Mwinamwake kwa wina ndipo zidzakhala vumbulutso lakuti sikuti amayi okha akukumana nawo za kugonana kwawo. Onse ogonana amadandaula za momwe angachitire kuti theka likhale lokhutira ndi kukhutira pambuyo pa chikondi chogwirizana. Ndipo ngati kuli kovuta kuzindikira chitsimikizo cha munthu, sizikutanthauza kuti iwo sali. Kotero, amuna omwe akuwopa kwambiri pabedi ndi otani?
Mantha, omwe angadziŵike ndi mawu amodzi: "Bwanji ngati izo sizigwira ntchito?"
Pamene zonse ziri nthawi yoyamba pamene onse awiri ali ndi nthawi yabwino, funso lofanana, ngakhale mwachidule, limayendera ndi amuna ambiri. Komabe, manthawa amaipira ngati zinthu zoterezi zachitika kale. Ndi ndani yemwe zzahochetsya amamva ngati mnyamata wosadziŵa zambiri kapena kukhala chinthu chotonzedwa ndi mkazi, makamaka ngati mkaziyu akuyamikira. Kuwopa komweku kungakhale chifukwa chakuti ubale wopitilira mwamsanga sungasunthire ku sitepe yotsatira.
Kuchokera kutero, palibe amene ali ndi chitetezo, ndipo ngati zonsezi zikukukumbutsani za ubale wanu, muyenera kudzikonzekera nokha, ndikukonzekera njira yothandizira mnzanuyo. Choyamba, sikuli koyenera "kuthamangira paphewa", kuchotsa chiyanjano chonse ndi kuthawa kumanyazi amanyazi. Koma "tengani ng'ombe ndi nyanga" muzochitika izi sizothandiza, kupanikizika kwambiri kungapweteke kokha. Ndi bwino kuganizira zomwe zinapangitsa kukhala zosasinthika, mwinamwake mantha ophweka, kuwonekera mwa mawonekedwe a kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanuyo. Njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli ndi nthawi yokha komanso yogwirizana. Mulole mwamuna wanu amve kuti mkazi wofooka ndi wofooka ali pafupi ndi iye, ndi yemwe iye angaiwale mantha ake onse.
Opani kuti adzafanizidwa ndi amuna ena
Amuna ambiri amadziopa okha kuti mkazi adzafanizira ndi amuna awo akale. Kuopa uku kungakhale chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa mantha. Kuopa kotereku kungakhale kofunikira kwa chibwenzi chako pakali pano, ndipo kungabwere chifukwa cha zomwe simunapereke kwa wokondedwa wanu wakale. Inu, skoreevsego, ndipo simunaganize kuti mawu anu oyamba anali a chiyanjano chokwanira, koma pa bedi ankadziwa choti achite, akhoza kukhumudwa kwambiri. Komabe, si amayi okha omwe amakayikira.
Kotero, mawuwa adanenedwa kale, ndipo masautso amachititsa bwanji zotsatira zake zoipa. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani? Konzekerani nokha chifukwa chakuti zidzakhala zovuta kubwezeretsanso mtendere wa wokwera pamtunda kusiyana ndi kuwuphwanya. Zomwe ziri vamostaetsya, ndizochita khama ndipo ndi zofunika osati mawu okha, komanso zochita zowonetsa kuti iye ndi wabwino kwambiri.
Kuopa kumaliza kumaliza
Zizindikiro za thupi lamwamuna zimadzala ndi zinsinsi zambiri, ndipo si zachilendo. Mwinamwake, kotero kuti munthu amadziwa kuti chithunzi chomwecho chitha kuchitika, ndipo ndithudi, chimabisa chirichonse mulimonse momwe zingathere. Ndipo zimachitika mwanjira imeneyi, sikuti ndizochepa, koma, monga akunena, zonse zimachitika.
Kotero ngati mukukumana ndi izi, musati mutengepo kanthu kalikonse, mwinamwake bwana wanu anali chabe nkhawa, kapena mbuye wake wakale sanali womvetsa chisoni, zomwe zinasiyidwa chizindikiro china. Amuna ndi anthu, ndipo palibe munthu amene ali mlendo kwa iwo.
Ngati mwamuna wanu wokondedwa adzasowa nthawi, kotero kuti mtsogolo moyo wanu wa kugonana unali wokondweretsa kwa onse awiri. Yesetsani kupatula nthawi ya prelude musanayambe kugonana, pang'onopang'ono mwamuna wanu amakhala osasokonezeka maganizo, ndipo chimwemwe chanu chidzakhala chotalika komanso chogwirizana, chifukwa Adzangoganizira za inu nokha, osati za momwe angapunthire.
Kuopa wokondedwa wanu
Izi zimachitika kuti amuna amangoopa mantha awo, ndi pamene amayi ali otanganidwa pabedi kapena otsutsana kwambiri. Mtundu woyamba wa amayi amauza amuna kale, nthawi ndi pambuyo, kugonana, ndi chiyani chomwe ayenera kuchita. Ngati kamodzi kokha kakhoza kutsimikizira kuti mwamunayo akufuna kudziwa, ndiye kuti m'tsogolomu amangozembera pokhala chidole, yemwe amalamulira popanda kulandira chakudya.
Amayi ambiri osasamala, amatsutsidwa chifukwa chakuti sagwirizane ndi kugonana. Mwinamwake izi zimayambitsidwa ndi maofesi ndi kudzichepetsa kwambiri, koma ndani amene angafune kugwilitsila nchito mphamvu ndi moyo popanda kulandira kanthu kalikonse.
Kodi mungamulangize chiyani pa nkhaniyi? Tangoganizirani nokha pamalo a munthu wanu ndikuganiza zomwe iye ali, ndipo mukanakhala bwanji mmalo mwake. Poyambirira, yesetsani kuganizira mozama za inu nokha, koma pazochitika zachiwiri, tangosangalala ndi kusangalala ndi ndondomekoyi. Mu kugonana, palibe malo a mantha ndi kudzikonda, pano zonse ziyenera kukhala zogwirizana, koma ayi.