Koma, ngati ndilo banja limene mwamuna ali wamng'ono kuposa mkazi, momwe angayang'anire ubale woterowo? Inde, choyamba muyenera kupanga malo oti palibe aliyense amene ali ndi ufulu wokwera mu banja la wina ndikukambirana zomwe zikuchitika kumeneko. Kwa anthu, zilibe kanthu kaya ndi wamkulu kapena wamkulu. Zokambirana za mtundu umenewu ndizo kwa iwo omwe amakhala ndi imvi ndi osasangalatsa, akudana ndi chimwemwe cha ena ndikuyesera kudzikondweretsa okha mwanjira ina.
Kuthetsa funsolo: banja limene mwamuna ali wamng'ono kuposa mkazi, mungathe kukambirana za maganizo komanso kumvetsetsa zomwe zimachitika pawiri. Choyamba, zonsezi zimadalira kuti mnyamatayo ndi wamng'ono bwanji kuposa mtsikanayo. Ngati m'badwo uwu uli mkati mwa zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndiye, nthawi zambiri, palibe chachilendo, makamaka, cholakwa. Komabe, alipo achinyamata omwe ali kale ali ndi zaka makumi awiri ali ndi nzeru ndi zochitika pamoyo. Iwo ndi odalirika ndi achikondi kwa akazi awo amtima ndipo, pakadali pano, zaka sizomwe ziri chizindikiro.
Mkhalidwewo ndi wosiyana kwambiri pamene mkazi ali wamkulu kuposa mwamuna kwa zaka khumi kapena kuposerapo. Apa, amayi akuyenera kumvetsa bwino zomwe akufuna kuchokera kwa anyamata wawo, ndipo chofunikira kwambiri, momwe amachitira ndi iwo.
Kaŵirikaŵiri zimachitika kuti muukwati wosafanana, mwamuna, makamaka, amakhala ndi mwana wamwamuna. Azimayi amakonda kuthamangitsa okondedwa awo, komanso amadzimva kuti ali ndi udindo kwa iwo omwe ali aang'ono kuposa iwowo. Ndicho chifukwa chake, zingatheke kuti m'banja mulibe mwamuna ndi mkazi, koma mwana ndi mayi. Ana opitirira muyeso, nthawi zambiri, ali ochepa komanso osadziwika. Iwo sangapeze ntchito yabwino kwa iwo okha, akuchita zopanda pake zopanda pake ndipo amangopempha ndalama. Ndipotu, Alfonso, yemwe ali wokonzeka kukhala ndi ndalama za wina. Ndicho chifukwa chake, akazi sayenera kukondera komanso kuwalimbikitsa okondedwa awo. Ngati awona kuti mzimayiyo sakufuna kuti asinthe moyo wake, akwaniritse chinachake ndi kukhala wamkulu kwambiri, sikungapweteke kuganiza za mkhalidwewo. Pambuyo pake, mkazi aliyense alota ana, ndipo anyamatawa ndi oipa kwambiri kwa abambo. Mfundoyi sizodabwitsa. Modzidzimutsa ndi pang'ono, mzimayiyo amayamba kukhala "mwana" yekha m'banja. Mkazi amayesera kumuchitira iye zabwino zonse, akwaniritse zovuta zonse ndi kukhululukira zolakwa zonse. Koma, mwana akawonekera mnyumbamo, chikondi chachikulu ndi chisamaliro chidzapita kwa iye. Ndipo kutembenuka kumeneku sikusangalatsa kwambiri kwa ana-makanda. Amamuchitira nsanje momveka bwino mwanayo, amamuimba mlandu chifukwa chosowa chidwi kwa okondedwa awo, ndipo pakapita nthawi, amatha kuthetsa banja. Chowonadi n'chakuti amunawa sangakhale okonzeka kutenga udindo wawo pa moyo wawo wonse. Amakwatiranso akazi akulu kuposa iwowo, kuti wina azikonza nthawi zonse ndikuthetsa mavuto onsewa. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, mwamuna wotereyo akhoza kusintha ndikukhala mwamtendere, pomwe mkaziyo adzaponyera moyo wake ndi robot.
Palinso nthawi pamene amai amasankha amuna omwe ali achinyamata kuposa iwowo kuti amve kuti ali achinyamata, kuti amve kukoma kwa moyo. Ndipotu, izi ndizodzidzimva kukhala chinyengo. Ngati munthu ali wachinyamata pamtima, adzakhalabe ndi anzake. Ndipo kuyesera kuti agwirizane ndi moyo wachinyamata ndipo amawoneka ngati wamng'ono pothana ndi wokondedwa wake, amawoneka wopusa komanso wopusa. Kuphatikizanso, mnyamata angakambirane molakwika mkazi wake chifukwa cha maso ake komanso amamuchitira manyazi. Maukwati oterewa amachitikira pokhapokha ngati mayiyo ali ndi ndalama zokwanira, zomwe zimakondweretsa mwamuna wamng'onoyo. Amakhala pazinthu zake, koma osati chifukwa cha infantilism, koma mwa kuwerengera. Mnyamatayo amamvetsetsa bwino, chifukwa chake mkaziyu amachikonda ndipo amangogwiritsa ntchito. Iye akhoza kusewera pamodzi ndi kusonyeza chikondi chomwe sichipezeka. Pakati pa achinyamata awa pali ochita masewera olimbikitsa. Azimayi zaka zambiri samadziwa kuti amuna amasintha, amanyazi ndipo samaganizira momwe akumvera. Mu ubale umenewu, ndithudi, palibe chabwino chilichonse. Choncho, amayi amafunikira nthawi zana kuti aganizire asanakwatirane ndi mnyamata wokongola, kuti akwaniritse moyo wake ndi mitundu yatsopano.
Milandu iwiri yomwe tatchulidwa pamwambayi ndiyomwe imakhala yotchuka kwambiri pamene ukwati wosalinganika ndi woipa. Koma, ndithudi, ichi si lamulo. Zimapezeka kuti mnyamata wamng'ono akhoza kukonda mkazi wokhwima kwambiri. Pankhaniyi, banja limene mwamuna ali wamng'ono kuposa mkazi n'zotheka. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti mayiyo aone kuti mwamuna wake wayamba kale kuntchito yayikulu ngati ukwati. Iye akuyesera kuti apindule chinachake mu moyo ndi kuyima mwamphamvu pa mapazi ake. Komabe, mu ubale ndi amuna omwe ali aang'ono kuposa akazi, muyenera kusamala kuti musalowe m'chikondi chachikondi. Mayi aliyense amafunitsitsa kukonda wokondedwa wake ndi kumuwona mwabwino kwambiri. Musati muchite izi. Izi zikhoza kuwonetsa kuti mkazi samangowona kwenikweni zazomwe zimakhalira mnyamatayo komanso zifukwa zenizeni zaukwati wawo. Pamene akunena: khulupirirani, koma onani. Choncho, amayi achikulire okhwima sayenera kuiwala za moyo wawo komanso nzeru zawo, ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito. Inde, izi ndi zabwino pamene chikondi chimatembenuza mitu yathu, koma, ngakhalebe, palibe amene akufuna kugwa kuchokera kumwamba kupita padziko lapansi. Kotero, musanalole kuti mnyamatayo alowe mu mtima ndi moyo, muzimuthandiza moona mtima ndipo ngati mumvetsa kuti, ngakhale ali ndi zaka, iye akadali munthu weniweni, ndiye malangizo kwa inu ndi chikondi.