1. Zovutazo ndi chachiwiri.
Pozindikira kuti izi zimakhala zovuta, mwamunayo sangachite khama kwambiri. Mukawona kuti mwamuna akukuyang'anani popanda kuchotsa maso ake, ndiye kuti amakukondani kwambiri. Koma akuwopa kukufikirani inu ndi momwe simungayang'anirane chiwombankhanga, mwanjira ina amasankha mkazi ameneyo, amene amawoneka ophweka komanso odzichepetsa kuposa inu.
Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani? Monga momwe katswiri wamaganizo wotchuka Dmitry Sinarev akufotokozera, izi zimachitika chifukwa chakuti mwamuna, powona mkazi wokongola, amayamba kuganiza kuti ayenera kukhala ndi wina. Ndipo mwayi wake ndi waung'ono kwambiri, ndipo mkazi woteroyo sangakhale yekha. Ndipo ngakhale atamudziwa naye ndikuyamba chibwenzi, nthawi zonse ayenera kumenyana naye, monga momwe adzakhalira nthawi zonse akuzunguliridwa ndi makamu a mafani. Pofuna kuteteza maganizo amenewa kwa munthu, muyenera kumudziwa poyamba. Ndipo khulupirirani ine, amvetsetsa kuti muli ndi chidwi ndipo ndizovuta kulankhula ndi inu.
2. wokonda zopanda pake.
Mukazindikira kuti mwamuna wanu amapepesa nthawi zonse zomwe sanachite. Kapena amafunsa nthawi zonse ngati amachita chilichonse, ndiye amakuganizirani kwambiri, kapena akukumana ndi zovutazo kuti akhale wokonda zoipa. Kuchita mpikisano nthawi zonse ndi wina, amalankhula za kudzichepetsa kwake. Ngati munthu akufunsani kuti ndi anthu angati omwe anali okondedwa ake komanso omwe anali abwino, zingapangitse kuti akuuzeni kuti mwasokonezedwa, ndipo sangathe kumasuka ndi inu. Komanso adzakuuzani kuti sangathe kukukhulupirirani, kenaka maubwenzi anu onse adzatayika.
kotero kuti izi sizichitika, muyenera kumufotokozera kuti iye ndi wabwino komanso yekhayo. Muuzeni kuti mwasiya anthu okonda kale, chifukwa iye ndi wabwino kwambiri ndipo palibe wabwino kuposa iye. Muyenera kumuthandiza kumasulidwa.
3. Zovuta kuti zinyengedwe.
Kuzindikira zovuta zotere sikuli kovuta, chifukwa ndizovuta kwambiri. Ngati mumakhala nthawi yochuluka ndi mwamuna wanu, ndipo sanakukumbutseni nthawiyi. Ndipo pamene mukuyesera kumufikira, amachoka kwa inu ndipo nthawi zonse amakamba za abwenzi ake akale ndikumuuza momwe anamutaya. Iye akhoza kulankhula za izi kwa maola popanda kuima.
Zikatero, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira zamalonda. Musayesetse kumangapo ubale mwamsanga. Pambuyo pake, amuna okhala ndi zovuta zotero amaopa kukukhulupirirani ndipo zikuwoneka kwa iwo kuti, monga ena amagwiritsa ntchito. Mulole munthu wanu adziwe kuti chinthu choyamba chomwe mukuyembekezera chichokera kwa iye. Khalani mwachangu komanso moona mtima, chifukwa sakuyembekezera izi, ndipo mutero mungathe kuswa zolinga zake zonse.
4. Makonzedwe a munthu wosadziwika.
Ngati mwamuna wanu abwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito, amamvetsera nkhani zanu zonse, zomwe munachita masana, pomwe iyeyo sanena kanthu za mavuto ake, ndiye kuti vutoli liripo mwa iye.
Ndikofunikira kuti munthu aliyense azindikire. Ngati sakukondwera ndi ntchito yake, ndipo samubweretsa chisangalalo, ndiye kuti adzamva zovuta kwa moyo wake wonse. Yesetsani kumuthandiza, mumufunse zomwe iye ankakonda kuchita ali mwana, kodi ankakonda kuchita chiyani? Ndipo, pogwiritsa ntchito yankho lake, kuthandizira kuzindikira ubwana wake muzochita zowonongeka pamene ali wamkulu. Akakhala ndi nthawi yowonetsera, akhoza kusangalala ndi moyo ndikuchotsa zovutazi.
5. Kuwonekera kwakukulu ngati papa.
Nthawi zambiri izi zimawoneka ngati pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Yesetsani kuuza munthu wanu kuti ali bwino kuposa ena ndipo palibe wina wokondweretsa kwambiri padziko lapansi. Nthawi zonse mumamukumbutse izi.
6. Zovuta za wophunzira wolemekezeka nthawi zonse.
Amuna amenewa nthawi zonse amayesa kukhala abwino kuposa wina ndipo amakhala ndi nkhawa ngati sangathe kuchita zomwe adalonjeza.
Muyenera kumuuza mwamuna wanu kuti simukusowa zambiri kuchokera kwa iye. Chimene uli nacho chokwanira m'moyo ndi nyenyezi imodzi kuchokera kumwamba mwapambana.
7. Zovuta kwambiri.
Zovuta kumvetsa ndi za munthu aliyense. Chinthu chokha chomwe tifunikira kudziwa ndi kuchuluka kwa zovutazi zomwe zimasokoneza munthu wanu. Chizindikiro cha kudzichepetsa, ndi nsanje.
Yesetsani kuuza munthu wanu zambiri za makhalidwe ake. Tamandani maganizo ake ndi chisangalalo. Koma, ndipo ngati mwamuna wanu anayamba kubwezeretsanso chifukwa cha zovuta zake, ganizirani ngati kuli koyenera kumenyana ndi zovuta zake kuti muthe kupirira zonsezi.
8. Makonzedwe a ndalama zosakwanira.
Amuna omwe ali ndi zovuta zambiri, akamadutsa malo odyera okwera mtengo, amatsitsa mitu yawo ndikupewa kukambirana pa nkhani zachuma. Ndipo anthu okhala ndi zochuluka, amatcha bourgeois. Ndipo palinso amuna omwe amangonena za momwe zingakhalire zabwino ngati akuvala zovala zogula mtengo, anapita pagalimoto yamtengo wapatali ndikukhala ku Rublyovka.
Mukawona makhalidwe amenewa mwa mwamuna wanu, muyenera kumudziwa kuti popanda malonda, palinso makhalidwe auzimu. Onetsani mwamuna wanu kuti simusamala kuti ali ndi ndalama zingati komanso kuti mumamukonda ziribe kanthu momwe angapezere ndalama zambiri. Chofunika kwambiri kwa inu m'moyo ndi chisamaliro chake ndipo ndi choposa mtengo uliwonse.
9. Zambiri zosiyana.
Zimatheka chifukwa ndinu osiyana ndipo simukugwirizana mogwirizana ndi momwe mulili. Ndipo iwo anakulira mumkhalidwe wosiyana. Mukawona zovuta zoterezi ndi mwamuna wanu, muyenera kuyesetsa kupeza zofanana ndikuchita chinthu chimodzi. Yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu nthawi zambiri. Muyenera kukhala amodzi.
10. Vuto la zaka za pakati.
Munthu aliyense ali ndi zovuta ziwiri zokhudzana ndi msinkhu mmoyo wake. Mavuto oyambirira amapezeka zaka 30, ndipo yachiwiri amapezeka zaka 40-45. Muvuto la m'badwo woyamba, munthu akuwerengera zomwe wapindula ndi zomwe akuyenera kuchita. Ndipo muvuto lachiwiri, akugwiritsira ntchito zolakwa za moyo wake, akhoza kukhala ndi chikhumbo chosintha ntchito komanso anthu omwe akumzungulira.
Muvuto loyamba la mbadwo, mukuopsezedwa ndi kutha kwa ubale kapena kupereka kukwatira. Koma vuto lachiwiri ndilovuta kwambiri kukhala ndi moyo. Muyenera kukhala oleza mtima ndi kukhala bwenzi lenileni la iye.
Tsopano tikudziwa momwe tingalimbanire ndi amuna khumi ndi amodzi ndipo nthawi zonse tidzatha kusintha amuna athu okondedwa kuti akhale abwino.