winayo amamuvutitsa, akubwera pambuyo pake. Ndiye amunawo amasintha malo. Vuto lachiwiri - mmodzi wa abambo amalowa mwachinyamata, ndipo iye, atagona kumbuyo, pakali pano amapanga mphuno yachiwiri. Chotsatira chachitatu si choyenera kwa aliyense, koma chimasiyana ndi mphamvu yodabwitsa ya zokondweretsa zakuthupi. Mzimayi amauza munthu wina yemwe ali naye payekha mu umuna, ndipo chachiwiri, atakhala pamadzulo kumbuyo kwake, amalowa mzimayi. Kuyankhulana uku kumatchedwa "kulowera kawiri". Zonsezi zimapereka chisangalalo chochuluka kuchokera pazokha. Kawirikawiri, amayi omwe anawayesa iwo, vstavlyaetstvorozhenno pankhani ya kugonana atatu pamodzi. Amati sanagonepo ndi zida zoterezi. Kodi ndizoyenera kudzipeputsa zonsezi, kuti mukondweretse mantha anu, manyazi ndi maganizo anu onse? Pambuyo pa zonse, tili ndi moyo umodzi wokha ...