Mwatsoka, mtundu wa munthu wotero m'moyo mwathu ndi wosawerengeka, koma ngati mwakumana naye, sungani ndipo musaleke. Ndiye mungamuzindikire bwanji munthu wabwino wotereyu m'khamulo? Potsatizana ndi maonekedwe a munthu wokonda kwambiri, ndizozoloŵera kusiyanitsa zinthu monga thupi lokongola, mapewa ndi mitsempha yambiri, manja okongola ndi zala ndi zala zochepa ndipo, makamaka, ndi mphuno yaitali. Ndi chithunzi ichi, molingana ndi atsikana ambiri ndi amayi, amabisala kumbuyo kwa maonekedwe awo fano la munthu wachikondi ndi wokonda kwambiri. Koma, kuti mukhale otsimikiza kuti zana limodzi peresenti kuti chithunzichi chidzatsimikizirika, ndipo ngati muyesa maonekedwe ngati amenewa, mutha kupeza munthu wangwiro pabedi zofanana ndi "mphaka mu thumba". Ziyenera kukumbukiridwa nthawi zonse kuti mawonekedwe ndi onyenga, ndipo nthawi zina maonekedwe amachotsa okha. Pachifukwa ichi, izo sizidzakhumudwitsidwanso ndipo sizidzataya chiyembekezo chakuti anthu oterewa alipo, choyamba, musayese maonekedwe okongola, koma samverani munthu wamba. Kumbukirani kuti Casanova ndi nthawi yambiri ya Don Juan, amakhala mwa aliyense, ngakhale wothamanga kumanga munthu. Pano chinthu chachikulu ndicho mphamvu yanu kudzutsa makhalidwe awa mmenemo ndipo pokhapokha mungathe kupanga "makina ogonana" kuchokera kwa munthu. Kotero, momwe mungapangire amuna abwino kuchokera kwa amuna, potero mudzaze moyo wanu ndi chilakolako ndi chikondi?
Choyamba, kumbukirani kuti kuti mupange mnyamata wanu wokhala pabedi, mukufunikira, choyamba, kuti musinthe nokha ndi maganizo anu kwa munthuyo ndi moyo wanu wapamtima. Ngati mutayamba kumuphunzitsanso popanda kusintha nokha, zingasinthe kuti zisamvetsetse bwino komanso zowonjezereka.
Kotero, sitepe yoyamba pa kusinthika kwa munthu kukhala wokonda bwino, iyenera kukhala kusintha kwanu. Yesetsani kuyang'ana pa moyo wanu wa kugonana ndi nokha ndi maso ena, dzipangire nokha zinthu zatsopano ndi zoonjezera kuti muchepetse ubwenzi wanu. Mwa njira, musaiwale pa sitejiyi kuti muwonetsere maganizo abwino kwa osankhidwa anu.
Gawo lachiwiri liyenera kukhala kusanthula kwanu kusanthula moyo wanu pamodzi ndi iye. Yesetsani kukumbukira nthawi zomwe inu nonse munayambira ndipo inu, monga ana a sukulu, mumatentha ndi chikondi, zomwe zimakupatsani inu kukhumba ndi kugonana. Tayang'anani zomwe zikuchitika tsopano - yemwe inu muli, ndi yemwe iye ali. Ganizirani za izi, koma muli ndi ubale uliwonse ndi chithunzi cha mkazi woyenera ali pabedi. Pambuyo pa zonse, kuti afunse wina kuti akhale zomwe simukuli, izi sizidzabweretsa zotsatira zabwino. Choncho, muyenera kumvetsetsa bwino zolakwitsa zanu ndi zizindikiro zanu ndikuonetsetsa kuti inu, osati chibwenzi chanu, musawalole.
Pambuyo pa izi, mutha kale gawo lachitatu, yesetsani kutembenuka kwambiri kuti musakhale mbuye wabwino, kumupatsa mwamuna ndi chilakolako ndi chifundo. Kawirikawiri, yesetsani kumuyamikira, kumuthandiza ndikumuuza momwe iye aliri. Izi zidzamupangitsa iye kubwereranso kwa inu kuti akakomane ndi kuyankha.
Gawo lachinai likunena kuti mukuyenera kuthamanga mozungulira mu dziwe la chilakolako. Chitani zogonana, nthawi iliyonse polankhulana ndi okondedwa mu chinenero cha chilakolako ndi thupi. Musaganize za mavuto, zoletsedwa ndi zolakwika. Izi, ndithudi, zidzathandiza wokondedwa wanu kumverera "mu mbale yake" ndikuthandizira kumasulidwa kwa chilakolako ndi kugonana. Pambuyo pake, mwa chikondi, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuyankhulana kwa matupi, osati nthawi yaitali komanso yovuta kulankhula za chikondi. Ndi chilakolako, kugwedeza ndi kupsompsona zomwe zingathe kunena zambiri kuposa mawu aliwonse.
Gawo lachisanu pa njira yopita kumoyo wabwino wogonana ndi maso abwino, amabwera monga wothandizira pachinayi. Lekani kudzilamulira nokha pa ubwenzi wanu ndi iye. Kumbukirani za manyazi komanso kulimbika, ngati mukufuna kufuula, chitani mokweza momwe mungathere. Dziwani, khalidwe lamtundu uwu lidzamutsogolera kwambiri komanso kudzudzula chilakolako cha "bestial".
Ndipo potsiriza, siteji yotsiriza yachisanu ndi chimodzi. Chokhazikika chake chimakhala mufunika kuti, ngati mwatheka, perekani wokondedwa wanu kugonana. Ndipo, mwa njira, osati kugonana, koma kugonana ndi zinthu zomwe zimasewera masewera, zomwe sizinayambe zongoganizira zowonongeka ndi zina zotero. Zonsezi zidzasonyezeratu chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana, ndipo izi zidzataya zilakolako zake zogonana. Pano, mwamunayo adzachitapo kanthu pa chidziwitso, chomwe chimapangitsa kuti kugonana kwake kuwonjezeke kambirimbiri. Kumbukirani kuti mu kugonana, monga mu luso, chinthu chachikulu ndicho chilengedwe ndi chikhumbo choyesera. Phatikizani mbali ziwiri izi mu moyo wanu wa kugonana, ndipo mudzawona momwe izi zidzakhudzire mnzanuyo, ndikumupatsa kugonana kwakukulu kuti apange dziko pabedi panu.
Ndipo potsiriza, kumbukirani kupanga wopikisana, koma mwa kuyankhula kwina, Casanova kuchokera ku zokoma zake samafuna kugonana naye, motero amatsutsa khalidwe lake pabedi. Osamuimba mlandu chifukwa cholephera kumasuka naye ndi kusangalala. Musamane iye mu chikhumbo chake chogonana ndi inu ndi chikondi chake chonse, yankhani wina ndi mnzake. Ngati mukukwaniritsa malamulo onsewa, mutha kupeza Hercules wangwiro komanso wosakwanira, omwe cholinga chake chachikulu chidzakhala kukukondweretsa. Bwino!