Nanga pali kusiyana kotani pakati pa kusakhulupirika kwa amuna ndi akazi? Chifukwa chiyani kufotokozera kugonana kwabwino, kukonza makonzedwe onse ndi maziko, akuyang'ana kwambiri chikondi chosangalatsa pabedi, osati ndi mwamuna wabwino, koma ndi wokonda? Tiyeni tiyesere kusanthula. Monga lamulo, mkazi amasintha, makamaka, "chifukwa cha chikondi". Mosiyana ndi amuna, momwe chidziwitso cha mwamuna chiri champhamvu, mkazi m'mabuku 90 mwa 100 samayang'ana maubwenzi okhaokha, koma chifukwa cha chiyanjano, zomwe zimakhumudwitsa mwamuna wake. "Sindimandikonda", "wokondedwa wake ndi wabwino kuposa ine", "adzandichokera ndikupita kwa wokondedwa wake" - zokhudzana ndi maganizo ngati amenewa sapereka mpumulo kwa mwamuna. Ndipo tiyenera kuvomereza kuti sali kutali ndi choonadi.
Ndipotu, ngati mkazi asankha kuchita zimenezi, zikutanthauza kuti moyo wake wa banja sungamufanane ndi chilichonse - kaya kukhala wopanda chiyanjano ndi kumvetsetsa, kapena chizoloŵezi ndi kusakhala wosangalala, kapena kusakhutira mu moyo wapamtima, kapena mavuto amthupi. Ndipo mwina zonsezi pamwambapa. Ndipo tsopano mawu akuti "kupandukira mkazi ndi wokondedwa" amasiya kuoneka ngati wonyansa ndi wosokonezeka - pambuyo pake, moyo ndi umodzi! Ndipo mkazi wotero "amapita ku zovuta zonse" - makamaka kusalumikizana ndi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo, amayi ambiri tsopano alibe: anzako, amalonda, ophunzitsa, masseurs, oyembekezera. Ambiri mwawo ndi okongola, makamaka antchito othandiza.
Kuphatikiza apo, akazi amafuna kumva okongola ndi ofunika! Ndipo "mwamuna wachibadwidwe", kupatula mpira ndi intaneti, samawona chirichonse, ndipo amapereka maluwa pa March 8, ndipo anaiwala za zoyamikira pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba la ukwati. Mwa njira, gawo lalikulu la mkazi limakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri mwa osankhidwa atsopano, poyamba owakondedwa awo, ndipo ndikumva chisoni ndikubwerera kwa amuna awo. Koma nthawi ikupitirira, palibe kusintha, ndipo amafunanso chinthu chatsopano cha chikondi.
Ndiye kodi mungalangize bwanji amuna anu kuti asatengere mkazi wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu? Malangizo ndi osavuta, koma mwa kuchita, tsoka! sizichitika kawirikawiri.
Mfundo yoyamba ndi yowonjezera kwambiri. Izi ndizo mayamiko, ndi mphatso "osati za", ndikuwonanso kavalidwe kapenanso kavalidwe katsopano, ndi chidwi pa ntchito yake ndi zosangalatsa.
Komiti yachiwiri ndi yachikondi kwambiri. Kutalika ku chizoloŵezi ndi chizoloŵezi - amadziwika kupha maubwenzi. Masewera a pikisini, kupita ku cinema, madzulo a masewera achikondi - zonsezi ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa mkazi aliyense.
Mbali yachitatu ndizosiyana mu moyo wapamtima. Sikofunika kuti muwerenge ngati Kama Sutra, kuphunzira maphunziro atsopano, koma ngati mumapatsa mkazi wanu, zovala zatsopano kapena zovala zokopa, mudzadabwa ndi kuchuluka kwa chikhalidwe chake. Kapena yesani kugonana pamalo osayenera (ndithudi, kusunga malamulo a khalidwe!). Zolemba pa nkhaniyi tsopano ndi kuyesa kwa nyanja!
Bungwe lachinayi ndizochita zokondweretsa. Zingakhale chirichonse - kungokhala palimodzi. Mwina mkazi wanu amakonda kuseka.
Ndipo chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsetsa kuti ngati banja liri ndi mgwirizano wogwirizana komanso pali chikondi, ndiye kuti palibe amene angayang'ane zochitika pambali. Kodi ndi kotani, ngati pali wokondedwa wanu wokondedwa omwe mumadziŵa, momwemo, omwe mumakhala wokondwa komanso omasuka?