Ndipotu, vutoli ndi loipa kwambiri. Inde, mayi aliyense adzakhala wosasangalatsa kwambiri ngati munthu amadzitukumula za amayi ena. Ngakhale atayankhula za munthu wake wolimba, palibe amene akufuna kumvetsera nkhani zake. Kugonana kwa msungwana, ndiko ndithudi.
Achinyamata ambiri amakhulupirira kuti chiwerengero cha amayi m'miyoyo yawo ndi umboni weniweni wa mphamvu, ulemu, kutchuka ndi makhalidwe ena omwe munthu angasonyeze kwa anyamata. Iwo samamvetsa ngakhale ndipo samayesa kumvetsa momwe amachitira zowawa mtsikana pamene akunena zinthu zoterozo. Ndipotu, ife, amai, timakhala tikudzimva kuti ndife apadera komanso osapindulitsa. Ndipo ngati mnyamata wanena izi, nthawi yomweyo lingaliro limapezeka kuti iye amakuyerekezera ndi ena. Kuwonjezera apo, ndizosasangalatsa kuzindikira kuti munthuyo, mwinamwake, akungodzitama pa moyo wako.
Ambiri mwa abambo samvetsetsa vutolo, ndipo ena amangochita zachinyengo ndikudziyesa kuti safuna kuti akhale. Zoonadi, zimakhala zosavuta kudziyerekezera kukhala wopusa ndikuuza mkazi kuti sakuzindikira kulakwitsa kwake, m'malo moyankha mawu ake omwe. Amuna ndi zinyama zambiri kuposa akazi. Kwa iwo, zochuluka zimatanthauza kuyesa ndi kutamanda kwa mamembala awo. Kwa izi, anyamata amangotuluka pakhungu kuti atsimikizire kuti ali abwino kwambiri. Chiwerengero cha amai mu moyo wa munthu ndicho chizindikiro chachikulu cha zabwino zake. Iwo amaganiza kuti njira yokhayo yomwe angapezere ulemu kuchokera kwa wina ndi mzake. Ngakhale munthu wachikondi, nthawi zambiri, amayesetsa nthawi zonse kumvetsera nkhani yokhudza akazi. Mwachidule, akuwopa kuti ena adzamupeza ali wofooka komanso wosasamala, motero amatha kunena zomwe sakuganiza. Pokhapokha iye samvetsa kuti anyamata ena amaganiza chimodzimodzi. Akuyesera kusonyezana zomwe iwowo sakufuna kwenikweni. Ichi ndi vuto la amuna - pazinthu zina zomwe iwo sali okondana wina ndi mzake, chifukwa akuwopa kutaya chizindikiro. Kawirikawiri, anyamatawa amatha kukamba za kupambana komwe kulibe komanso pamodzi ndi moyo kuti akambirane atsikana awo, akuyankhula za momwe alili opusa komanso osamvetsetseka. Inde, sindikukangana, amayi amachitanso zolakwitsa, koma zokambirana zoterezi zimachitidwa chifukwa anyamata akuyesera kutsimikizira wina ndi mzake momwe aliri omveka komanso abwino kuposa ife. Amuna nthawi zonse amayesa kudzidalira okha, chifukwa cha zolakwitsa, kapena zochita zathu, zomwe amawona zolakwitsa. Ngati mkazi ali ndi vuto, mwa lingaliro lawo, ayenera kulangidwa ndi mawu otere, kotero kuti mabwenzi samakayikira mphamvu ya khalidwe. Ngakhale ngati mnyamatayu sakuchita izi, angayese kusintha kusintha kwake kwa theka la kubwezera chinthu chochepa, chifukwa cha masewera kapena masewera olimbitsa thupi, omwe alibe chifukwa chabwino.
Nanga bwanji za amayi omwe ali mmavuto amenewa? Nchiyani chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa kuti anyamata asanene zinthu zosasangalatsa kumbuyo kwawo? Mkazi aliyense akufuna kuti ayamikiridwe. Ndicho chifukwa chake, nkhani zokhudzana ndi zoterezi za amuna ake, nthawi zambiri zimamuyika mayiyo, kenako amachititsa kuti azisokoneza. Izi sizodabwitsa, chifukwa ngakhale mtsikanayo analakwitsa, mwachiwonekere sanayenere kuzunzika ndikusambitsa mafupa kumbuyo kwake.
Ndipotu, zinthu zoterezi sizingatheke pachabe. Inde, simungathe kuchita ndi kudziyerekezera kuti simusamala. Koma, simungathe kupirira makhalidwe amenewa nthawi yaitali. Ngakhale amayi odekha kwambiri ndi anzeru, mwanjira ina samayimilira ndikukangana ndikusandulika kukhala apocalypse ya msinkhu wawo.
Ngati mukudziwa kuti mwamuna wanu amakonda kudzitamandira ndi amayi ena, choyamba musankhe nokha, koma mukufuna munthu woteroyo? Pambuyo pake, mwinamwake iye kwenikweni ndi womanizer. Ndipo mukufuna kugawana nawo moyo wanu ndi atsikana osiyanasiyana omwe simudziwa, ndipo simukufuna kudziwa? Dzifunseni funso ili musanapange zosankha zina. Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti mnyamata amadziwa yekha kuchita zinthu ngati izi, koma kwenikweni ali wokhulupirika komanso wachikondi, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kuyesa chinachake kusintha.
Choyamba, poyamba, mungathe kuyankhula zomwe zinachitika, kufotokozani momwe mulili osasangalala, ndi momwe zimapwetekera, kumva zinthu zotere kuchokera kwa inu nokha ndi wokondedwa wanu. Koma, mwatsoka, mwinamwake, izi sizigwira ntchito. Mnyamatayo apepesa ndikuphunzira kunama zabodza. Choncho, ngati zochitika zoterozo zikubwereza, ndipo ziyenera kubwereza, ndikofunikira kuchita mochuluka kwambiri. Musamapewe mtima wake, pempherani nthawi ndi misozi. Zikatero, nkhani zonse zimafunika kukwezedwa, kufotokozera zonse zomwe mukuganiza komanso, mwinamwake, ngakhale kuziyika, zotsirizira. Muyenera kumuuza mnyamata amene mukufuna kukhala yekhayo. Onetsetsani ndikudalira chilichonse. Ndi malemba amodzimodzi, amakulepheretsani kukhulupirira kuti munthu ameneyu angakupatseni inu malingaliro. Apo ayi, simukufuna ndipo simungathe. Ndi bwino kukhala nokha kusiyana ndi munthu amene simungamukhulupirire. Ndipo ngati mumaphunzira kuchokera kwa wina za zamatsenga kotero, sipangakhale funso la kudalirika. Kunyada kwa munthu kumbuyo kwake, pambuyo pake kudalira. Funsani funsoli mozama: kapena kodi limasintha chinthu chofanana ndi inu, kapena mumakonda kufalitsa. Ngati munthu amamukonda, adzalingalira maganizo ake ndikuyesera kusintha, kuti asatayike wokondedwa wake. Chabwino, ngati munthu amadzitamandira chifukwa cha amayi ena, chifukwa ali ochibadwa mwachibadwa ndipo safuna kuti akhale wosakwatira, ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani munthuyu akufunika pamoyo wanu? Ndi bwino kuvutika tsopano kusiyana ndi kuzunzidwa kwa zaka zambiri, kuchokera ku dzanja lachitatu kuti mumve za nokha miseche ndi nkhani zachilendo ndi zosasangalatsa. Kumbukirani kuti mwamuna weniweni amalemekeza mkazi mmodzi yekha - wokondedwa ndi wokondedwa, ndiye.