Ndikulumbirira kulankhula choonadi, ndi choonadi chokha
Mnzanu wapamtima ndi wabwino koposa, osamanama. Ndipo sikumangotiuza mnzanu za chirichonse. Choyamba, chofunika kwambiri, abwenzi abwino nthawi zonse amalankhula zoona pakakhala zolakwika ndi zosankha. Inde, uwu ndi kusiyana pakati pa bwenzi lapamtima ndi bwenzi. Makamaka zimakhudza kugwirizana pakati pa abwenzi. Atsikana ndi zolengedwa zowopsya, kotero sikuti aliyense anganene kuti amachita zinthu momveka bwino, kuti kavalidwe kameneka kakuwoneka kosasangalatsa komanso kuti ndi nthawi yochotsa m'nyumba mwako, chifukwa ndizosazolowereka. Koma bwenzi lapamtima nthawi zonse amalankhula za izi, chifukwa ali ndi ufulu. Amakudziwani bwino kuti mawu ake sangathe kutsutsidwa, kulungamitsidwa pamaso pake kapena kungokhumudwitsa. Bwenzi lapamtima la izi silinayambe. M'malo moyamba kupepesa, akupitirizabe kugwedeza mzere wake, chifukwa amadziwa kuti nthawi zonse choonadi chimakhala chabwino kusiyana ndi kunama. Osati mbadwa yambiri tikuyesera kuchepetsa zinthu izi, chifukwa tikuopa mikangano. Koma mnzanu wapamtima amaona kuti ndi udindo wake kutsegula maso ake kwa munthu wapafupi, ngakhale pamene akukangana ndi mkangano. Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, muubwenzi, ufulu ndi maudindo nthawi zonse zimatsutsana. Tili ndi ufulu wolankhula ndi bwenzi lapamtima pa zolakwitsa zake, chifukwa ndizo zomwe iwo amakonda komanso nthawi yomweyo timayenera kunena zoona izi kuti titeteze munthuyo kuchokera ku chisankho cholakwika kapena chosankha chomwe chingasokoneze moyo wake.
Mnzanu sangaleke, sangapemphe zambiri
Mnzanu wapamtima ali ndi ufulu wosayamika kanthu ndipo nthawi yomweyo akuyembekeza kumvetsetsa ndi kuthandizira. Ndipo izi sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa pamene tipempha za munthu, timatsogoleredwa ndi chidwi. Ife tikungofuna kudziwa zomwe zinachitika. Koma ndi abwenzi abwino kwambiri zonse ziri zosiyana. Inde, pali chidwi - ichi ndi chowonadi, koma koposa zonse zomwe timakumana nazo kwa munthu, chifukwa chake ndi takdale. Choncho, abwenzi abwino kwambiri sangathe kulankhula za zochitika zawo, ndikuyembekeza kuti adzamvetsetsa ndikuvomerezedwa ndi zomwe ali. Ngati akufuna kuti akhale chete, munthuyo sangakhale ndi mafunso, kenako amachoka ndi mawu omwe ali osangalatsa. M'malo mwake, bwenzi lapamtima limamva umoyo wa wokondedwa. Mwina sangadziwe zifukwa, koma mukudziŵa mwachidziwikire zomwe zikuchitika kwa munthu uyu. Ndipo muzochitika zotero, bwenzi lapamtima liyenera kuthandizira ndi kuchita zabwino kwa mnzanu. Akapempha kuti achoke ndi kumusiya yekha, alibe ufulu womunenera chilichonse kapena kumupempha. Ubwenzi weniweni ndikumvetsetsa bwino zomwe simungathe kuzidziwa. Choncho, bwenzi lenileni lidzakumbukira nthawi zonse kuti mukakumana ndi zovuta muyenera kuchita zomwe zingakhale bwino kwa mnzanu, osati kuti asadzipangitse. Inde, zosiyana ndizo pamene ife tikuwona kuti munthu akhoza kuchita zamkhutu. Pankhaniyi, bwenzi lapamtima liyenera kutsimikizira, kuthandizira, kukakamiza, kuchotsa munthu pamtundu wotero, kuti munthu athe kuganizira mozama zinthu zonse ndikumvetsa kuti pa kulephera kwake, moyo ulibe kutha.
Nkhuku yoledzeredwa ndi theka la theka
Bwenzi lapamtima nthawi zonse ali ndi ufulu wopempha kugawira ena, ndipo akuyenera kupatsa mwiniwake womaliza. Pachifukwa ichi, funso la ufulu ndi maudindo onse palimodzi limawoneka chachilendo. Pambuyo pake, ngati muyang'ana mbali inayo, ndiye kuti aliyense ali ndi ufulu wochoka m'dzikoli. Ndizowonjezera kuti mukhale pachibwenzi chenicheni, lingaliro lanu limakhala lovuta kwambiri. Mnzanu wapamtima akhoza kutaya mwadzidzidzi zonse zomwe amapeza kuchokera kwa bwenzi lake, koma akangokhala ndi mwayi, amadzaza zonse ndi chidwi. Pamene anthu akhala mabwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali komanso mochuluka, mutu sudzabwera ku chinthu chomwe sichigawana kapena kufunsa, ndipo ngati n'zotheka kutenga chinachake. Chowonadi ndi chakuti abwenzi abwino kwambiri a tsikuli ali ndi ufulu ndi ntchito zomwezo monga mamembala a banja limodzi. Zingakhale zachilendo ngati mlongo wanga angafunse mchimwene wanga ngati chinachake chingatenge kapena sichigawana naye. Inde, ngati iyi ndi banja labwino lomwe limakhala ndi ubale weniweni pakati pa anthu. Zimakhalanso pakati pa abwenzi abwino. Iwo amangowakonda kufotokozera chirichonse ndipo ngakhale kuganizira za zomwe ali nazo ndi zomwe iwo ali nazo, iwo amangopanga zomwe ziyenera kukhala.
Ndikofunika kukhala munthu mu nthawi yovuta
Mnzanu weniweni ndi munthu amene mumamufuna panthawi yovuta. Mawu awa ochokera mu nyimbo ya ana ndi oonadi. Tanthauzo la msonkhano ndikuti tili ndi ufulu nthawi iliyonse kuti titembenuzire mnzathu ndi thandizo, ndipo ayenera kutipulumutsa. Ngakhale ngati 3 koloko m'mawa, chisanu chikuwongolera ndipo kutentha kwadutsa mpaka makumi anai, bwenzi adzabwera, ngati azindikira kuti mwakhumudwa kwambiri ndipo simungathe kuchita popanda iye. Inde, ndizovuta, osati za kugwiritsira ntchito kukoma mtima kwa munthu ndipo nthawi zonse mumakoka pamtunda wochepa kwambiri. Koma ngati chinachake chachikulu chikuchitika, nthawi zonse timatchula achibale athu kapena bwenzi lathu lapamtima. Ndipo zikuchitika kuti achibalewo samayankha pempho momwe mnzanu amachitira. Monga akunena, sitisankha mabanja, koma tikhoza kusankha anzathu. Ndipo ngati tamusankha kale, ndiye kuti tili ndi chiyembekezo choti timuthandizidwe, ndipo timadziwa kuti ngati akufuna, tidzasiya zonse ndikufulumira kuthandiza. Inde, tikuyenera kuchita izi, komatu, podziwa kuti chinachake choyipa chikuchitika ndi munthu wapafupi, ndiye kuti simukuganiza za ntchito, koma simungathe kukhala chete ndikuyang'ana mofatsa.
Ndizovuta kunena za ufulu ndi maudindo a abwenzi, chifukwa malingaliro ndi malingaliro si zophweka kuti agwire nawo mtundu wa mtundu. M'malo mwake, tikungoyankhula zomwe khalidwe la munthu liyenera kukhala ngati akudziyesa kuti ndi bwenzi lapamtima. Ndipotu, tikapita kukathandiza, tikamayesa kuti tichite zonse, timadzipusitsa pokhapokha ngati zofuna zake nthawi zina zimakhala zazikulu kuposa zathu, ndipo nthawi imodzi sitingaganize za yemwe ali woyenera komanso yemwe ali ndi ngongole - uwu ndiwo mgwirizano weniweni wabwino , zomwe muyenera kuzizindikira kuposa china chirichonse.