Kodi akufuna chiyani?
Kodi mkazi wabwino amafunikira chiyani? Kodi akufunafuna munthu wotani?
Monga lamulo, amayi omwe angathe kudzipezera okha, ali ndi chidwi ndi amuna monga ena, koma ali ndi zofunikira zambiri kwa amuna. Afuna kuona munthu pafupi ndi wofanana yemwe angagwirizane ndi miyezo ya moyo, koma sangalepheretse.
Kawirikawiri, akazi otere amavomereza kuti akhale azimayi kapena kukhalabe ndi mwamuna, kotero kuti chiyanjano choyanjana ndi iwo ndi ulemu ndi kufanana. Ngati simukudziwa kugonjetsa mkazi wopambana, ndiye kuti poyamba, mumayenera kukhala amphamvu, otsimikiza, opambana, koma osagwira komanso okhoza kukhala okhulupirika. Ngakhale amayi omwe ali ndi mphamvu kwambiri amafuna banja lofunda ndi lolimba, ambiri a iwo akulota ana, iwo sali okonzeka kumanga ubale ndi aliyense amene akukumana nawo ndipo ali ovuta kwambiri pa nkhaniyi. Kodi muyenera kuganizira chiyani mukakumana ndi mayi wovuta kwambiri?
Kodi mungasamalire bwanji?
Momwe mungagonjetse mkazi wabwino yemwe ali ndi chirichonse? Funsolo ndi lovuta, koma pali yankho kwa ilo. Choyamba, musamatsatire wosankhidwayo ndi mavuto anu. Ngakhale ngati pali mavuto alionse m'moyo wanu, musayesetse kuwathetsa pokhapokha ngati mulibe vutoli. Mu moyo wa anthu opambana, ali ndi mavuto awo, omwe amawakonda. Mavuto a anthu ena sangasangalale ndi chifundo, koma zokhumudwitsa zokha, chifukwa chake munthu wamkulu sangachite popanda thandizo la mkazi.
Chachiwiri, kuyesa kugonjetsa mkazi woteroyo ndi ndalama si njira yabwino. Monga lamulo, amai abwino amapindula bwino ndipo safuna thandizo la ndalama. Ngati mupereka mphatso , siziyenera kukhala zotsika mtengo, sankhani zinthu zabwino zomwe zimapangidwa ndi kukoma, koma musayese kulandira chiphuphu. Ngati muli pachibwenzi, izi ziyenera kukhala malo omwe akugwirizana ndi msinkhu wa mkaziyo. Izi siziyenera kukhala malo odyera okwera mtengo, nthawi zina usiku wokondana pa denga la nyumba yamba imasiya zochitika zabwino kusiyana ndi malo okalamba. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti iye sayenera kuvutika.
Chachitatu, khulupirirani mtima kuposa nzeru. Akazi opambana amayamikira chifundo chenicheni ndi chidwi, osati malingaliro opanda nzeru. Ngati mkazi atha kukwaniritsa bwino moyo wake, ndiye kuti akukwanira pomwe kumvetsetsa kozizira n'kofunikira. Perekani njira yoyenera.
Chachinai, osachokera ku chiyanjano chanu ngakhale malingaliro odzikonda. Amayi opambana amakono amakumana ndi mavuto, pamene akuyesera kugwiritsa ntchito zofuna zawo. Amadziwa kusiyanitsa anthu oterewa, ndipo sadzagwa chifukwa chachinyengo, chilichonse chimene mukuganiza.
Amuna posachedwapa asintha malingaliro awo pa mtengo wa makhalidwe ena a amayi kuti akhale paubwenzi wolimba. Koma iwo sanali okonzeka kusintha ma dummies odalirika pa amayi odzikwanira okha, chifukwa iwo sakudziwa momwe angagonjetse mkazi wopambana. Maganizo awo, njira zomwe atsikana ambiri amatha kugula sizigwira ntchito, ndi anzeru, amakhulupirira komanso amatsutsa. Zonsezi zimawopseza amuna ndipo zimakopa nthawi yomweyo. Chinsinsi ndicho kukhala nokha. Ngati ndalama zanu ndi chikhalidwe chanu sizili zosangalatsa, monga momwe zimakhalire ndi atsikana omwe salipo, ndiye kuti mwayi wanu wosankhidwa adzakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro anu, khalidwe lanu, chidziwitso, chiyanjano, mtendere wamkati. Ngati munthu ali otsimikiza kuti ali ndi zomwe angapereke kwa mkazi woteroyo, osati ndalama, adzapambana.