Ngati mumakumba muzu wa vutoli, zimawonekeratu kuti chinthu chonsecho chiri pachikhalidwe cha munthu. Mwambi - munthu ndi cholengedwa chopanda ungwiro, monga n'zosatheka kufotokozera "zovuta" zonse mu chiyanjano. Nthawi zonse timasowa chinachake, nthawi zonse wina wa awiriwa (m + f) sadzakhutira ndi chinachake. Inde, izi sizidzachitika pa magawo oyambirira a kukhazikitsa ubale. Chilichonse chimabwera pakapita kanthawi, pamene munthu "amanjenjemera" ndi chisangalalo ndipo amavumbulutsa umunthu wake pafupi naye. Palibe njira yothetsera vutoli, koma nthawi zonse pamakhala mfundo zofunikira, zotsatirazi zomwe mudzatha kumanga awiri abwino. Kwa iwo n'zotheka kunena, poyamba, kulemekezane wina ndi mzake. Kenaka umabwera khalidwe la munthu ngati "kuthekera ndikupirira". Ndipo pomaliza - kumvetsetsa.
Izi zimachitika kuti ubale ukugwera pamayesero a mkazi. Kodi munthu amachita chiyani? Pambuyo pake, mwamuna ndi wotetezeka wa kugonana kofooka, ali wamphamvu, wolimba mtima komanso wosagwedezeka. Zingawoneke, ayenera kukhazikika mwakhama ndikusowa. Mu moyo weniweni, zonse zimasiyana kwambiri. Ndipo, chodabwitsa ndi chiyani, munthu wamphamvu komanso wamphamvu kwambiri pa moyo wake, amamva kupweteka kwambiri kusiyana ndi wokondedwa wake. Iyi ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri yaumunthu: munthu ndi munthu wokhala ndi mantha ochepa kuposa mkazi. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikofunika kumupatsa thandizo lothandizira kuthetsa masewerawa. Kotero tiyeni tiyankhule za momwe tingathandizire mwamuna yemwe posachedwapa analekana ndi mtsikana.
Chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kukumbukira ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto lomwelo - sakuyesera kupeza chifukwa cha zomwe zachitika mwa inu nokha. Ngati mkazi sakudziwa chifukwa chake amachitira izi, ndiye kuti palibe chifukwa chake. Kulakwitsa kwa anthu ambiri ndi "kudzikuza" kotchuka. Mwamuna, ngati mkazi anali wokondedwa kwambiri kwa iye, amayamba kudziganizira yekha pa zolakwika, i.e. dzidzudzule nokha pa zonse zomwe zinachitika. Zotsatira zake ndizopanikizika kwa nthawi yaitali, kutayika kudzidalira ndi kukhumudwa maganizo. Poipa kwambiri, amuna omwe ali ndi mphamvu zofooka, palinso chilakolako cha mowa kuti athetsere ululu. Ndipo, ndithudi, izi sizikuthandizani inu kumuiwala mkaziyo, kapena ndi zophweka kumasuntha kudzipatula kwa iye. Choncho, ngati panalibe chifukwa chomveka cholekanitsa - musayese kuzipeza nokha.
Chinthu chachiwiri chomwe chingakulangizidwe pa nkhaniyi ndi kungokhala ndi kuyembekezera zomwe zakuchitikirani ndi kupweteka kudutsa. Ili ndi yankho ku funso la momwe angathandizire mwamuna yemwe posachedwa anaphwanya ndi mtsikana. Njira iyi ndi yopweteka kwambiri kwa amuna ndi akazi, koma ili ndi mphamvu 100%. Lolani ilo likwapulidwe ndi kuuzidwa nthawi zikwi, koma mawu akuti "nthawi ndi machiritso abwino a zilonda", amachita nthawizonse ndi kulikonse. Ululu wa imfa iliyonse umatha.
Njira yachitatu ndi ubale watsopano. Kulibe ubale womwe iwe mwini umapanga, kuthamangira msungwana wina kupita ku wina, koma ubale womwe unabwera mwadzidzidzi chifukwa cha moyo wamba wa umunthu. Musati mutseke nokha, funani anzanu atsopano, koma musayese mwamsanga kuyambitsa chinachake chatsopano, kuyang'anitsitsa, kuyankhulana ndipo inu nokha simudzawona mmene mudzamwetulira, ngakhale mwezi watha inu munaganiza kuti simudzazichitanso. Ndipo, ndithudi, musatsatire malangizo a anthu ambiri ojambula ojambula omwe amanena mosiyana kuti njira yabwino kwambiri yoiwala msungwana ndi atsikana atsopano monga momwe angathere pambuyo pake. Kuphatikiza pa mfundo yakuti sikuthandizira kuiwala munthu, kotero sizingakhale munthu ayi.
Chachinai chidzakhala njira zotero monga chisamaliro, monga akunena, ndi mutu kugwira ntchito. Mphamvu imeneyo, chisoni chimene chinadza mwa iwe, chikhoza kuzindikiridwa mwangwiro m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Musakhale osalongosoka, ntchito, kusewera masewera, kuphunzitsa ntchito yatsopano, pambuyo pa zonse, koma musachite kanthu, chifukwa izi zidzatsogolera pa zomwe zanenedwa kale.
Chachisanu ndilo, tchuthi, tchuthi. Musaiwale chilichonse chimene chimakusamalirani, ndipo mupite kukapumula. Koma, mosiyana ndi ziweruzo zowonongeka, kupumula kwabwino kwambiri sikudzakhala mchenga wamchenga wa Turkey, kumene amuna ambiri osiyidwa, amangogwiritsa ntchito mini-bar ndi kuyesetsa kupanga chikondwerero cha tchuthi, ndi maholide okhutira kwinakwake kutali ndi zomwe zikukumbutseni za kale. Malo otsetsereka panyanja, kukwera mapiri, kukwera njuchi, kusaka, nsomba ndizobwino. Mwachidule, mpumulo wokhutira ndi womwe umasowa pamene mkazi wakuponya.
Mwinamwake, palibenso njira, motero, zokhuza thupi payekha. Khalani kokha mwauzimu. Ndipo izi zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuganizira zomwe zinachitika ndi zomwe zidzachitike. Yang'anani moyo kuchokera kumbali inayo musanadandaule. Mwina mungakumbukire zomwe mukufuna kuchita musanakhale ndi theka lachiwiri ndipo simungathe kuzichita. Zitha kukhala zonse, zonse - kuyamba kuyenda ndi mahema kwa mlungu umodzi m'nkhalango, kuthera ndi kugula mini-brewery kunyumba! Fufuzani zonse zomwe zinachitika. Koma, osati kokha ndi mtima wokhumudwa.
Inde, malangizo onsewa sangakuthandizeni nthawi zonse. Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe mulingo wanu umadalira. Chofunika kwambiri pa iwo ndi nthawi yomwe mudakhala pamodzi ndi mkazi amene adakuponya. Pamene zimatenga nthawi yaitali, zimakhala zovuta kuchotsa malingaliro. Koma, mulimonsemo, musaiwale kuti chirichonse chimapita ndi nthawi. Ndipo, kuti mupite mofulumira, tsatirani zonsezi pamwamba ndipo mudzamvanso munthu wokondwa, amene akuchita bwino.