Momwe mungayendetsere, kuti mnyamata asataye chidwi

Pa mphepo ya amuna athu nthawi zina mukhoza kulankhula kwa maola ambiri. Kodi ndi nthawi yochuluka bwanji yomwe tifunika kuchita nthawizina kuti tisunge "kopi" yomwe mumakonda pambali mwathu. Ndipo, ngati munthu wagwidwa ndi zovuta komanso mwadala, muyenera kukhala okonzekera zomwe ziyenera kuyesedwa chifukwa cha tsogolo lanu lachimwemwe. Popeza munthu wotereyu akhoza kutenthedwa mwamsanga, tikuyenera kudziwa njira zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kutsegulira okondedwa anu tsiku ndi tsiku, pamene mukukhalabe chinsinsi kwa iye. Nkhani yathu "Chochita, kuti mwanayo asataya chidwi" akukuuzani za zidule izi kuti mutha kuzigwiritsa ntchito.

Zoonadi, aliyense wa ife anakumana ndi zochitika zoterezi, pamene munthu akulengeza poyera, amati, watopa ndi chirichonse ndipo amamva momwe chikondi chosaonekacho chimasokonekera pakati panu. Azimayi ena amanyengerera ndi kudandaula kuti: Chabwino, akanatha bwanji kukonda munthu wokondedwa? Kuwidwa mtima kumabweretsa mavuto - ndipo amadula malingaliro, ngakhale kuti mu moyo omwe iwo amafunitsitsa kuwasunga iwo. Koma palinso akazi a mtundu wosiyana - iwo akufunsidwa ndi funso: "Chochita, kuti munthu asatayikire chidwi," osati nthawi yosintha kanthu, koma pasadakhale, pamene ubale ukuyamba kukula. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti pamene chirichonse chinapangika, simungathe kupulumutsa awiri anu.

Tiye tiwone kuti mnyamata wanu wasungunuka kwa inu ndipo ataya chidwi. Zili zomvetsa chisoni kwambiri, ndikuvomereza, koma muyenera kukhala pansi ndi kuzilingalira - chifukwa chiyani izi zachitika ndipo ndani ali chifukwa chake? Timakuchenjezerani kuti mapeto a zoyesayesa zanu sangachite bwino - pakuti mwamuna wanu nayenso ndi Munthu, ndi maganizo ake ndi maganizo ake, ndipo mwinamwake, adasankhadi zonse ndipo sangavomereze kuyanjanitsa. Konzekerani kutembenuka kwa zochitikazo.

Tsopano yang'anani nokha: kodi mwamuna uyu ndi amene mumamufuna? Kapena mwinamwake simukuwona zomwe mungachite pa mphindi ino ndipo ndi zanu - ngati mwayi wotsiriza wa munthu wamdima? Ganizirani mosamala musanapite ku nkhondo kuti mudzapeze tsogolo lanu pamodzi.

Yesetsani kumvetsetsa momwe vuto lanu lirili ndi mnyamata - izi ndi zofunika kuti mudziwe momwe mungapitirire mkhalidwe uno. Yambani pang'ono - dzikonzere nokha, sintha fano: lolani tsitsi lanu ndi zovala zisinthe kwambiri, ndipo mnyamatayo azindikire! Amuna amakonda chirichonse chatsopano, popeza amadandaula kwambiri ndi "akale". Ngati mukuona kuti izi sizinathandize, ndiye kuti vuto limadetsa kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire.

Mwa njira, nthawi zambiri, mmalo mokhala pansi ndikukambirana mofatsa pa nkhondo yomwe ikuchitika panopa ndi "chipani chotsutsa", timasunga zolakwika zonsezi ndikudzidzimutsa zomwe zili zolakwika mwa ife. Pali mizere iwiri ya khalidwe lathu ndi inu. Kapena timakhala ovuta ndi kuvomereza chirichonse, timayesa kusangalatsa "mbuye" kuti asinthe mkwiyo wake kuti amuchitire chifundo. Kapena, mmalo mwake, timakhala ndi chitetezo ndi kutenthetsa mtima wosakhutira ndi maso, komanso ndi zochita. Tawonani kuti tirigu wotsalira sapezeka muyeso yoyamba kapena yachiwiri. Koma kukonzekera kukambirana moona mtima pa nyimbo zabwino, mwinamwake, njira yabwino kwambiri. Pa nthawi yomweyi, kambiranani - kwa yemwe ndi zomwe zikuvutitsa, kaya muyenera kusintha ndi njira iti.

Pamene palibe wina ali ndi inu, khalani nokha mwapadera, khalani tiyi molimba ndikuganizira za khalidwe lanu. Izi sizosangalatsa - zowonongeka khalidwe lanu, makhalidwe anu "pamasalefu," yesetsani kumvetsetsa - mwinamwake mwakhala mukudya kwambiri panyumba, chomwe chimakuchititsani chidwi kwambiri ndi inu? Mwinamwake inu ndi mnyamata muli ndi zosiyana zosiyana? Mwinamwake akufuna kuti mugawire zilakolako zake kapena, musamulepheretse kuchita zomwe akufuna? Tengani tsamba ndi kulemba pa izo za zofooka zanu zonse. Izo sizingakhale kuti inu mulibe izo? Kenaka musamufunse munthuyo - kodi ndi zovuta ziti zomwe akuwona mwa inu? Ndipo fufuzani mndandanda. Choyamba, chifukwa cha ichi, mudzamvetsa zomwe mulibe, ndipo kachiwiri, mudzatha kumvetsetsa nokha ndi zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano yanu.

Komabe, kuseri kotereku kungakhale kosangalatsa komanso koyenera, komanso kosayenera. Mwachitsanzo, mumaganizira zofooka zanu ndikulephera kukhulupirira nokha. Monga, iye ndi wabwino komanso wokoma mtima, ndipo sindimkwanira iye, sindiri woyenera iye ... Atsikana, wokondedwa, simukuyenera kutaya chikhulupiriro mwa inu nokha ndi kupeza zosowa! Mundikhulupirire ine, amuna anu sangakukondeni konse. Inde, mayi ayenera kukhala wofooka komanso wopanda chitetezo, koma ziribe kanthu kwa iye. Kotero kumbukirani kunyada kwanu ndipo musalole kuti ikhale yonyansa pa dothi.

Izi, ndizomwe timapereka. Tsatirani ndikumvetsetsa vutoli - ichi ndi njira yoyamba yothetsera vutoli. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti vutoli liri mkati mwanu - yesani kusintha ndi kuyesa, yesani maso anu omwe mumawakonda nthawi zonse zatsopano ndi zodabwitsa - mulole mnyamata wanu asatope poganiza kuti mukuganiza bwino. Phunzirani kuvina kapena kuphika, kuthamangira kudzikuza kwachimwene wake - pambuyo pake, ayenera kunyada ndi atsikana awo - ndipo pokhapokha atagona pansi pachibwenzi chanu.

Koma ngati mwawona kuti kuyesera pano kulibe ntchito ndipo munthu wamphongo akuyang'ana chifukwa chochoka - ndiye musachimvere. Iye wasankha kale zinthu zonse ndikuziganizira mozama, mwa kupirira kwake iwe umangopweteka kwambiri - mwinamwake adzakwiya ndi iwe ndi kusamvetsetsa kwanu ndi kuchoka, kuchotsa mu mkwiyo wako ndi mkwiyo - zomwe, mukuvomereza, ndikumapeto kosalekeza ku ubale uliwonse - ngakhale omwe akhalapo nthawi yaitali utakhazikika.

Koma, zilizonse, chinthu chachikulu - musataye mtima! Ngakhale munthu atapita, sizikutanthauza kuti moyo watha. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, moyo umangopitirira, ndipo ndani amadziwa, mwinamwake pambuyo pa kutha kwina mudzakumana ndi chikondi chanu chowona ... Ndipo muyenera kukhala okonzeka kuti musaphonye kumverera kwanu nokha! Kuti mupeze mphamvu kuti muthe kuchoka ku mkhalidwe wakale, umene unatsirizika kutali ndi inu. Pofuna kuti anthu asamakhulupirire ndikumvetsa chisoni, koma kuti azikopa amuna ndi zozizwitsa zazing'onoting'ono zamaso ... Ziribe kanthu kuti chisangalalo cha amai chiri kwathunthu ndipo chimachokera kwa munthu wokondedwa yemwe ali ndi mbali yake! Kotero tiyeni tikhale okondwa, okondedwa ndi okondedwa akazi!