Kutopa mu ubale ndi wokondedwa, chochita chiyani?

Chikondi sichinayambe, chinangokhala chokhumudwitsa. Kodi n'zotheka kubwezeretsanso kale, kapena kusintha kumeneku sikungapezeke? O, chikondi! Simungathe kukhala ndi moyo popanda tsiku, ola, miniti! Analemba zolemba zozizwitsa wina ndi mzake, ndipo anadza ndi zodabwitsa zokwanira malemba a Hollywood! Kodi mukukumbukira pamene idatha? Mwachidziwikire, palibe tsoka linachitika, koma mwadzidzidzi mwazindikira kuti simunawombereze mukakumana ndi wokondedwa monga poyamba, simudzasangalatsidwa ndi nthabwala zake, ndipo ngakhale kuthandizira sikumayambitsa nthawi zonse. Ayi, inu mumakondana wina ndi mzake, zikuwoneka ngati kale, koma mwanjira ina sizinali. Mukutopa ... ndipo mudzaphunzira momwe mungagonjetse kutopa mu ubale ndi okondedwa anu, choti muchite mu nkhaniyi, kuthetsa vutoli ndi ife.

Ngati muwona zomwe zimayambitsa kutopa mu ubale ndi wokondedwa wanu, muyenera kuchita chiyani muzochitika zoterezi? Mudakhala pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yayitali, ndipo mwakhala mukukonzekera kulandira thandizo ndi mtima. Chifukwa chakuti ndi nthawi. Zikatero, nthawi zambiri zimatchulidwa ngati kukwatira kapena kuthawa. Zoyesayesa zanu zonse kufotokoza zolinga zake za tsogolo lanu pamodzi zimapunthwa pa khoma lopanda kanthu. Ubale umadutsa muzigawo zosiyana, ndipo kumangiriza umodzi wa iwo nthawi zonse kumabweretsa kuzirala. Ndipo ngati palikutopa mu ubale ndi wokondedwa, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Yankho la vutoli "lingadzitamande" omwe ali ndi mavuto a m'banja.

Inde, funso lalingaliro la nyumba yomwe mukufuna kuwononga. Mwanjira imeneyi, pang'ono zasintha zaka zana zapitazi. Moyo mu nyumba yolipira, pamene iwe uyenera kumangoganizira chabe chikondi choyamba poyamba. Ndiyeno zimakhala nkhani yotsutsana komanso zonyansa. Komanso zomwe zimayambitsa kutopa mu chiyanjano ndi wokondedwa zingatanthauzidwe kuti ndizosatheka kupezeka nthawi zonse. Izi zikutanthauza maubwenzi patali, pamene okonda pazifukwa zina amakhala kapena amagwira ntchito m'mizinda yosiyanasiyana. Panthawi ina, ndikufuna kukhala ndi wokondedwa osati Lamlungu lapitali la mwezi uliwonse, koma pakalipano, mvula yamvulayi, pamene ndatopa kwambiri, pamene ndiri wokhumudwa ndikungofuna tiyi pamodzi khitchini. Chifukwa chinanso ndi chakuti pamene mmodzi wa okondedwa sakhutitsidwa ndi moyo wa kugonana, koma izi ndi zosiyana kwambiri. Ichi ndi chifukwa chonse cha kutopa poyerekeza ndi wokondedwa, zomwe ambiri sakudziwa.

Zizindikiro za kutopa muukwati . Inu nthawizonse mumapeza ubwenzi. Zikuwoneka kuti ndizolakwa zanu zonse ndi kuperewera ndi kusasamala, kwa inu - kuti mfundo yonse ndikuti ndi malo otsekemera komanso osokonekera. Kulankhulana pa chakudya chamadzulo, mumakonda mndandanda, iye magazini "AutoMir". Pa nthawi yomweyi, kuyesera kugawa zomwe zawerengedwa kapena kuwona zimayambitsa kukwiya. Ndiwe wokondwa pamene mapeto a sabata amapita kwa amayi kuti akonze kampu, amasonyeza kuti mumakumana ndi anzako nthawi zambiri. Ndipo kotero. Aliyense ali ndi zizindikiro zake zowonongeka komanso "ntchentche". Pambuyo pake, ndi wokondwa wokondwa mofanana.

Kodi mungatani ndi kutopa muukwati ? Musawope. Pamapeto pake, mfundo yakuti izi zinachitika kwa chiyanjano chanu zimatsimikiziridwa kokha chifukwa chakuti ubalewo ukuchitika. Choncho, angathe kusintha pa chifuniro. Ngati izo, ndithudi, ziri. Ndipotu, kumverera kuli ngati moyo. Zimadutsamo magawo onse - kuyambira ubwana mpaka ukalamba. Koma ikhoza kuwonongeka mu moyo wapamwamba kuchokera ku chisamaliro choipa ndi kunyalanyazidwa. Ubale wanu uyenera kukula, kukula, kubweretsa chisangalalo, mwinamwake iwo adzatha. Kodi mukukumbukira momwe munamvera kwa nthawi yoyamba mu miyezi ya chikondi? Ndinu wosangalala bwanji, wosasangalatsa, wosasamala komanso wosangalala? Kumbukirani ndikuyesera kuganiziranso maganizo amenewo.

Zolingalira zabwino zidzakuthandizani kubwezeretsa dziko la mapiko awa ndi kuthandiza kuthetsa kutopa mu ubale. Ndipo maganizo nthawi zonse amasamutsidwa kwa wokondedwa. Adani anu panjira yolimbana ndi kutopa mu chiyanjano - nthawi yachisangalalo ndi yosasangalatsa.