Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?

Mu ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndizo zonse. Nthawi zina banja la idyll likhoza kukhala chidani chophatikizana, chifukwa sizongopanda kanthu kuti mawu odziwika bwino akunena kuti kuchokera mu chikondi mpaka chidani ndi sitepe imodzi yokha. Kawirikawiri, pamene mkazi akuganiza kuti wasiya kukonda mwamuna wake, amayamba kudziimba mlandu pa izi, makamaka akazindikira kuti ukwatiwo watsala pang'ono kugwa. Komabe, kumverera kotere kwa mkazi sikungakhale kopweteka ngati atagonjetsedwa ndikukhazikitsidwa m'njira yoyenera pa nthawi. Ndiye dziko lidzabwerera ku banja ndikupumula. Mmene mungagonjetse chidani kwa mwamuna wake?
Palibe malingaliro osaganizira komanso ogwirizana momwe angagonjetse chidani kwa mwamuna. Mkhalidwe uliwonse wa banja uyenera kuganiziridwa mosiyana. Komabe mungapeze njira zingapo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuthetsa vutoli. Chinthu chachikulu ndichokuti mudakali ndi mphamvu komanso chikhumbo chopulumutsa ukwati wanu. Ngati tsiku ndi tsiku mumayamba kuganiza kwambiri kuti mudayamba kudana ndi munthu amene ali pafupi ndi inu, muyenera kukhala pansi ndi kuganizira zinthu. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa chifukwa, chifukwa cha zomwe mumamva, ndikuyang'ana njira yothetsera vutoli. Ndipo ngati chilakolako chofuna kumvetsa vuto liripo, ndiye kuti nthawizonse mumakhala njira yopulumukira.

Pali nthawi zambiri zomwe amayi amasiya kukonda amuna awo. Ndipo kuti muwone bwinobwino momwe mumaonera vutoli, ndi bwino kuyerekeza ndi ena.

Mkhalidwe 1: Amuna ngati ana
Musaiwale kuti munthu aliyense ali mu moyo wa mwana, ndipo adzakhalabe kwamuyaya. Ena mwa amunawa "amamangirira" ali ndi zaka zisanu ndipo ndi owerengeka okha omwe amatha kukhala "akukula" kufikira akuluakulu. Mzimayi, mmalo mwake, amakula moyo wake wonse, kusintha malingaliro, malingaliro, zofuna. Ngati mwadzidzidzi mwamunayo sakulephera kuchita zomwe mkazi wake anachita, ndiye kuti palibe chifukwa chomveka chodandaula, makamaka kumudana naye. Pambuyo pake, simungaleke kukonda ana omwe nthawi zina sangathe kuyankha moyenera ndikuyamba kukhala capricious. Ana m'mayesero oterewa amaphunzitsidwa bwino. Mwina ndi bwino kuthandiza mwamuna wanu kuphunzira momwe angachitire molondola?

Mkhalidwe 2: Dziwani nokha, mwinamwake chifukwa chake
Kawirikawiri mkazi, ngakhale amadana kwambiri ndi mwamuna wake, amayesetsa kuti moyo wake ukhale wabwino. Amaganizira zofuna zake zochepera ndi zambiri ndipo amamvetsera zambiri ndi zofuna za anthu osasamala omwe adasankhidwa panthawiyo. Udani wake umakula kwambiri. Mwamuna, poganizira momwe zinthu zilili, m'malo mwake, amayesa kuchotsa maganizowa, kotero kuti amakhala omasuka kwambiri. Kotero kukhala bwanji? Zotsatira zake ndi zophweka: yesani zonse bwino, kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika. Mwinamwake inu nokha, kupangitsa moyo wake kukhala wabwinoko, ndipo nokha, moyenera, moipa, ndiye chifukwa cha udani wanu ndipo panthawi yomweyo simukuvomereza kwathunthu zolakwitsa zanu.

Mkhalidwe 3: Nkhanza, ndiyenera kuchita chiyani?
Chifukwa china chodana ndi mwamuna wanu ndikutengeredwa kwake. Zikuwoneka kuti amayi onse osakwatiwa amadziwa kuti osankhidwa awo ndi zinyama, koma akakhala akazi amalephera kuzizindikira. Pakati pa theka lachinyengo lachinyengo - chochitika ichi ndi ziwiri. Ngati mwamuna amayesera kuchita zonse zomwe mkazi wake sakudziwa za chiwembu ichi, koma adangobvumbulutsira mwangozi chirichonse, palibe chifukwa chodana ndi chete. Pachifukwa ichi, maziko a chiwonongeko chaukwati sakunena zabodza, koma kukhala chete, osalankhula komanso osaganizira, zomwe pamapeto pake zimabweretsa chidani chobisika. Apa ndi bwino kapena zonse kuti mukambirane ndikulembapo "i", kapena kuti mupange ndi ndondomeko yanu yothetsera vuto. Ngati mwamuna amadziwa kuti mkazi wake amadziwa kuti ndiwe wosakhulupirira, chikondi chako chidzakula kwambiri chifukwa cha udani wako. Ndikoyenera kugwirizanitsa ndi vuto, kapena kutentha milatho, kapena kupanga ndondomeko yobwezera.

Mkhalidwe 4: Kukangana kwapakhomo
Ngati zonsezi zilibe zoyenera kwa inu, muyenera kupitiliza kuganiza ndi kusanthula chifukwa cha kukangana. Nthawi zina kudana ndizopusa kwambiri - tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwamuna akhoza kumwa chikho cha mkazi wake wokonda, kuponya masokosi, kutenga malo okondedwa ndi makompyuta, TV, ndi zina. Ndipo izi zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chokhumudwitsa. Ngati mukumvetsa kuti chifukwa cha chidani chimayambitsidwa ndi moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku, muyenera kulankhula ndi wokondedwa wanu. Mwina sangakhale ndi vuto lalikulu pogwiritsa ntchito kapu kapena kusintha mipando. Ndipo ngati ayi - yang'anani pa zabwino za banja.

Mkhalidwe 5: Ndimadana, koma ndikukondabe
Kawirikawiri amayi amadzigwira okha kuganiza kuti onse amawakonda ndi kudana nawo amuna awo. Ngati kudana kwanu kuli pa siteji yotere, ndiye kuti musadandaule konse. Mudakonzeka kukonda mwamuna wanu ndikumukhululukira. Mukangokhala ndi vuto lalikulu. Mwinamwake chifukwa amakucheperani, sapereka maluwa kapena mayamiko. Musakhale wokhumudwa, mumangoyamba kukondana.

Khalani okondwa!