Koma nthawi zina zimakhala kuti "mbuzi" yathu imadzipeza ngati "mbuzi" pambali. Izi, ndithudi, sizingativomereze ife. Zomwe mungachite pa nkhaniyi ndi mwamuna wake, iyi ndi nkhani yosiyana, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti mukhoza kuchita nokha, koma momwe mungachitire mbuye wa mwamuna wanu? Poyamba, chirichonse chiri chosavuta, kuti chiwotche pomwepo, koma, choyamba, chiri chotsutsana ndi lamulo, ndipo, kachiwiri, sichigwira ntchito. Choncho, ndikutha kusankha njira zingapo za momwe angachitire, momwe mungakhalire komanso zomwe mungachite ndi mbuye wa mwamuna wake, kotero kuti pakadali pano palibe mavuto ngati amenewa. Ndipo ziribe kanthu ndi mwamuna uyu kapena wina.
Choyamba, tiyeni tinene mwamsanga kuti banja lachi Sweden lidzakhalabe mabwenzi ndi kukhala moyo. Izi zikhoza kuonedwa ngati zosaloleka, choncho timalingalira zomwe sizichitika ngati sitidziwa ambuye wa mwamuna wake (mwachitsanzo, si mnzanu kapena Mulungu amaletsa bwenzi) ndi mkazi wosadziwika. Choncho, tiyeni tiwone momwe zimakhudzira mbuyeyo ndi zomwe angachite pofuna kupeĊµa zochitika zotere kuyambira tsopano.
Uyu ndiye mdani wathu! Awononge!
Udani wa wotsutsa, uwu ndi woyamba ndipo mwinamwake kumverera kwachibadwa kwambiri. Zingakhale zoyamba poyamba, titaphunzira kuti mwamuna ali ndi ambuye. Ndipo ngati mwamuna nthawi zina amakhululukira, ndiye razluchnitsu! Pambuyo pofika kutsutsa kwakukulu, pali chilakolako chogunda mbuye wanu, chinachake cholemetsa ndi chabwino ndi zotsatira zake zakupha! Chikhumbo ichi chiyenera kukhala choponderezedwa, makamaka, ndikofunikira kuti muwononge mkazi uyu pamaso pa mwamuna wake, ndikofunikira kuti mum'dziwitse momveka bwino zofooka zake, komanso kuti iye sali awiri. Mmenemo, monga akunena, "mu nkhondo, monga mu nkhondo" chirichonse chingathe kusewera, abwenzi, anzako, achibale, chinthu chofunika ndikuchigwetsa m'mapiko a mwamuna ndikuchichitira moyenera.
Fufuzani izi! Phunzirani ku zolakwa!
Sizomveka kuvomereza, koma nthawi zina maonekedwe a ambuye ndi kulakwitsa kwa khalidwe lathu komanso zotsatira za zofooka zathu. Mkazi wamphamvu akhoza kuvomereza yekha, mu zofooka zake. Pankhaniyi, chitani mbuye wanu ngati mayeso oyesera kapena ngati mukuyesera. Fufuzani mkhalidwe ndi mphamvu zake, kuposa momwe iye ankakhoza kukopa mwamuna wake, zomwe inu mungaphunzire kuchokera kwa iye. Kawirikawiri, phunzirani ndipo musabwereze zolakwitsa zakale, ndiyeno moyo wanu udzakhala wabwino!
Kuzizira ndi kunyozedwa ngati madzi oundana!
Machitidwe a malingaliro amenewa kwa ambuyewa ndi ovuta, sizosangalatsa kwenikweni, koma kumvetsa kozizira kwa mphamvu za munthu. Ndipo mfundo yakuti muli bwino m'mbali zonse! Izi zimafuna kuti mukhale otsimikizirika 100% mwa inu nokha, pa chiwerengero chimenechi mumaletsa chigonjetso chanu, osati podziwa, koma panthawi yomweyi kumapatsa mwamuna wanu kumvetsa kuti ndinu wabwino kwambiri. Ndipo ngati mutakhala bwino, ndiye kuti mwiniwakeyo amamvetsa zolakwitsa zake ndikukwawa ndi kupepesa pa mawondo ake, koma ndikubwereza, muyenera kuwerengera mphamvu zanu ndikukumvetsa bwino. Ndipotu, zolakwika ndi ndondomekoyi zingathe kuwonetsa zotsatirapo zovulaza! Koma ngati mukukhala ndi maganizo otere, mumakula kwambiri m'maso mwanu ndi maso a mwamuna wanu.
Pano pali zitsanzo za maganizo ndi khalidwe ndi mbuye wa mwamuna wake. Amatha kusonkhana pamodzi, kuwonjezera chinachake mwa iwo okha, malinga ndi kukoma ndi zochitika. Chinthu chachikulu ndikumvetsetsa bwino zomwe mukufuna kuti mukwaniritse.
Pomaliza, ndikufuna kuwonjezera zimenezo, ziribe kanthu kuti sakonda kwambiri mbuye wawo, ayenera kuyamikira kuti anatsegula maso anu ku zolakwa za mwamuna wake. Ndipo mutatha "kulandira", muyenera kusankha zomwe mungachite ndi mwamuna wanu komanso kumene ubale wanu umapita. Kotero, ine ndikufuna ndikufunire iwe mphamvu yayikulu yauzimu, akazi okondedwa.