Pofuna kumvetsetsa mphete ngati mphatso - ku chiyanjano chisanakwane, muyenera kuonetsetsa kuti mkhalidwewu ndi mawu, khalidwe ndi khalidwe la mnyamatayo.
Kotero, chizindikiro ichi chimatanthauza chiyani? Choyamba, tiyeni tiwone, chifukwa chake, munthu amapereka mphete? Mwinamwake akungodziwa kuti mphete iliyonse ndi mphatso yabwino kwambiri kwa inu ndipo amafuna kuti ikhale yosangalatsa, koma popanda zonse zomwe mumalota. Kumbukirani kuti mnyamata amachitira izi mphatso mosavuta. Ngati akudziwa kuti mumakonda mapepala oterewa, ndiye kuti mphatsoyi ili ndi maganizo omwewo, omwe angapereke mphatso kapena mphete kapena nsalu. Ngati mnyamatayo anapereka mphete ya tsiku lake lobadwa ndipo sananene mawu omwe akufuna kukhala nawo kwa moyo wake wonse, mwinamwake iye anangopereka mphatso yabwino ya dzina la tsiku ndi zina. Inde, mtsikana wachikondi amafunadi kuti icho chinali chiyanjano. Koma, musachedwe. Ngati munthu wakupangitsani mphatso yamtengo wapatali komanso yokongola, zikutanthauza kuti ndinu kutali kwambiri ndi iye. Amuna amapatsa akazi zinthu zamtengo wapatali pokhapokha atawaganizira kwambiri. Mwinamwake ichi sichiri chochita, komabe, mumakhala malo apadera m'moyo wake. Chifukwa chake, chinthu chachikulu sindikuwopseza mnyamatayo. Palibe chifukwa chake simukumuuza kuti mpheteyo ikunena kuti "yopsezedwa" ndi ukwatiwo. Mundikhulupirire ine, ndi khalidwe ngati limenelo mudzamunyengerera ndikukuopsezani. Pamene mwamuna ali ndi chikhumbo chokwatirana ndi munthu wina, amaganiza za izo kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo kenako amapanga chisankho. Pankhaniyi, mnyamatayo sayenera kukakamizidwa. Kupanikizika kwa amuna - kuwopsa kuposa kulira ndi amatsenga. Zikuwoneka kuti mwa njira iyi, mkazi amayesa kuchotsa ufulu wawo kwa iwo. Ndipo pambuyo pa zonse, kukwatirana, makamaka, ndilo kuletsa ufulu. Osachepera, amuna ambiri amaganiza choncho. Ndipo ngati sakuganiza, ndiye kuti padzakhala bwenzi lapafupi lomwe lidzamuuza kuti ndibwino bwanji kuti akwatirane ndi momwe zimakhalira ufulu. Mwatsoka, anyamatawo akuopa kwambiri kutenga chisankho ichi ndi kukwatira mwamuna amene amamukonda. Ndipo, poopa kwambiri munthu, zimamuwoneka kuti aliyense akuyesera kumukakamiza kuti achite chinachake ndi kutenga chinachake kuchokera kwa iye. Choncho, ngati munthuyo wapereka mphete ngati mphatso, mumthokoze kuchokera pansi pamtima ndikumuuza kuti mumasangalala kwambiri, koma musaganize zowonongeka pa banja lake. M'kupita kwa nthawi, adzalandira chisankho ichi. Ndipo, pakali pano, msiyeni amudziwe kuti mumamukonda komanso kumukonda. Ngati mukufuna kuyamika mnyamatayo chifukwa chodabwitsa kwambiri, patsiku la kubadwa kwake kapena pa tsiku lapadera, mukhoza kumupatsa mphatso yamtengo wapatali. Zoonadi, izi siziyenera kukhala mphete, monga momwe amuna ambiri samavala zokongoletsa konse. Koma, zikhoza kukhala unyolo, chibangili, wotchi, mafuta onunkhira, kapena chinachake chimene akufuna kwa nthawi yaitali, koma chifukwa chake sankatha kugula. Pogwiritsa ntchito mphatso zoterozo, mumatsindika mwapadera kwa mzimayiyo ndipo momveka bwino ndikudziwa kuti mtsikanayu amadziwa zomwe akufuna komanso amakonda, amayesa kumupangitsa kukhala wabwino ndikuganizira zokhumba zake, komanso zomwe amakonda .
Koma, mwina mwinamwake mnyamatayu sanangokupatsani mphete, koma adampatsa iye, kunena kuti ndinu ake enieni komanso okondedwa ndipo amasangalala kuti muli pamodzi. Kodi mawu oterewa angatengedwe ngati ndondomeko? Mwachidziwikire, mphatso zomwe zimaperekedwa ndi zokambirana zingathe kuonedwa ngati chenjezo kuti posachedwapa mnyamatayo adzapempha dzanja lanu ndi mtima wanu. Kulankhula mawu oterowo, amadziwa kuti ali wokonzeka kukhala ndi inu nthawi zonse, koma akudzidzimutsabe ndi mantha ena ndipo, chifukwa chake, mnyamatayo sakunena chinthu chofunika kwambiri. Koma, ngati amaika mpheteyo pa chala chanu panthawi imodzimodziyo imayankhula za chikondi chake chopanda malire, ndiye mutha kukondwa kuti posachedwa mudzakwatirana. Ngakhale, kachiwiri, sakusowa kuti amudandaule pa chirichonse ndikumukankhira iye ku cholinga. Iye adziwerengera yekha. Ngati mnyamata amadziwa kuti ndiwe tanthauzo la moyo wake, ndiye kuti ali pafupi kuti apite nawe njira yonse ya moyo.
Mwa njira, samverani mtundu wa chikondwerero mphatso yotereyi inapangidwa. Ngati, ili ndi Tsiku la Okonda Onse, kapena mtundu wina wa tsiku lanu lokha, limatanthauza kuti zochita zake ndizobwezeretsa zokondweretsa zokwatira. Ngakhale iye sakudziwa izi, chidziwitso chimasankha masiku awa, chifukwa sakufuna chikondi, komanso zolinga zogwirizana nazo.
Nanga ndi ziti zomwe msungwana angakhale wotsimikiza kuti mpheteyo ndizochita zisanachitike? Chabwino, mwinamwake, zimachitika akafika pachibwenzi, mnyamata amagwada, amapatsa maluwa, amapereka mphete, ngati mphatso kuti apange chibwenzi, ndipo amafunsa ngati akufuna kukhala mkazi wake. Pankhaniyi, palibe chokayika. Chirichonse chiri chowoneka bwino, ngati tsiku. Kotero mphete zimaperekedwa kokha kuti posachedwa mutenge mkazi wanu wokondedwa ku ofesi ya a registrar ndipo chotero, posachedwa, chisokonezo chosangalatsa chidzayamba asanakwatirane.
Mkazi wachikondi nthawizonse amafuna kuti zichitike ndendende zomwe zinanenedwa m'nkhaniyi. Koma, kuti izi zichitike, wina sayenera kuyendetsa akavalo. Ndiloleni ndikukumbutseni kuti mphete siziperekedwa kwa alendo komanso atsikana, omwe mwamuna sagwirizana ndi ubale weniweni. Komabe, mosadziwa, mnyamatayo amadziwa kuti mpheteyo ndi chizindikiro. Ndipo ngakhale ngati saikapo tanthauzo la tanthauzo la mphatsoyo, amadziwabe kuti izi sizongoganizira chabe, koma zina. Chifukwa chake, mutalandira mphete ngati mphatso, mungasangalale kuti ndinu wokondedwa kwambiri, mkazi wokondedwa mu moyo wanu chifukwa cha mnyamata wanu.