Ndayesera kulankhula naye nthawi zambiri, koma zonse zopanda pake, ndikuwongolera. Kawirikawiri mumatha kumva mawu akuti "Chabwino, pepani" kuchokera kwa iye, ndipo akunenedwa motero kuti ndimvetsetsa - izi ndizokomera. Ine nthawizonse ndakhala ndikutsutsana ndi khalidwe ili, koma posachedwa ndimamva kuti ndakhala wamanjenje, wokwiya ndipo ndikungoyankha mwamuna wanga chimodzimodzi. Chonde, lolangizani, momwe zingatheke kuti zinthu zikhale bwino.
Irina Chabwino, tsoka, izo zimachitika. Zoonadi, zochitika m'banja zimakhala zovuta kwambiri, ndipo ngati palibe chomwe chikuchitika, chikhoza kupita kutali. Choncho, nkofunika kuthetsa izo pa siteji pamene pali chikhumbo ndi mwayi wosintha chinachake.
Fuulani, ndipo mudzamva?
N'zovuta kukhulupirira, koma ndi momwe mawu amalingaliro amamveketsera pamene akufotokozera maubwenzi. Zikuwonekera kwa munthu kuti sangathe kufuula kwa wokondedwa wake mwachindunji kapena mophiphiritsa, kotero akukweza mawu ake. Ndichidziwikiratu. Koma nanga bwanji mawu achipongwe? Akatswiri a zamaganizo ali ndi ndondomeko.
Zoipa komanso zamanyazi nthawi zonse zimakhala zofiira komanso zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti zikhale "zofikira" kuti zisonyeze malingaliro anu. Koma mozama, zifukwa zosakhala ndi khalidwe loyenera la amuna ndizoti nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi khalidwe loletsedwa kuposa ife, amayi. Izi zimatikhudza mwachindunji, ndikusungunuka komanso kusakhutira, kuthamanga kwa mkati kumakula, ndipo kenako mwadzidzidzi -ndipo "inu, munthu woipa, mwawononga moyo wake."
Chifukwa china chomwe mwamunayo amakhala wamwano chingakhale chiri chomwe chimatchedwa "khalidwe lachitsanzo." Mwachidule, pakakhala mikangano, mwamuna kapena mkazi amachita zinthu momwe makolo ake amachitira.
Dzizisamalire nokha
Mwina sizosangalatsa kuwerenga, koma nthawi zina mkazi, yemwe mwamuna wake amakhala wamwano nthawi zonse, ayenera kuganizira ngati wadziika yekhayo. Pambuyo pake, monga akunena mwa anthu, "Ndikufuna kugunda kumbuyo kwanga," ndipo akatswiri a zamaganizo amadziwonetsera bwino kwambiri kuti: Wopweteka nthawi zonse amamupeza wolamulira. Kodi mungachite chiyani ngati ziri zoona, makamaka mbali? Ndikofunika kupeza pakati pakati pa "Ndili bwino kukhala chete kuchokera ku uchimo" ndi "Ndidzateteza maganizo anga kuti ndikhale osasamala." Yesetsani kuyang'ana mkhalidwewo kuchokera kumbali, mulole iye alankhule, ndipo pamene "kasupe wa kumverera" akutha, fotokozani momveka bwino zochita zake ndi kunena za momwe akumvera. Mwachitsanzo, "Mukufuula tsopano. Nchifukwa chiyani mukuchita izi? Mukachita izi, ndimamva kuti ndikunyozedwa ndipo ndikufuna kudziteteza. " Gwirizanani ndi mwamuna wake kuti, ziribe kanthu momwe mkangano uliri wotentha, simudzapita kwa munthuyo. Ndipotu izi ndizochititsa manyazi. Ndipo zimachokera ku izi, choyamba, mwamuna ayenera kuteteza hafu yake.
Gwiritsani ntchito awiri
Ngati mukumvetsa kuti chifukwa cha mavuto anu ndi khalidwe lachimuna la mwamuna, yesetsani kumukakamiza kuti apeze thandizo kapena uphungu (pa chifukwa china mawu awa amawoneka otetezeka kwa amuna) kwa katswiri wabwino wa maganizo a m'banja. Komabe, izi sizovuta nthawi zonse. Mulimonsemo, yesetsani kugwirizana ndi mwamuna (pamene adzakondwera) pa malamulo angapo panthawi yomwe akuganiza kuti watsala pang'ono kuphulika. Ngati mukumvera mwamuna wanu ndi "kulandira", zidzakuthandizani.
Kulongosola malingaliro anu muyenera kusankha malo apadera m'nyumba. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti izi si khitchini kapena chipinda chogona - timadziwa kuti malowa ndi apamtima kwambiri, choncho sayenera kugwirizana ndi mikangano.
Pa "mawu" mungakweze mau, koma kuitana ndi kunyoza - ayi-ayi. Komanso, simungathe kusokonezana. Ngati wophunzirayo akadali ndi zovuta, yesani njirayi. Sankhani chinthu chaching'ono (cholembera, kutalika kwa TV, botolo la zonunkhira) ndi kuvomereza kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi chinthu m'manja mwake ali ndi ufulu wosankha.
Kukhudzidwa mwathupi m'banja sikovomerezeka kwa anthu okha, komanso kwa zinthu. Ndipo simungatsutsane maganizo anu pakuponya kapena kuswa zinthu.
Ngati mukumva kuti maganizo akuyamba bwino, yambani kuyankhulana ndi zolemba. Choncho, kupha kapena kukweza mawu anu sikugwira ntchito. Inde, ndipo mwinamwake sudzaitanidwa, chifukwa ziganizo zidzakhala zowonjezereka komanso zopanda nzeru.
Kotero siziyenera kukhala!
Ndi nkhani ina pamene khalidwe la mwamuna ndilo machitidwe a ubale wanu. Iye ali ndi chidaliro cholimba kuti khalidwe lake ndilobwinobwino ndipo osati mopepuka nkomwe, koma kotero, kumatsutsa mosavuta? Ndi nthawi ya zida zolemetsa. Yesani pazinthu zina zomwe simukuzidziwa kuti muzitengere ku kamera ya m'manja kapena muzilemba izo pa dictaphone. Ndipo pamene iye ali wosasamala, amulole iye ayang'ane kupyolera kapena amve "umboni wonyengerera." Ngati sakaganizira za khalidwe lake pambuyo pake, pali zofunikira zambiri. Ndi nthawi yoti muganizire za ubwino womwe mumapeza kuchokera kwa banja lanu. Kukhazikika, chizoloŵezi, thandizo lazinthu ndizofunikira, koma kudzidalira kwanu ndi kudzidalira sikungaperekedwe nsembe chifukwa cha izo. Muyenera kudziwa kuti akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi mabungwe apadera pofuna chitetezo cha khalidwe lachidziwitso cha ufulu wa amayi omwe munthu amalankhula mobwerezabwereza wina, monga chiwawa. Ndikutsimikiza ngati mukufunadi kusintha zinthuzo kuti mukhale bwino, mutheka. Ndipo okhulupirika kwambiri a othandizi anu mu izi adzakhala kudzidalira ndi chikhulupiriro kuti mukuyenerera zokhazokha.
Dziyang'ane nokha
Inu, inunso, mudzilamulira nokha, chifukwa, timavomereza kuti ndife oona mtima, "akazi" ndi "kubweretsa kutentha" akazi amadziwa kuti palibe wina. Kodi mumaloleza mawu osayenerera ponena za mapindu ake? Kodi mukukayikira luso lake, kutsutsa ena? Khalidwe ili likuwonetsedwa ndi munthu aliyense ngati manyazi, akatswiri a maganizo amati. Wina amatseka, amakhala wosayamika, ndipo wina amadzipulumutsa yekha ndi zida zomwezo - kunyalanyazidwa, pokhapokha ngati mawu achipongwe ndi okhumudwitsa. Choncho nthawi zonse kumbukirani mtundu wa mwamuna yemwe mukufuna kukhala naye pafupi. Wochenjera, wamphamvu, wopambana? Ndiye muzimusamalira iye monga choncho.