M'mayiko ena, chifuwacho chimachotsedwa chifukwa cha chipembedzo kapena chifukwa chachipatala. Mwachitsanzo, mu phimosis opaleshoni imeneyi ndi yofunikira, popeza popanda mdulidwe mavuto aakulu angayambe.
Ena amasankha mdulidwe kuti apange maonekedwe abwino a "bwenzi" wawo. Inde, akazi ena amaoneka ngati maonekedwe abwino a khungu koma khungu lakuda, koma ndibwino kuti tiganizire payekha.
Kugonana ndi munthu wosadulidwa: ndi kusiyana kotani?
Lero sizinthu zongopeka zokhudzana ndi nkhaniyi, komanso zimayambitsa mkangano pakati pa madokotala, amayi ndi amuna omwe. Amakhulupirira kuti pambuyo pa njira imeneyi, mphamvu ya mutu imakula. Komabe, madokotala amanena kuti pambuyo mdulidwe, mapeto a mitsempha omwe ali pamalo omwe akuwonekera amapezeka poyera ndipo amakhala okhumudwa nthawi zonse (poyenda, mwachitsanzo). Pachifukwa ichi, mutu umataya kukhudzidwa ndipo, motero, kugonana ndi mwamuna wodulidwa kumakhala yaitali. Ndipo uwu siwo kusiyana kokha. Maphunziro ochuluka anachitidwa, nkhani yomwe inali phunziro la maulamuliro aakazi pa mutu womwe tikukambirana. Choncho, ambiri mwa omwe anafunsidwawo adavomereza kuti mbolo wosadulidwa ndi yozolowereka kwa iwo, ngakhale amayi ena adapeza kuti mdulidwe wodulidwa ukuwoneka wokongola kwambiri. Kugonana pamlomo, ambiri mwa omwe anafunsidwa anali ogwirizana ndi kuti mbolo wosadulidwa ndi "yabwino" pa izi. Chigawo chachiwiri, chokhudzana ndi kusiyana pakati pa munthu wosadulidwa ndi wodulidwa pa chibwenzi, ndi ukhondo. Ngati pali kugwirizana, ndiye ngati khungu lakuda pamutu, mbolo imabweretsa zozizwitsa zovuta kwambiri, zomwe zingathe kuopseza ngakhale wokondedwa kwambiri.
Kodi mbolo idzakhala yaikulu pambuyo mdulidwe?
Izi n'zotheka, koma m'maganizo a munthu mwiniyo, pamene zotsatira za "placebo" zimagwira ntchito. Kuwonekera kwatsopano kwa ulemu wamwamuna kungathe kuwonjezereka pang'ono, koma kusiyana pakati pa mdulidwe weniweni wamentimenti sikunayambe kwa wina aliyense. Ena, mosiyana, amaopa kuchepetsera limba pambuyo mdulidwe. Pali nthano yodziwika kuti pambuyo pochotsa khungu, khungu pa mbolo lonse latambasulidwa, chomwe chingayambitse kusinthika kwake ndi kudzichepetsa. Koma akatswiri amanena kuti zotsatira za opaleshoni ndizotheka kokha ngati mdulidwe umachitidwa ndi munthu wochita masewera kuchipatala.
Kudza membala kapena ayi?
Ngati mdulidwe uli wofunika kwa medpokazaniyam kapena izi zimafuna chipembedzo, ndiye kuti ndondomekoyo iyenera kuchitika. Pamene funso limangoyamba kokha kuchokera kumaganizo okondweretsa, chisankho chiyenera kukhala kwa munthu aliyense. Ngati amakhulupirira kuti mbolo ya mdulidwe idzakhala yosangalatsa pamaso pa mnzanuyo, ndiye kuti mukhoza kupita opaleshoni bwinobwino. M'mabanja ena, opaleshoniyi imakulolani kusokoneza moyo wanu wapamtima, chifukwa vuto la kukwera msanga kumatha kuthetsedwa. Kugonana kumakhala motalika ndipo onse awiri amasangalala kugonana. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti ngati mutapereka mphindi yofunikayi kwa dokotala wabwino ndikusamalira maulendo tsiku lililonse, potsatira malangizo onse a zachipatala, chiopsezo cha zovuta ndizochepa. Koma muyenera kulingalira mfundo yofunikira - muyenera kusamalira mwatcheru mdulidwe, pamene kugonana kwa kanthaŵi koyenera kudzasiya.