Kwa aliyense wa ife, pa msinkhu winawake, pali katundu wonyamulira kumbuyo kwa mapewa athu - chidziwitso, chidziwitso, zokhumudwitsidwa ndi nthawi zosangalatsa ... Koma ziribe kanthu momwe tasinthira ndi momwe timaonera moyo, timapitirizabe kukhala ndi makhalidwe omwewo ali mwana komanso ali wamng'ono ...
Ndipotu, kulephereka "kusintha mutu" kumatilepheretsa kwambiri, kumatilepheretsa kukhala omasuka ndi chinachake, kukhala ndi moyo wathunthu, osawopa mawa ... tiyeni tiganizire ndikuyankha moona mtima ngati mawu awa akukhudza ife:- Mmodzi mwa mwayi mu moyo, ndipo ena - osowa mtendere.
- Chilichonse chimapatsidwa kwa ine ndi mavuto aakulu ndi zovuta.
- Kwa ine m'madera ena pa mphindi yosayembekezereka kwambiri kugwa kwathunthu.
- Nkhani yosangalatsa ya moyo si nkhani yanga.
Ndine woyang'anira!
Koma tiyeni tiyambe ulendo wopita kale. Munthu aliyense amabwera kuyambira ali mwana, ndipo chidziwitso chathu chimakhala ngati chotsuka chotsuka, chomwe chimasonkhanitsa zonse zomwe amaziwona ndikuzimva. Ndipo malingana ndi zomwe zili "zochulukira" maganizo athu, ndipo moyo wathu umayamba.
Tidzafotokozera: chikumbumtima chathu ndi chakuti ngati wina ataphunzira kuchita chinthu chimodzi, ndikutsimikiza kuti sizingatheke kukwaniritsa ntchitoyo mwanjira ina. Choncho, sitepe yoyamba ya "kuchiza maganizo" ndiyo kubwereza "zenizeni zathu."
Kawirikawiri timapeza zifukwa zomveka zokwanira. Ntchitoyi ndi yoipa - palibe "shaggy paw", mwamuna amamwa - onse muzhiks ndi zidakwa, uyu ndibwino kuti asakumane - ndi womanizer, ndi zina zotero. Ndi maganizo awa ndi malingaliro omwe samatilola kuti tipereke zotsatira zabwino.
Ndiyeno sitepe yotsatira ya kufufuza kwathu ndi kudzifunsa tokha: kodi ndikusangalala ndi zotsatira zomwe ndalandira? Ngati, komabe, munavomereza kuti "zotsatira" za moyo wanu sizikugwirizana ndi inu, ndiye ndikofunikira kugwira ntchito ndi chikhulupiliro chanu, chifukwa chakuti momwemo ndiye kuti vuto lanu limayambitsa.
Zokonzedweratu zimapangidwira m'banja ndi chilengedwe - izi ndi axiom. Zochitika za azimayi zimakhudza kwambiri maganizo a ana ndi maonekedwe awo m'tsogolomu. Mmodzi wa makolo akufuna kulera mwana m'chifanizo chake ndi mawonekedwe ake, pogwiritsa ntchito zochitika zake. Ena akufuna kukweza mulu kutsogolo, kuti moyo wa mwanayo ukhale wabwino kuposa iwo. Ndipo pokhapokha gawo la apapa ndi amayi amaganiza kuti mwanayo ali ndi khalidwe lake lomwe, lomwe liyenera kulimbikitsidwa. Kuwonjezera pa makolo, malingaliro athu ndi zikhulupiliro zathu, ndithudi, zimakhudzidwa ndi anthu. Munthu amaumbidwa asanakwanitse zaka 25, ndipo pamene tikukula, gulu lililonse (sukulu, msewu, bungwe, ntchito) zimakhudza mwachindunji kapangidwe kathu ka chikhulupiriro, komwe tidzawona, kuyesa ndi kuchitapo kanthu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, chikhulupiriro chathu chimakhala ngati magalasi, kudzera mmenemo timawona moyo nthawi iliyonse. Ndipo zimatengera malingaliro awa, chomwe chidziwitso chathu chidzasankha mwapadera.
Zomwe timakumana nazo
Ndizochitikira zovuta zomwe zimatikakamiza kukhulupirira mkhalidwe umene ulipo mu malingaliro. Tangoganizani, tsiku lina, chifukwa cha ulesi wanu kapena pamene mzimu unasokonekera, munaganiza zochita "zina" zina, koma izi sizinali zolimba koma m'malo mwake, sizinasonyeze kuti ndizofunika kuti achite ntchitoyi. Choncho, zotsatira za ntchitoyi zinakhumudwitsa inu. Kuchokera pano, mwadzidzidzi mwafika pozindikira kuti kulimbikitsidwa kulikonse kumabweretsa zotsatira zochepa. Ndipo ngati izi zikubwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza, munthu amapanga lingaliro lakuti sangathe kuchita zambiri, ndiko kuti, mosamvetsetsa akuyamba kuchepetsa kuthekera kwake. Nthawi inanso, munthu woteroyo amayamba kuganiza kuti mphamvu zake ndizochepa, choncho, adzachita zinthu mosagwira ntchito mwamphamvu. Mwachitsanzo, timapatsidwa udindo wapamwamba komanso wodalirika, malo atsopano a ntchito, tikukayikira (ngakhale kuti tikufuna kupereka!) Ndipo ngakhale kukana, chifukwa "Sindinagwirepo ntchitoyi, sindikudziwa kuti ndingathe kulamulira" kapena " osati changa. " Izi zikutanthauza kuti ena mwa ife amakhulupirira, ndipo ife enieni?
Chowonongeko chotsatira chomwe chimayambitsidwa ndi zikhulupiliro zosagonjetseka, pamene timakayikira ena, kukwaniritsa zotsatira zolakwika ndi malingaliro ndi kuchita kudzera mu ndende ya zikhulupiriro zomwe zinapangidwa. Ndipo ndani angakonde izo, amakayikira chiyani? Kotero ife timataya abwenzi ...
Zotsatira
Kawirikawiri, gawo lawo loipa limasewera ndi zikhulupiliro pazinthu monga chikondi, ndalama, malingaliro ake. Sitikufuna, choncho tikuopa kulakwa, kuti tcheru tiyambe kupatsa zikhulupilirozo, ku malingaliro omwe amatikakamiza kuchita mozama mtima, popanda kudzipereka kwathunthu. "Musati mukanikize munthu, musati muwonetsetse, ndikuchita izi kapena ayi - komanso osati - chifukwa cha malipiro awa." Sindingasonyeze malingaliro, mwinamwake iye amadzikuza ndipo amachitira nkhanza malingaliro anga "... Izi ndizolakwika zosintha. M'malomwake, m'pofunika kuika maganizo anu pakupanga zikhulupiliro zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala nokha, kulankhula momasuka, kulakwitsa, kukonza, kuti musapirire. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, khalani ndi mphamvu zonse!
Tsogolo losangalatsa
Kusintha pang'ono koma kwakukulu pa njira yolingalira kungatsegule njira yopambana. Anthu onse omwe achita bwino ndi opambana mu moyo ali ndi proactivity, akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza. Kodi izi ndizomwe mungadzitenge nokha?
Proactivity ndi malo enieni a umunthu wa anthu, kuthandiza, ngakhale kuti zakhala zotani, kukwaniritsa zotsatira. Lingaliro ili ndilo:
Ntchito ndi malo ogwira ntchito. Palibe chinthu chopanda pake komanso chosafunika, chirichonse ndizo zomangamanga za pakali pano komanso zamtsogolo.
Udindo ndi njira yodziwira zoyenera, njira ndi zotsatira. Musati muzichita mwambo kapena mumachita kale kale zikwi za anthu. Ndi kuchita zofunikira kuti tikwaniritse zotsatira zake. Ndipo ngati mufufuza moyo wanu ndikuyamba kukhala mwakhama, zotsatira sizingakhalenso kubwera. Choncho pita patsogolo - usawope kupanga tsogolo lako!
Yankhani mafunso awa:
- Kodi ndinu anthu odzikonda kapena simunapeze njira yothandiza yogwira anthu?
- Ndi chiyani chomwe chili chabwino: kuikapo pangozi kapena kukhumudwa ndi mwayi wophonyezedwa?
- Ndi chiyani chomwe mukudandaula nacho: kuchita zinthu moyenera kapena kuchita zinthu zabwino?
- Kodi simuyenera kumvetsera chiyani, ndipo chofunika kwambiri ndi chiyani?
- Kodi ndi bwino kuyendetsa nthawi ndikuyesa kuchita zonse nthawi kapena kusiya zinthu ndikukhala mu nyimbo?
- Kodi mukuganiza kuti ena ali olondola kuti ali ndi luso lapadera, lopambana, lokhazikika kuposa inu, kapena mulibe (diamond) yopanda malire?
- Kodi mumasankha chiyani: kugwiritsira ntchito nthawi yanu, kudzaza zovuta kapena, potsirizira pake, mosamala mumapanga moyo wosangalala?
- Kodi mungasankhe chiyani kuti mukhale ndi minga ku nyenyezi (ndipo izi siziri zoona) kapena kuphunzira momwe mungaganizire moyenera?
- Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimakulepheretsani moyo wanu wodzala moyo wanu muyenera kuchotsedwa?
- Ndani kapena n'chiyani chomwe chingakuthandizeni kuti mukhale wopambana mu chikondi, ntchito, ndalama?