Kotero, ngati munthu akutchula ndi dzina lina, kodi izi zikutanthauzanji, ndipo zimayenera bwanji kumvetsa? Choyamba, musagwere mwamsanga mumatsenga ndi paranoia. Zonsezi, aliyense wa ife amapanga kusungirako. Mwinamwake iye anakuitanani inu ndi dzina la mlongo wake kapena bwenzi lapamtima. Ndiye, ndithudi, palibe chowopsya mu izi. Taganizirani izi, zowonjezera, zimakhala ngati mukulankhulana ndi munthu tsiku lonse, kutcha dzina lake, ndikutchula dzina lanu pokhapokha mutatchula munthu wina. Tonsefe tili ndi ufulu wopanga zolakwa zazing'ono. Izo sizikutanthawuza chirichonse, kungosintha chabe ndi zina zambiri. Komanso, nthawi zina anthu ali ngati munthu ndipo munthu akhoza kusokoneza mayina. Ngati mudziwa kuti mumakumbutsa munthu yemwe mumamudziwa, yemwe amamuitana dzina lake, ndiye kuti simuyenera kuopa. Ndizowona kuti nthawi zina malingaliro athu ndi chidziwitso chimasokoneza zithunzi. Koma, izi sizikutanthauza kuti munthu akhoza kusakaniza anthu enieni. Chifukwa chake, mulimonsemo, musayambe kukwatulidwa, kukwiya ndi kumuimba mlandu mnyamatayo pa machimo onse a dziko lapansi. Ngati mukudziwa mosakayikira kuti pali msungwana weniweni, yemwe alibe chibwenzi cha chibwenzi chako, ndipo dzina lake limamveka, ndiye kumwetulira ndi kusewera chinyengo.
Chabwino, chochita chiyani ngati mnyamatayo akutcha dzina limene silikudziwebe za munthu weniweni, koma likukhumudwitsa kale? Choyamba, tiyeni tifotokoze, momwe zinthuzo zinanenedwa. Ngati izi zidachitika mukamakambirana momasuka, ndiye kuti musayambe kumveka phokoso. Pambuyo pa zonse, mwinamwake, muli nacho kotero kuti, mwachitsanzo, nyimbo ina imabwera m'mutu mwanu ndipo imatuluka tsiku lonse. Kotero mwinamwake muli ndi dzina. Munthuyo amangomva dzina lake, koma popanda zifukwa zodziwika, anali atagonjetsedwa. Pokambirana, mnyamata angamuimbire popanda kukayikira, chifukwa chakuti mwakhazikika kwambiri mu "deta" yake kuti azikhala ndi chibwenzi. Koma, kuti mukhale chete, funsani kachiwiri, ndi ndani Masha, Dasha, Sasha, kapena yemwe anakuitanirani kumeneko. Ndipo yang'anani zomwe mnyamatayu anachita. Ngati adzikhala mwamtendere komanso mokwanira, adzayankha nthawi yomweyo, kapena kuganiza, izo zikutanthauza kuti palibe chowopsya chachitika ndipo dzina ili silikutanthawuza kanthu kali konse kwa iye. Koma pamene mnyamata wayamba molimba mtima kukumbukira ndi "kukana", maso ake akuthamanga ndipo iye wachifundo amayesa kudzilungamitsa yekha, zikutanthauza kuti pali cholakwika.
Anthu omwe alibe chobisala, sakhala olungama. Ngakhale mutayambitsa vutoli, mnyamatayu adzanena zoona ndikutsegula mutuwo. Iye sadzakhumudwitsa kapena kukopa. Ingosonyeza njira yonse yomwe iye ali woona mtima ndi wangwiro. Koma ngati, monga akunena, mnyamatayo ali ndi "mfuti", ndiye kuti ayamba kudziyesera yekha ndi kutuluka. Anthu onama, nthawi zonse komanso ndi mphamvu zawo zonse amayesera kubisa mabodza awo kuti azikhala bata komanso ozizira. Koma, ndi ochepa okha omwe angakhoze kuchita izi, makamaka ngati atadabwa. Choncho, ngati dzina limanenedwa ndi mnyamatayo limatanthauza zambiri kwa iye, iye ayamba kukuwonetsani inu ndi mphamvu zake zonse zomwe sakudziwa, adzadzilungamitsa yekha, kunena kuti mumamutsutsa, ngakhale mutangokhala chete. Pano mukhoza kumveka phokoso. Inde, musamangoganiza kuti akunyengerera. Koma, mwinamwake, iye ankakonda mtsikana wina, ndipo dzina lake linakhala pansi pa mutu wake. Ndicho chimene adakuitanani, ndipo tsopano adazindikira zomwe adachita ndikuyesera kukonza. Makhalidwe ake akhoza kutanthauziridwa awiri ofunika. Mnyamata akhoza kuchita zimenezi kuti atsimikizire kukhala maso komanso kupitirizabe kukhala pachibwenzi. Kapena, m'malo mwake, amamvetsa kuti wachita chinthu chopusa, ndipo pambali panu simukusowa wina aliyense, amaopa kutaya wokondedwa wake, ndipo amayesetsa kuti asiye kukayikira. Ngati njira yachiwiri yoyenera, mnyamatayu, pamapeto pake amavomereza. Koma pokhapokha ngati mumamuopseza mwakumagawana, ngati sakunena zoona. Mwinamwake, mnyamatayu adzalapa ndikupempha chikhululuko chanu, chomwe chimakondweretsa kale. Pomaliza, mwinamwake izi ndizingowonjezereka. Inde, kuti muteteze, muyenera kusonyeza kuti simukukondweretsani, koma ngati muwona kuti munthuyo amavomereza kulakwitsa kwake, musamuzunze kwa nthawi yayitali. Kuyang'ana munthu wina ndikutchula dzina la munthu wina si vuto lalikulu lomwe munthu angachite. Koma, ndikubwereza, kuti m'tsogolomu, palibe choipa chomwe chidzachitike, pambuyo pake, chitetezo choyenera chomwe chidzakupangitsani kuganiza nthawi yotsatira musanamuyimbire dzina lachilendo.
Choyipa kwambiri ndi ichi, ngati mnyamatayo akutcha dzina lachilendo, ngakhale panthawi yogonana, ndikuyesera kuti adzilungamitse yekha ndi kutulukamo, koma sakupeza ndipo akubwereza kuyesayesa kwake mwakhama kwambiri, zomwe mawu ake amakhala aliwonse zosavuta kwenikweni. Pachifukwa ichi, pali chifukwa chomveka chochitira nsanje ndikuganiza za izo. Chimachitika kumbuyo kwanu. Komabe, palibe mtsikana akufuna kukhala mosadziŵa ndikukhulupirira mu chikondi, pamene kale theka la mzinda likudziwa kuti amakonda kukondwera ndi mayi wina. Choncho, ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mnyamatayo akulankhula momveka bwino, yesetsani kumuuza zoona, ziribe kanthu momwe zimakhalira zowawa.
Zikatero, yankho la funso: Ngati munthu akutchula ndi dzina lina, kodi izi zikutanthawuza chiyani, zidzakhala zosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe mukufuna kumva. Koma, komano, ndi bwino kudziwa choonadi ndikudzipangira nokha momwe mungachitire, m'malo mochita ziwonetsero, zomwe zidzakanthidwa kwambiri, ndipo nsalu idzapweteka mtima wanu. Dzina lachilendo m'kamwa mwa bwenzi lanu lingakhale lopangika chabe ndi chifukwa choganizira za kukhulupirika kwake, kukhulupirika kwake, ndi chiyembekezo chake cha ubale. Chinthu chachikulu ndikutanthauzira molondola zomwe zimayambitsa ndikupeza mfundo zokwanira. Ndiye mukhoza kuchita zabwino, ngati zimachitika m'moyo wanu.