Ndipo gulugufe latuluka kale m'mimba mwako. Ndiyeno mumapanga zinthu zoopsa: ali ndi mphatso yoopsa kuti musakondwere. Kuchokera kumalingaliro, okondwa ndi oyenerera, iwe umakhala wa neurasthenic, amene akukayikira zayekha. Iye akhoza kukutsutsani kuti zoyera ndi zakuda, ndipo kawiri sizinayi zonse, koma mochuluka momwe akusowa panthawiyi. Kuti muzochitika zonse ndiye kuti mukulakwa. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika? Chifukwa mudathamangitsidwa ndi nkhanza. Kuwongolera ngati imodzi mwa mitundu ya mikangano nthawi zambiri imakumana.
Dziko lake lakuda ndi loyera
Poyamba, kuphatikiza "kukhudzidwa-nkhanza" kumawoneka kosadabwitsa - apa, chimodzi kapena chimzake. Koma mu moyo weniweni, mtundu uwu wabwino, umatuluka, ndikwanira. Mawu omwewo adayambitsidwa panthawi ya nkhondo yachiwiri yapadziko lonse ndi wotsogolera zamagulu wa zamankhondo wa ku America, Colonel William Menninger. Anazindikira kuti pali asilikali omwe amamvera malamulo a asilikali: amadzipatula okha, amanyalanyaza malamulo ndi chipululu. Iye adayankha kuti "kusalana" ndipo adalongosola ngati "mwana". Koma mumoyo wamtendere palinso amuna omwe amachita mofanana: iwo amakana kuchita zomwe akuyembekezera. Ayi, osati kutsutsa poyera, koma kupereka chithunzi chodziwika bwino komanso chopanda kuzindikira. Chifukwa chiyani? Inde, chifukwa moyo wonse wa munthu wotero ndikumenyana ndi mphamvu, koma "kugonjera" kwa ziyembekezo za ena, zopempha kapena, Mulungu amaletsa, malangizo oti afe. Dziko lake lakuda ndi loyera limakhala ndi opambana komanso otayika, ndipo kusagwirizana ndizosatheka. Ndipo amadzimva kuti ali wofooka m'bwalo la nkhondoyi - koma amayesetsa kuthetsa malingaliro ake mosiyana. Ndipo chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti iye sadziwa ngakhale izi zonse!
Kodi mwendo umakula kuti?
Ndilo-koma kuyambira ubwana, chomwe mtundu wathu sunali wokondwa kwambiri. Chimodzi mwa izi ndi vuto la majini, koma chiyanjano cha ubale chimakhala ndi udindo waukulu. Mwina chitsanzo cha khalidweli, adachotsa kwa bambo ake mokonzekera. N'zotheka kuti analibe bambo ngati chitsanzo chotsatira. Kapena iye anali atasiyidwa mwamaganizo ndipo anaiwalika konse, kapena, mosiyana, iye amatsatiridwa, iye ankatetezedwa ndi kuyendetsedwa. Anapeza chipulumutso mwa kudzipatula yekha kwa aliyense ndi kumenyera mano kuti apeze nkhondo yamuyaya - ndi omwe sali abwino kwa iye, ndipo wotere, ali wotsimikiza - pafupifupi kuzungulira. Ndipotu, sangathe kudumphira pamatumba a ana awo - kukhala ngati mwana wonyengerera, wamuyaya, yemwe amayembekeza kuti dziko lonse lapansi, ngati mayi ake, amvetsetse ndikumukhululukira.
Chithunzi chake
Poyera, amasewera pang'ono. Ulamuliro wake ndi wosiyana kwambiri. Bwenzi limene ntchito zonse zimanyansidwa nazo. Mwamuna amene amamvetsera ngati kuti watenga madzi pakamwa pake, ndipo ndani alibe vuto. Wokondedwa mnzanu amene nthawi zonse "amaiwala" kukupatsani zambiri zofunika. Zonsezi sizikudziwikiratu zomwe akuganiza komanso zofuna zake. Zomwe zimakhudza kwambiri maubwenzi apamtima. Pa mbali imodzi, ngati munthu aliyense, amalakalaka chikondi chenicheni ndi ubwenzi wapamtima. Kumbali ina - ambiri padziko lonse amawopa kuti "agonjetsedwa" - chifukwa kumverera kumamupangitsa iye kukhala "wodalira." Iye sali yemwe amayambitsa chiyanjano. Machitidwe ake samagwira ntchito, koma kutengeka, kuyang'ana kutali, nthabwala kuponyedwa - ndi kuyembekezera kuti chinthu choyamba chimene mungachite ndicho cholinga chake. Ndiye iye adzayankha ndikukupangitsani kumva kuti mwalandira mphatso ya chiwonongeko. Koma ubale ndi iye posachedwa udzasanduka nkhondo yopitiliza ndi yopanda nzeru. Komabe, ali ndi chinthu china - kusasinthasintha (osati kusokonezeka ndi kudzipereka). Mwachibadwa, iye adzakhala ndi inu, ndipo ngati mukuvomera kulipira chifukwa cha nkhanza, mudzakhala pamodzi. Mtundu umenewu sungasokoneze mgwirizano wanu, ngakhale mutakhala wopweteka. Pambuyo pake, amaopa kusungulumwa - ndiko kuti, pomwe amasiyidwa yekha ndi mantha ake ndi mkwiyo wake. Popanda inu, iye ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi mavuto ake. Pamodzi ndi inu, akhoza kusewera ndi minofu yake. Ngati atasankha kuchoka nanu, ndiye kuti pa nthawi imodzi - pamene buku latsopano likumangirizana mofanana.
Iye samachita chirichonse!
Mu labyrinth ya zochita zake n'zovuta kuyenda. Koma fungulo liri_kuwonetsera kwa chiwawa chake pa anthu ena. Ndipo zimachitika m'njira yosangalatsa. Kupsyinjika ndi khalidwe labwino kwambiri kuposa aliyense. Osati kokha kwa achigawenga amene akuwombera ndege, koma kwa Atee ku pharmacy, ndi mwanayo mu sandbox. Udindo wa munthu wamkulu ndikutha kulamulira chiwawa ichi poyanjana ndi anthu. Ndipo zidzakhala zofunikira - kupepesa ngati wina akuvutika nawe. Koma khalidwe losautsa-nkhanza limadzitulutsa pa ntchitoyi mophweka: kutsutsa mwachidwi kuti nkhanza zilipo. Iye samawonetsa izo poyera - inu mudzapeza chidani chobisika ichi, pang'onopang'ono. Ndipo kudzikonda kwake nthawi zambiri kumakhala alibi wachitsulo: satero chilichonse! Iye samayambitsa mikangano, mosiyana - iye amapewa iwo mu njira iliyonse. Mkwiyo wake umadutsa mwa inu - monga kudzera pawindo. Motani? Zili monga nzeru zonse. Tiyerekeze kuti akuyenda akuda nkhawa. Ndine wokonzeka kukhala chete kwa maola ambiri, sindinanenepo kanthu tsiku lonse, koma maonekedwe ake onse akuti: "Ndine wokwiya, ndipo ichi ndi cholakwa chanu!" Simukuganiza choncho ndipo mukufuna kumvetsa. Mukufunsa funso. Koma inu simukupeza yankho, koma kudabwa (ndi chiyani, pali chinachake cholakwika, kodi mukukamba za chiyani?), Zolinga kapena, ngakhale zoipitsitsa, zanyalanyaza. Mumakhumudwa, ndipo adzakuseka. Mawu ndi mawu - ndipo mwatentha kale. Kotero kupsa mtima kwake kwachilendo kukufalikira kwa iwe: tawonani, ndiwe wekha wosakhutira ndi chinachake, funsani mafunso osakondweretsa, inu mumagwedezeka, yambani kusemphana! Pano pali, kuyendetsa bwino-kosautsa-kusaganizira osati pa zomwezo, koma pa zomwe mukuchita, kuziwonetsa izo mopanda chilungamo. Kamodzi, kachiwiri, mobwerezabwereza ... Ndipo pamene zoyesayesa zanu zonse kuti mudziwe zomwe zimayambitsa zofooka zikulephera, kumverera kosautsika mwa inu kumabweretsa mkwiyo - komanso ndikumverera kukhala wolakwa. Mukudzipeza nokha mumaganizo oipa omwe amachititsa kuti azikhala ndi mphamvu.
Chomwe chimayambitsa izi
Mawu ofunika ndi mantha. Koma iwo ndi ambiri ndipo onse ndi osiyana.
- Kuopa kudalira
Iye ndi wamkulu kwambiri monga mantha a kusungulumwa. Mwamuna amayenda mozungulira: mantha a kukhala yekha amamupangitsa kufunafuna ubale - koma kuwapeza, akuyamba kuwopsyeza kuopa iwo, chifukwa ndi kuyesa ufulu wake. Ndiye akuyamba kugawanika.
- Kuopa kukondana
Chibwenzi chimakhala ndi chilakolako, chikondi, manja ndi manja okhudzidwa - zonse zomwe munthu wopusa sangathe kupereka. Kwa iye, ubwenzi wapamtima ndiwopanikiza kwambiri. Koma zovuta zake zimakhala chifukwa cha kuyandikana kwake: chifukwa palibe yemwe angakhale wosangalala komanso wokhutira.
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- Zisintha zinthuzo
Iye waphunzira kukukhumudwitsa iwe mwaluso - ndikuonetsetsa kuti wapepesa. Ndipo mu udindo wa wogwidwa, ndi bwino kuti adziyankhule yekha.
- Kuletsa
Nthawi zonse amabwera nthawi yomaliza kapena mochedwa. Vutoli limagwiritsidwa ntchito pokhapokha atakonzedweratu pakhoma: mwachitsanzo, ngongole yamagetsi idzaperekedwa pamene chidziwitso cha kuchotsedwa chidzafika. Chinthu chomwecho. Mumufunsa moleza mtima kangapo za chinthu chofunikira. Nthawi yoyamba yomwe akulonjeza kuti adzachita, nthawi yachiwiri amadabwa kuti waiwalika, lachitatu - amasamukira "mwinamwake mtsogolo", lachinayi - akukwiya kuti mukuliyika ndi zamtundu uliwonse. Pamapeto pake, mumadzichita nokha - ndipo adakali pa nthawi yomweyo: khalidwe lake mumamuchititsa manyazi.
- Zimapanga chisokonezo
Iye amasankha kusonkhanitsa chipangizo kuchokera ku zidutswa milioni ndipo nthawizonse amaponyera zinthu theka. Amatenga ntchito yomwe sitingakwanitse. Akumanga mapulani, koma posakhalitsa amasiya chidwi chawo. Zakale zake ndizithunzi za ntchito zopanda ntchito.
- Chilichonse "chimaiwala" - chomwe chili chofunikira kwa inu: malonjezo anu, zopempha zanu, masiku okumbukira tsiku lakubadwa komanso tsiku la ukwati. Ndi zopanda pake kukhumudwitsa - uwu ndi mwayi wake.
- Onse akukana
Kusayera ndi dzina lake la pakati. Amakana kuti amakwiya kuti muli ndi chifukwa chokhumudwa. Matatizo alionse ndi kudzimvera chisoni - zonsezi akukutsogolerani, kwa wina kapena kuvomereza zochitika.
- Zimasonyeza kusokera
Iyi ndiyo njira yomwe amakonda kwambiri yolankhulirana ndi zida zothetsera kusamvana. Ngati zimakukhudzani, ndiye kuti "simungathe kusangalala."
- Akukana kulankhula momveka bwino
Masewero ake - "inde ndi ayi, musanene kuti, wakuda, zoyera musamabvale": simumamvetsa zomwe amaganiza ndikumverera. Akufuna kuti muzindikire zomwe akufuna. Chikhumbochi ndi champhamvu kwambiri ngati kusakhumba, kotero kuti mudziwe za izo. Pamene mutasokonezeka ndi kusokonezeka, iye ali pa kavalo.
- Zizindikiro zosamvana
Iye akhoza kunena ndi nkhope yosasinthika - "Ndimakukondani", ndipo nthawi yomweyo zimakhala ngati simuli naye. Zikuwoneka kuti amachita nawo mgwirizano, koma mwachibadwa. Mukukhala ndi mbiri yake ndipo simukumuwona munthu wokondweretsedwa akutembenukira kwa inu.
- Behaves ngati iye ali yekha
Kwa iye, mau oti "ife" amalephera kwambiri, amazoloŵera kukudziwitsani za zisankho zomwe wapanga yekha, ngakhale zimakhudzidwa nazo.
- Zimayambitsa nkhondo zopanda malire
Mutha kudabwa kapena kukwiya, koma zokambirana, pizza kuti azikonzekera kapena filimu yomwe iwononge madzulo, siziti za pizza osati za filimuyo, koma za mphamvu: kuvomereza maganizo anu ngakhale pa zinthu zosafunika kwenikweni kwa iye, kuti kuzindikira kuti ndinu wamkulu.
- Kuopa kunyalanyazidwa
Pali mwana yemwe ali wamoyo mwa iye yemwe adathamangitsidwa panja - ndipo sakufunanso kutero.
- Kuopa maganizo
Amawopa mantha osati ake okha, komanso maganizo anu - mwachidziwikire, kumverera kwaumunthu, mukumvetsetsa kwake - izi ndi zofooka. Inu simunazindikire: iye nthawizonse ali ndi bizinesi yofulumira pa nthawi yomwe mukusowa chithandizo chamumtima?
- Kuopa zoyembekeza za anthu ena - kuti sanagoneke pabedi, adapeza ndalama zambiri, amapanga ntchito yochuluka, ndi zina zotero. Mwachidziwikiratu, palibe chomwe angamuyembekezere: Iye mwiniyo adzakuuzani choncho - ndipo iye mwiniyo adzayankhira pazomwezo.
- Kuopa mpikisano ndi kutayika
Ngakhale kuti kunja kwake kumatha kutulutsa munthu wolimba mtima, manthawa amamutsata pa sitepe iliyonse.
Chikondi chili ngati nkhondo
Sewero lake lalikulu ndikuti ubale uliwonse, ngakhale chikondi, umakhala kwa iye malo ovuta. Ndipo chinthu chachikulu kwa iye ndikutuluka mu nkhondo iliyonse, iye ndi wopambana. Koma dziko lapansi likukonzedwa kotero kuti ngati tikufuna kukhutiritsa zosowa zathu zakuthupi ndi zakuthupi, tiyenera kukhazikitsa ndi kusunga mgwirizano wamphamvu ndi omwe timawakonda. Ndipo kugwirizana kotereku ndiko kudalirana. Munthu yemwe ali ndi malingaliro oyenerera kudziko sadzabwera ndi sewero - mmalo mosiyana, adzayamikira mabhonasi: ubwenzi, ubwenzi wauzimu, kutentha, kuthandizana. Koma osati mtundu wachisokonezo. Kuyambira pachibwenzi, nthawi yomweyo adzakukakamizani: musaganize kuti muli ndi mphamvu pa ine! Zenizeni muzochita zonse akuwona kuyesa "kumugwira". Amatsutsa ndipo sachita zomwe mumamuyembekezera: samapereka dzanja ndi mtima, sapereka maluwa, samanena kuti akuyamikirika, samayamika ndi polojekiti yabwino kapena kupititsa patsogolo, satifotokozera zifukwa zomvetsa chisoni zake - ndipo sadandaule chilichonse . Kuchita zachiwawa ndikumenyana. Izi ndi mafunso osayankhidwa, zilakolako zosadziwika, kusatsimikizika, nkhawa ndi kusungulumwa. Mumafuna kumverera movutikira pansi pa mapazi anu, ndipo amakulowetsani mumtunda. Mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo, kutentha, chidwi, chidwi, chikondi. Koma mobwerezabwereza inu mumakwiya ndi mkwiyo - "Ndikukupatsani inu pang'ono ?! Kodi mwawerenga mabuku a akazi? Simudziwa kuti ndine wotanganidwa kwambiri, ndatopetsa zonse zomwe mumakhala mukupeza bwino! ". Chotsatira chake, kusiyana kwambiri. Ndipo iwe umagwera muchisomo chaumwini wako - "mwinamwake ndimamupweteka kwambiri ...".
Ndondomeko yake yothetsera nkhondo
Anthu akamatsutsana, amayembekeza kulandira yankho lokwanira kuchokera kwa mnzake - ndipo pamapeto pake, mkangano umathetsedwa. Koma kutsutsana kotseguka, moona mtima sikuli mbali ya khalidwe lachidziwitso cha chiwawa chokhalitsa. Pano pali china: kuchoka pa mutu, kuwombera, kuwongolera, kuzunzidwa. Pa zonse zomwe mukuyesera kuthetsa vutoli, iyeyo samakuchitirani kanthu, kapena amakusekeretsani, kusiya chinthu chenicheni cha nkhaniyi. Choncho amakwiya kwambiri, akumenya zida ndi misonzi. Ndipo apa cholingachi chikufikira - adakuuzani udindo wa harpy woipa. Angathe kuchita nawo nkhondoyi kuchokera ku malo amphamvu kapena kungokhala okhumudwa, ndipo, mwina nthawi zambiri amadziyerekezera kuti palibe chomwe chachitika - komatu izi zidzakhala zodabwitsa kuti simuli ndi maganizo. Chizindikiro chakuti dziko lapansi libwezeretsedwa lidzakhala lopindulitsa (koma osati molunjika!) Chizindikiro: matalala a chokoleti chowawa chokonda pa tebulo kapena disk yomwe munalota (amakumbukira chirichonse pamene phindu lake), makina osambitsidwa kapena galasi yokonza (pambuyo pa milungu itatu ya kupembedzera). Ndipo mutasungunuka - pambuyo pa zonse zabwino!
Zoopsa zanu
Mungathe kugwa pansi chifukwa cha chiwawa chake - ndipo kukayikira kudzakhazikika mwa inu. Ndipo tsopano maudindo anu agawidwa kale: ali wotetezedwa komanso wololera (wotetezeka), ndinu wamantha ndi osasunthika (zoipa zoipa). Musakhulupirire izo! Kawirikawiri, amayi, poyesera njira zonse pa ubale wautali, ayamba kudziteteza okha, kukopera khalidwe lachiwawa. Ndikhulupirire, njira iyi imangowonjezera vuto. Kuonjezera apo, zikukhudzana ndi mavuto mu ubale wam'tsogolo, ngati mutsala pang'ono kusiya. Tiyenera kuphunzira kulekanitsa mavuto athu ndi kuyang'ana zolakwa zathu komwe kulibe.
Sinthani malamulo a masewerawo
Pochita khama, safuna kupeza chibwenzicho. Kupanga iye kulankhula sikutheka, kulandira modekha khalidwe lake - nayenso. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Ndipotu, mtundu uwu - wothandizila kwa wothandizira, ndipo wothandiza kwambiri kwa iye (ndi kwa inu) kuthandizira ndi kuchita masewero ndi kumukokera kwa katswiri. Koma inu nokha mukhoza kuchita zambiri - makamaka ngati mukuzikonda.
Magulu atatu owopsa
Mtundu uwu ukhoza kugwira chirichonse pa intaneti. Komabe, pali mitundu itatu ya amayi omwe amakhala opezekapo.
- Mtsogoleri
Mayi uyu nthawi zonse amadziwa bwino kwambiri (komanso mobwerezabwereza), ndipo samavomereza yankho la "ayi". Amakhulupirira kuti ali ndi mphamvu yokonzekera moyo wachikondi kotero kuti potsirizira pake amapereka: adzaponya zida zake pamapazi ake, adzapita kumeneko ndi kuvomereza kuti popanda izo - kulikonse. Ndipo iwo adzakhala moyo mosangalala nthawizonse. Mwamuna amawoneka akuyesera kuti atenge mwayi wa chitonthozo chomwe mtsogoleri wochenjera ndi wanzeru adzalenga - izi zidzakwaniritsa zokhuza zake. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amachulukitsa kumverera kwa kudalira ndi kusasamala. Ndipo ndi iwo - ndi mkwiyo umene wabisika kwa kanthawi. Iye sangakhululukire ngati mkazi ali wopambana kuposa iye (malo apamwamba, malipiro ambiri). Kuonjezera apo, mmalo mwa chikondi chofunika ndi kuyamikira, bwanayo amupatsa iye (mwachidziwitso) kulamulira ndi kusunga ndikukhala ngati mayi wolemekezeka - komanso kugonana ndi amayi?
- Nsembe
A tidbit kwa chiwawa, chifukwa wozunzidwa amasangalala ndi mphamvu yake mokwanira. Kawirikawiri uyu ndi mkazi womvera, wofewa ndi wodzidalira, yemwe, mwinamwake, amawopa kuti amadziwonetsere yekha zosachepera. N'zosakayikitsa kuti sali woyamba kumenyana naye m'moyo wake, kotero bambo ake, mchimwene wake, mwamuna woyamba kapena bwenzi lake. Amamvetsera mwachidwi amuna amtundu uwu, akuyembekeza kuti kamodzi kokha kamodzi kamene kakuyamikira ndikusintha - ngakhale kumverera kwakukulu ndi kuyembekezera kwa anthu ena, palibe kanthu koma mantha, mwa munthu woteroyo sabala. Ndipo pamene munthu wodwalayo akumva chisoni kwambiri, amamunyansidwa kwambiri, kuti amusonyeze "kudziimira". Wopwetekayo amakhulupirira kuti iye "ali naye". Amang'ambika pakati pa mphamvu zake ndi ludzu lakupha. Chiwawa chake chikusowa masewera owopsa.
- Mpulumutsi
Musamudyetse mkate, ndiroleni ine ndigone. Munthu wosasamala-wouma mtima, nthawi yomweyo amazindikira kuti ndi cholengedwa chopanda pake, chosamvetsetseka chomwe chimafunikira kumbali yake. Iye amavomereza izi ("kwenikweni, sizoipa"), amasamala momwe iye amawonekera bwino kwa ena ("iye sanafune chomwecho chonchi"), akuphimba zodabwitsa zake ("chabwino, ndi chimene iye ali!"). Mwamuna amapatsidwa chisamaliro chotere, chifukwa chimapangitsa kuti asamangokhalira kudzikonda, mpaka tsiku lina amadziwa ndikuzindikira kuti zonsezi si zopereka. Mtsogoleri ndi mpulumutsi onse amamuyang'ana munthu woteroyo ndi mwini wake komanso woyang'anira.
- Sungani malire. Ndikofunika kuti musachite zimenezi osati mumaganizo, koma mwamtendere komanso mwamphamvu. Ndiuzeni momveka bwino: malamulo akale a masewerawa sakuyenererani.
- Kuwombera malamulo atsopano: ndiuzeni zomwe zidzachitike m'tsogolomu. Muzionetsetsa zomwe mukufuna kuchokera kwa iye. Konzekerani kuti akuyeseni, mobwerezabwereza akuphwanya malamulo, kotero mutha kulowa muvuto lovuta kwambiri - ndi iye komanso ndi inu nokha. Ngati apita kudziko ndipo zimakutsutsaninso - masewera atayika. Musataye mtima.
- Tsutsani khalidwe lake ku khalidwe lake, lomwe limavomereza, molingana ndi lamuloli: Ngati mutachita mwanjira iyi, ndiye ndikumva izi - ndipo ndili nazo zifukwa zoterezi. Lankhulani mwakachetechete ndi mosamala - ngati mukuwopa kuti mukulankhulana adzakuchotsani nokha, lembani kalata yomwe adzawerenge, pokhala yekha.
- Fotokozani momveka bwino chisankho chake ndi malonjezo osakwaniritsidwa. Musati mutenge mlandu womwe iye akuyesera kuti akulandireni inu.
- Lekani kutenga udindo - msiyeni iye achite. Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti mungakwanitse bwanji zotsatira mofulumira komanso molimbika kwambiri, mumupatse ufulu wochita zolakwitsa, aganizire ndikukhala wamkulu.
- Kodi nthawi zambiri mumachita chiyanjano choyanjanitsa? Musati muzichita izo kenanso - nkhope yokongola, yokongola, mudziwitse kuti mwakonzeka kuti muyanjanenso, ndipo musayembekezere kupepesa m'malo mwake.
- Ziribe kanthu momwe iwe uliri wokwiya, usamunyoze iye monga munthu - kokha zochita zake. Makhalidwe angasinthe, khalidwe - ayi. Khalani otsimikiza: mosasamala kanthu kuti khalidwe lake limakwiyitsa inu, mumamukonda, mumayamikira makhalidwe ake abwino ndikuyamikira ubale wanu.