Koma pambuyo pa zonse, khalidwe lachinyengo mu ubale wa banja ndi mu bizinesi ndi khalidwe lachizolowezi silingatchulidwe. Choncho, lero sitidzasanthula funso la momwe tingaphunzitsire anthu, koma momwe tingatembenuzire mgwirizano ndi anthu ochita zinthu mwachitsulo kuti tipeze njira yowonjezera.
Mchitidwe wonyenga ndi khalidwe limene cholinga chake ndi kumupangitsa munthu kuchita chinachake chomwe sakufuna kapena sakuchifuna, mosemphana ndi chifuniro chake. Odziwika bwino omwe amatha kusintha zinthu amatha kusintha zinthu kuti zinthu zowonongeka zisamveke kuti ndizochitika pa masewera ena.
Amakhulupirira kuti akazi amatha kukhala ndi makhalidwe ambiri. Kawirikawiri amagwiritsa ntchito luso lawo lonse kuti akalimbikitse munthu kuchita zomwe sakufuna. Ndipotu, zonse sizili zophweka. Amuna, nawonso, akhoza kugwiritsira ntchito mkazi. Zochita zawo ndizozosautsa ndipo zimabweretsa mavuto ambiri aumaganizo ndi a makhalidwe abwino kwa anthu omwe akuzungulira mtsogoleri wamwamuna.
Cholakwika china chokhudzana ndi chizoloŵezi chochita zinthu mwaukwati ndizoti amuna samadziŵa kuchitapo kanthu, choncho akazi amatha kugwiritsira ntchito amuna kuposa momwe amachitira. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zovuta kwambiri zokhudzana ndi moyo wa banja, zomwe zingathe kukhalapo. Chowonadi ndi chakuti akatswiri a maganizo azindikira kuti amuna ali abwino kuposa akazi omwe amawona njira zonse. Ndizowona kuti angathe kupirira motalika, kusintha moyenera kwa mkazi wa manipulator, ndipo musatsutse poyera kuyesayesa. Komabe, kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa mkazi ndi achibale ena pafupifupi kumayambitsa kuti munthu azizunzidwa. Akhoza kuchita zinthu molepheretsa kusonyeza mkwiyo wake mwanjira iliyonse. Kamodzi kokha kudzabwera malo otentha, pambuyo pake akhoza kutsekera chitseko ndi kusiya banja kwamuyaya.
Chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri, ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi ali awiriwa, ndi ogwirizanitsa wina ndi mnzake pazochita zawo. Kenaka aliyense m'banja amamva wosasangalala, ndipo kuswa kozungulira kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo za ubale woterewu wopweteka munthu zimalongosola chomwe chimatchedwa "Cartman triangle". Lili ndi mbali zitatu, maudindo atatu - wakupha, wozunzidwa ndi mpulumutsi. Vuto ndiloti palibe maudindo omwe angakhalepo popanda awiriwo. Choncho, kuyesa kumbali imodzi ya chiwonongeko cha khalidwe kumayambitsa kutsutsa koopsa kuchokera kumbali zina ziwiri, ndiyeno gehena weniweni imabwera mu ubale wa banja. Ndipo pakuwonetseratu zochitika zojambulidwa, ngakhale zovuta, sichiphatikizapo mwamuna ndi mkazi yekha, komanso ana, makolo a okwatirana, abwenzi ndi achibale.
Chitsanzo cha "Cartman Triangle" mu chiyanjano ndi banja limene mwamuna amachitira mkazi wake. Iye ndi "wozunzidwa" yemwe sangathe kudziteteza yekha, akudzudzula mawu kapena kukwiya. Iye-"wakupha", yemwe sangakhoze kuima mu ziphuphu zake. Pa udindo wa "mpulumutsi" akhoza kuchita apongozi ake, mwana wamkulu kapena chibwenzi. Ndondomekoyi yamakhalidwe abwino, yovomerezedwa bwino ndi kuwonongeka kuchokera kumbali zonse, sizowononga kuwononga. Chifukwa onse atatu omwe ali otsogolera pa vuto lachiyanjano angasinthe maudindo. Ndikoyenera kuti "wozunzidwa" afotokoze ufulu wake kwa "wakupha", pamene atembenuka mwadzidzidzi kukhala "mpulumutsi" kapena "wozunzidwa." "Mpulumutsi" akhoza kukhala "wozunzidwa" chifukwa "wakupha" akukwiyidwa ndi zochita za izi, kuyesa kumuchotsa kuthetsa mavuto a m'banja.
Mawu, si zophweka kufotokoza zochitika izi zowononga. Komabe, ngati muwona zinthu zina zapadera zitatuzi mu banja lanu losapambana, pitani ku maphunzirowo mwamsanga. Maphunziro osiyanasiyana okhudza maganizo apabanja, mikangano ya m'banja, akulangiza kuthetsa mavuto mu gulu. Muzochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, anthu amatha kukhala atatu ndipo amayesetsa kuthetsa mavuto omwe ali nawo. Mukawona chisokonezo chosasangalatsa komanso chosasinthika mu katatu kansangwani pazochitika zanu, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti mudziwe zoyenera kuchita ndi vuto lanu.
Kuyankhulana koyenera kumayenera kuwonetsa osadziwika ku banja la anthu omwe amawononga microclimate yake. Makamaka mwakhama ndi banja, limene mmodzi kapena onse awiri ali ndi kholo lolowetsa kugwidwa. Ku Russia, tsoka, makolo amasokoneza moyo wa banja pafupi ndi kubadwa kwa zidzukulu. Kupezeka kwa wokalamba wamkulu kumakhudza kwambiri moyo wa okwatirana. Aliyense amadziwa zolemba za apongozi awo kapena ana aamayi. Ma Soviets nthawi zambiri samangopereka kwa amayi omwe ali ndi mphamvu, ndipo ngati mwana kapena mwana wamwamuna sakuyesera kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi chifuniro chake, angaphatikizepo njira zosiyanasiyana zowagwiritsa ntchito.
Mwachitsanzo, amayi a mwana wamwamuna wamkulu akhoza kudziyerekezera kuti akudwala kuti amupange iye nthawi zambiri ngati n'kotheka. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi vuto - kuti amakhala ndi iye, osati ndi mkazi wake ndi ana ake, maholide, ankachita nawo zochitika zonse za moyo wake, kupereka nsembe kwa nthawi yochepa osati kwa banja, koma chifukwa cha kholo lokalamba. M'mabanja oterowo, kuchita mphulupulu ndi apongozi awo kapena apongozi awo angaperekedwe limodzi ndi vampirism ya maganizo-amangomva akusangalala pamene atha kusonyeza mwanayo kuti mkazi wake kapena mwamuna wake sali woyenera mwana wake wamtengo wapatali. Ndipo mikangano iliyonse pakati pa okwatirana a manipulator wotero imalimbikitsa komanso yokondweretsa.
Mungathe kufotokozera zitsanzo za nthawi yayitali za zotsatira zowonongeka za ubale wa banja. Koma ndi bwino kumvetsa njira yomwe imatsutsana nayo. Lusoli popanda mantha ndi chitonzo kuti afotokoze malingaliro awo, kutchula wosayankhula, kotero kuti palibe kutanthauzira kosamveka. Njira yabwino yothetsera kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndikutha kusonyeza mbali zake zonse, kuti awoneke zolinga komanso zolinga zobisika za manipulator. Izi zikutanthauza kupititsa patsogolo mkangano kwa nthawi yoyamba. Muyenera kupyola mu izi, chifukwa izi ndizo zidzakuthandizira kusintha. Ndipo khalani kutali ndi maphunziro omwe amaphunzitsa anthu kuti aziwongolera ena, chifukwa izi siziri njira yonse yopezera chimwemwe.