Amayi ndi abambo ambiri, powona mwana wamtendere, akuchita bizinesi yawo mwachidwi, adagwidwa ndichisoni: "Koma ine sindingathe kukhala chete kwa mphindi imodzi .. .." Ndipo nthawi zambiri samangoganiza kuti ntchito yochuluka si khalidwe, komabe amadziwa. Kodi ndi zosiyana bwanji ndi zina zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri? Ndi momwe tingakhalire ndi iye kwa ife - makolo? ..
KODI MAVUTO AMAKHALA POTANI?
Kunena zoona, kuyenda kwakukulu ndi khalidwe la pafupifupi ana onse a msinkhu wa msinkhu. Koma ngati mwanayo alibe nthawi zonse kuwoloka malire onse ndipo amachititsa mavuto polankhulana ndi anzawo, makolo ndi aphunzitsi (aphunzitsi) ndi chizindikiro choti n'kofunika kukaonana ndi katswiri.
Kawirikawiri, "makhalidwe" ena amawonjezedwa ku "sila mu bulu". Choyamba, ndiko kulephera kulingalira, kuchita bizinesi yomweyo kwa nthawi yaitali, kusowa cholinga. Vutoli limatchedwa kuchepa kwa matenda osokoneza bongo (ADHD) matenda.
Nchifukwa chiyani ana amakula khalidweli? Madokotala amanena zifukwa zingapo: izi ndi chibadwidwe, ndi matenda opatsirana kuyambira ali wakhanda, ndipo ngakhale - zosamveka - chakudya chowombera choyambitsa zowonjezera. Koma, malinga ndi chiwerengero, nthawi zambiri (mwa 85 peresenti ya milandu)
Kuchita bwino kumabweretsa mavuto pamene ali ndi pakati komanso (kapena) kubereka. Mwachitsanzo, ngati amayi akudwala toxicosis panthawi yomwe ali ndi pakati, ndiye chifukwa cha umoyo wake wathanzi, mwanayo alibe nthawi yoti "akhwima" njira zina za ubongo. Pankhani ya kubadwa kwachisokonezo, chiwembucho n'chosiyana. Chowonadi n'chakuti panthawi ya mwanayo kudzera mu chingwe chobadwa, amayi ena amalumikizana pakati pa malo a ubongo wake. Ngati "dongosolo" la kubadwa liri losokonezeka (nenani, pa nkhani ya gawo la Kaisareya), kugwirizana kumeneku sikungakhazikitsidwe monga momwe chilengedwe chinalinganizidwira.
KUKHALA M'CHIKHALIDWE
Ngakhale kuti madokotala amasiyana mosiyana ndi maganizo awo pa kusakhudzidwa bwino, chithunzi cha maganizo cha mwana wakhanda ali ndi vutoli akadalipo. Nazi zotsatira zake zazikulu:
• Mwana wathanzi sangathe kusamalira nthawi yaitali;
• Zimakhala zovuta kuti amvetsere womulumikiza mpaka kumapeto, kusokoneza ena popanda mapeto;
♦ Nthawi zambiri "samamva" pamene anthu amamuuza;
• Sangathe kukhala chete, mafayilo pampando, akutembenukira, akudumphira;
♦ Kuchita bizinesi yatsopano mokondwera, koma pafupifupi kumaliza ntchito;
• Nthawi zonse amatha kutaya zinthu zake.
• Ngakhale ali pa sukulu, sangathe kutsatira zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku mwiniwake (amafunikira "woyendayenda");
- mosavuta kuiwala chirichonse chomwe sichimamukondweretsa;
♦ manja ali osasamala, mwana nthawi zonse amasokoneza chinachake, amatola ndikumenyedwa ndi zala zake;
Amagona pang'ono;
♦ akunena zambiri;
♦ Nthawi zambiri pamayesero amachititsa munthu kuchita zinthu mopupuluma;
♦ samakonda ndipo sangathe kuyembekezera nthawi yake;
• Kuthamanga kuli kosayembekezereka, chifukwa cha zinthu zozungulira zomwe zimawuluka ndikuwulukira pansi.
Ngati zizindikirozi zikudziwika bwino kwa inu, musafulumire kugwira mutu wanu. Dokotala yekha ndi amene amatha kudziwa, ndipo ngakhale pomwepo sali pamsonkhano woyamba. Akatswiri oyenerera amamuwona mwanayo kwa miyezi ingapo, akuyambitsa maphunziro ena ngati kuli kofunikira. Ndipotu, pafupifupi zonse zomwe zili pamwambazi zikhoza kusonyeza kuti mwanayo ali ndi matenda oopsa, komanso ndi zina zomwe zimapanga chitukuko. Kuwonjezera apo, ndi kofunika kwambiri kuti mwanayo adziwonetsere motalika bwanji motere, mwina ndi gawo lotsatira la kukula ndi "zotsatira zake," m'malo mozindikira za matenda a ubongo.
MFUNDO KWA MAKOLO
Si chinsinsi chakuti poyankhulana ndi mwana wathanzi, ngakhale makolo oleza mtima komanso aphunzitsi odziwa zambiri nthawi zina amataya mtima ndi kuyamba "kuthamanga padenga": Chabwino, sindingathe kuthana ndi "perpetuum mobile" iyi! Pano pali nsonga zingapo zomwe zingathandize kuyanjanitsa maubwenzi ndi kukwaniritsa kuchokera kwa mwana wanu khalidwe lofunidwa.
• Kawirikawiri limalimbikitseni mwana wanu - ana awa akufunikira kwambiri kutamandidwa ndi zolimbikitsa (maswiti, toyese, etc.). Yesetsani kumvetsera zomwe mwanayo anachita, zomwe zinapatsidwa kwa iye ndi vuto lapadera - kupirira, kulondola, kusasinthasintha, nthawi, ndi zina zotero.
• Konzani ntchito za maphunziro ndi chitukuko m'mawa, ndiye zotsatira zidzakhala zapamwamba.
• Pangani zofunsira zanu kwa mwana wamfupi - mu zokambirana ziwiri, kotero kuti mwina anamvetsera mapeto.
• Ana osakwiya amakhala atatopa kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, nthawi zambiri amatenga maphunziro (mulimonse, ngakhale kukondweretsa mwanayo).
Kumbukirani: Pamene mwana wanu ali pamalo ammudzi amayamba kuchita zinthu mosayenera mwachinyengo chovomerezeka (kuvomereza mokweza, kufuula, kupukuta), kuchotsa kutali ndichabechabechabe. Yesetsani kusokoneza chidwi chake ndi kukambirana kokondweretsa. Zosangalatsa zovuta kumvetsa zimathandiza kuthetsa nkhawa. Ndipo kuti musamachite manyazi kwa ena, yesetsani kutsimikizira nokha kuti mwanayo sali wodzudzula kuti wabadwa mwanjira imeneyo, iye mwiniwakeyo akuvutika ndi kusadziletsa kwake.
• Mukamagwira ntchito ndi mwana wodwalayo, musamufunse kuti akwaniritse zinthu zingapo nthawi yomweyo: khalani chete, lembani (kudula, kujambula, etc.) mosamala, mvetserani mwatcheru, ndi zina zotero. Sankhani chinthu chimodzi chomwe chili chofunika kwambiri panthawiyi, mwachitsanzo, lembani bwino, koma kuti mwanayo amangokhalira kudumphira, akungogwiritsa ntchito, nthawi zonse amalekanitsa, yesetsani kuti musamukakamize. Ngati mwanayo akwaniritsa vutoli - onetsetsani kutamanda. Nthawi yotsatira musankhe chikhalidwe china - khalani chete.
• Ngati mukufuna kuti mwana wanu azitsatira ndondomeko ya tsiku ndi tsiku, asanathetse bizinesi imodzi komanso kusintha kwa "gawo lotsatira la pulogalamuyo", onetsetsani kuti mumamukumbutsa (osati bwino, koma nthawi ziwiri). ! "Ana okalamba, omwe angathe kudziwa nthawi ndi koloko, akhoza kukonzekera kusintha ntchitoyo mothandizidwa ndi ola la alamu.
• Chitani zomwezo tsiku lomwelo kuti mwanayo asakhale wachifundo ndi mphindi 10. Mwana woteroyo amafunika kugwira ntchito nthawi zonse, kotero kuti sagwiritsidwa ntchito mopitirira malire.
• Ndikofunika kulembetsa mwana wathanzi kuyambira ali wamng'ono mu gawo la masewera komanso (kapena) nthawi zonse amasewera nawo masewera a masewera.
- Njira yabwino kwambiri ngati makolo ndi aphunzitsi (aphunzitsi) akuphatikizapo khama lawo pa maphunziro a mwana wovuta kwambiri ndipo adzachita limodzi. Zofunika zofanana mu sukulu ya kindergarten (sukulu) ndi kunyumba zimathandiza munthu wamng'onoyo kuti azidziwitsanso mwamsanga.
Chenjezo: DZIWANI!
Pali nthawi zambiri pamene makolo omwe ali ndi ana osasamala amatha kugula, "kugula" maluso awo apamwamba, adapatsa mwana wawo sukulu pasanapite nthawi. Ndipo bwanji? Ndiponsotu, ngati mwana, ataphunzira kuwerengera ali ndi zaka 4, amawonjezerapo mpaka asanu kapena amawerengera 100 ndipo amawerenga nyimbo zochepa za Chingerezi mwachimwemwe, kodi ayenera kuchita chiyani mu sukulu ya sukulu?
Koma si zonse zophweka. Chimodzi mwa zochitika za ana otere ndizofanana ndi chitukuko. Mwanayo ali patsogolo pa anzako muzinthu zina, koma mwa njira zina, tsoka, lags pambuyo pawo. (Kawirikawiri kutsogolera kumapitanso molingana ndi chitukuko cha nzeru, ndipo kugwa kumakhala pa nkhani zogwirizanitsa anthu.) Kwa mwana wotere, phunziro lokhazikika kwa mphindi 30 likufanana ndi kuzunza. Adzatembenuka ndi kusokoneza, alumpha mawu a aphunzitsi ndi makutu, ndipo podziwa momwe angathetsere ntchito yovuta, amaganizira maminiti 20 pazomwe akuphunzirapo. Ndipo makalata ake posachedwapa adzafanana ndi tizilombo zakuthambo. Iye "sali wokhwima" kusukulu thupi ndi maganizo!
Ndicho chifukwa chake musanamupatse mwana wodetsa nkhaŵa mosasamala sukulu, ndizofunikira kwambiri kuwonetsa kwa akatswiri, makamaka angapo, mwachitsanzo: katswiri wa zamagulu, katswiri wa zamaganizo, wotsutsa. Ndiyeno-tsatirani malangizo omwe amalandira, kubisala zofuna zawo za makolo mpaka nthawi yabwino.
Ngati mumvetsetsa kuti "mwakondwera" ndi sukulu kale mwana wanu atapita m'kalasi yoyamba, sizingachedwe kubwereranso kumunda, "atamuyimbiranso" kamwana kamodzi. Zochitika zimasonyeza kuti kusinthika kuchokera ku sukulu ya sukulu kupita ku sukulu kawirikawiri n'kofunika kwambiri kwa abambo ndi amai kusiyana ndi ana a sukulu achinyamata.
Ngakhale pazinthu zovuta nthawizonse pali yankho. Ndipo pokhudzana ndi kupangitsa moyo kukhala wosavuta osati kwa iwe mwini, komanso kwa munthu wamng'onoyo, wosatetezeka pamaso pa moyo uno, pali mphamvu, pali akatswiri ndi zofunikira zofunika. Ndipo mulole kuleza mtima nthawi zina kuwatsogolere, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mumakonda mwana wanu, ndipo amakukondani, choncho, posachedwa, mudzatha kulimbana ndi mavuto onse mwamsanga.