Mwana wamba, pamene ali ndi amayi ake m'mimba, amathera nthawi yoyamba ya moyo wake yekha, mosiyana ndi mapasa omwe ali pafupi kwambiri. Ndipo izi zikufotokozera muzinthu zambiri chikondi chawo chodabwitsa pamlingo wa "miyoyo ya achibale".
Chifukwa cha kugwirizana kwapafupi, mapasa amatha kumverera wokondedwa wawo patali kapena akudandaula pamene sawonana kwa nthawi yaitali. Kuyambira kubadwa kwawo, amadziona kuti ndi amodzi komanso osagawanika! Koma nthawi yomweyo, ngakhale asanabadwe, amayamba kulimbana ndi utsogoleri. Ndipo kale m'mimba mwa amayi anga, mmodzi wa iwo adzalephera "kugonjetsa" dera lalikulu. Ndipo ndi iye yemwe adzakhale mtsogoleri ndipo adzawoneka, ngakhale kwa mphindi zingapo, koma mapasa ake asanafike. N'zochititsa chidwi kuti, ngakhale kuti ndi zamoyo zosadziwika, mpikisano wawo udzakhala nthawi iliyonse, ngakhale nthawi yochepa chabe.
Kodi molondola bwanji: "Ine" kapena "Ife"?
Ngati pali mapasa awiri m'banja, nthawi yomweyo makolo amachititsa chidwi chodziwika bwino: ana ayenera kukhala ofanana pa chilichonse. Ovala bwino ndi ophatikizana, toyiranso zomwezo ndi zina. Izi zikutanthauza kuti makolo amapanga ana awo okondedwa mofanana mofanana. Zomwezo ndi chidwi. Ngati mutha kusewera kapena kuyankhulana, ndiye kuti zonsezi, kotero kuti mbali zina zowonongeka zili zogwirizana. Choncho sizosadabwitsa kuti ndi njira zotere za maphunziro a mapasa, ali aang'ono kwambiri, ana amazindikira kuti "Ine" ndi ovuta kuposa ana ena. Lingaliro la "Ife" limapangidwa kale kwambiri ndi mofulumira kusiyana ndi lingaliro la mwiniwake. Ana awiri amodzi kuyambira ali mwana amadziwa kuti chidwi chenicheni cha anthu ndichinthu chodziwikiratu, kudziwitsatu kuti kufanana kwawo ndi chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri.
Kotero kusiyana kwake ndi kotani?
Kufanana kwa mapasa sikukhudza kokha munthu aliyense, koma kungathandizenso kukula kwa maganizo kwa ana, makamaka ngati alibe abale ndi alongo ena. Angathe kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chokhalitsa "kubisala" wina ndi mzake, chifukwa cha kufanana kwake, ngati akuwoneka ngati ana angapo omwe ali ofanana. Pamapeto pake, kufanana kumeneku ndi khalidwe lawo lalikulu lomwe angagwiritse ntchito nthawi zonse.
Ndipo nthawi zina mapasa amatha kudzimangira okha microcosm, malo osawerengeka omwe palibe, ngakhale makolo awo, omwe angafune kulowetsa, pofuna kulankhulana okhaokha, chifukwa ali omasuka kwambiri. Mwa njira iyi akhoza kubisala kwa aliyense amene akuzungulira iwo, ndipo ayang'ane wina ndi mnzake. Kawirikawiri, mapasa, ngakhale osadziŵa, amapanga chinenero chawo, amamvetsetsa okha, chifukwa chomwe makolo angayambe kudera nkhaŵa ana awo. Nanga mungapewe bwanji "kusamuka" kotereku m'banja?
Ndipotu, zonse n'zosavuta! Pali mbali zina za maphunziro a mapasa, omwe ndi okwanira kutsatira.
Choyamba , tsindirani zosiyana ndi ana! Kuyambira kubadwa, yesetsani kuvala ndikusakaniza mosiyana. (Mwachitsanzo, Masha akudula, Olya ali ndi pigtails, Vanya ali ndi kapu ya buluu, Petya ali ndi zobiriwira). Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti mwana aliyense amafunikira malo ake, ndipo ziribe kanthu kaya ali ndi mapasa kapena ayi. Aliyense akhale ndi zidole zake, mabuku, mbale, mabala, ndi zina. Komanso zithunzi za ana zimathandizira kumanga "I". Aliyense akhale ndi album yake yajambula, komwe angayankhe zithunzi zomwe amakonda.
Chachiwiri , sungani nthawi osati palimodzi, komanso fufuzani mipata ndi masewera ndi mapasa awiri pamodzi, kuyambira pa msinkhu. Pambuyo pake, mwanayo ayenera kumvetsera chidwi cha amayi ndi abambo, atangoganizira za iye yekha. Palibe choipa chomwe chidzachitike ngati papa akuyenda ndi Masha pakiyi, ndipo amayi anga adzatenga Olga kuyenda kumtsinje. M'malo mwake, akabwera kunyumba, adzatha kugawana maulendo awo. Pokhala payekha, ana adzakhoza kudziwana ndikupeza chinenero chofanana ndi ana ena, ndipo dziwani kuti pali anyamata ena okondweretsa omwe mungasangalale nawo, monga ndi mbale kapena mlongo.
Chachitatu , tiyeni tikhale ndi ufulu kusankha aliyense wa mapasa: kodi zidole zogula, zipatso zotani, kuwerenga buku. Ngakhale chisankho chochepa kwambiri chidzaphunzitsa mwana kupanga zosankha ndi kumvetsa zofuna zake.
Nthawi yomweyo ndikofunikira kunena kuti ndibwino kuti asiye kusewera okha, kapena kuti azidyetsa, pokhala pafupi nawo, ayi. Chifukwa cha mapasawo, adakali pafupi kwambiri. Koma inu muyenera kudzizoloŵera nokha, ndi iwo, kuti iwo ali pawokha. Mwana wina akamasowa zambiri komanso nthawi zonse, wachiwiri amalandira iwo, chifukwa cha kampaniyo. Choncho, yachiwiri ili ndi ngozi yowonjezereka. Kapena, mwachitsanzo, ngati mapasa ali otopa kwambiri kuposa momwe amachitira ("ayimirira pamtunda wolakwika", atayankhidwa mobwerezabwereza, amayankha kusintha kwa nyengo, ndi zina zotero), wina amamuyika iye atagona kale, gwiranani chanza ndi kumudzudzula. Maapasa a amayi, mosakayikira, adzayenera kukhala owirikiza, omvera komanso opindulitsa!
Mtsogoleri ndani?
Awiri, ndiye gululo kale! Ndipo ubale umene uli mmenemo umakhala wapadera, womwe unayambira asanabadwe. Kawirikawiri m'mapasa awiri a utsogoleri amakhala ndi mwana woyamba kubadwa, ndipo wachiwiri amachititsa udindo wa kapolo. Mtsogoleri amatsogolera mchimwene wake kapena mlongo wake, akuyambitsa mitundu yonse ya zinthu, kapena woyamba akuyamba kupeza mgwirizano. Mu mgwirizano woterowo, mapasa othamangitsidwa kawirikawiri samatsutsa udindo wotero ndipo amavomereza zofuna zonse za mtsogoleri. Koma makolo ayenera kuthandizira ngati izi zikhale zovuta. Mwachitsanzo, pakuchita ntchito, kapolo ayenera kuikidwa ngati ntchito yaikulu. Lolani mapasawo asambe mbale palimodzi, koma mapasa awiriwa adzafotokozera ntchito yomwe idakutsogolereni.
Ndizovuta kwambiri kupirira ndi mapasa-atsogoleri. Pali mgwirizano wotero! Pachifukwa chotere, aliyense wa ana akufuna kulamulira, choncho nkhondo ya utsogoleri ndi nkhani yamba m'mabanja oterowo. Koma mgwirizanowu wodabwitsa ukhoza kubweretsa mtendere ndi bata. Imodzi mwa njirazi ndi njira yothetsera vuto. Kuti athetse mikangano, aloleni makolowo asankhe mtsogoleri wawo, koma ali ndi chikhalidwe choti nthawi yotsatira idzakhala yachiwiri. Lamuloli liyenera kusamalidwa, kotero kuti sipadzakhala mikangano ndi kusagwirizana pakati pa mapasa. Ndipo ngati mapasa anu mosagwirizana amapatsana wina ndi mzake ufulu woyendetsa, popanda ma grafu ndi zokopa, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kuchirikiza demokalase yotere mu mgwirizano wawo ndi kusasokoneza mu ubale wawo.