Fufuzani wokondedwa wanu

Kufunafuna wokondedwa naye ndizoyamba zomwe mkazi amachitira kwa mwamuna kapena mwamuna kwa mkazi zimachokera pa zochitika zathu. Sigmund Freud wakale adanena kuti zochitika za kugonana zimazunza munthu kuchokera kubadwa mpaka kukalamba. Ndipo aliyense ali ndi makhalidwe ake omwe. Ponena za chikondi, kugonana, n'zovuta kuti anthu alankhule, chifukwa zozizwitsa izi zimadutsa chidziwitso chathu. Muzochitika zogonana, pali chigawo chomwe chimaphatikizapo miyambo ya banja, momwe munthu ndi chigawo chake adakweretsedwera, ndi gawo lomwe potsirizira pake lataya. Pali zida za khalidwe ndi malingaliro a amuna ndi akazi, zomwe zimakhudzanso kusankha. Ndipo zikhalidwe za anthu omwe umunthu unakhazikitsidwa.

Pofunafuna anthu omwe angakhale nawo amuna, mitundu yotsatizanayi ndi yosiyana ndi ena: abambo, abambo, abambo, abambo, ana amuna komanso zaka zosiyanasiyana zomwe mkaziyo amakonda.

Akatswiri a zamaganizo amasonyeza bwino kusiyana pakati pa abambo ndi amai. Akazi sazindikira kugonana monga ubale weniweni, nthawi zambiri amasinthasintha anzawo, nthawi zambiri amawongolera ndipo malingaliro awo sakhala okhutitsidwa kusiyana ndi amuna. Kwa amayi, chiyambi chachikulu cha maubwenzi.

Kwa munthu posankha wokondedwa, chikhalidwe cha ubale ndi chofunika kwambiri (sikofunikira ngati banja ndi chibwenzi kapena kugonana kosagonana), iwo ali odzipereka kwambiri mu ubale wapamtima, pamene akusintha mosavuta ogonana nawo.

Kusankha wokondedwa ndi njira yachibadwa, yosasinthika. Akazi amadziwa anthu ochuluka omwe amachokera kwa munthu mmodzi. Ndikufuna kuti ndikhale naye nthawi yambiri, kuti ndikhale ndi maubwenzi omwe akukula pang'ono pang'onopang'ono. Kwa mkazi, mwamuna mmodzi amatha kudzaza malo ake onse, moyo wake wonse.

Pali mau awa: "Mwamuna akuyang'ana mkazi kuchokera ku nthiti yake" - malo abwino pomwe awiri amapeza wina ndi mzake, ndipo akuyenererana bwino. Akatha kuthana ndi mavuto ndi mavuto ambiri pamodzi. Ichi ndi chisangalalo chachikulu.

Chibadwa chogonana chimagwira ntchito mwamsanga komanso mwachibadwa. Mayi nthawi zonse amadzisankha yekha, osati munthu wamba chabe. Amadzipangira yekha wokondedwa wake, wokonda yekhayo.

Kusankha wokondedwa ndi chinthu chododometsa chogwirizana ndi ubale wa anthu osaphunzira. Popeza anthu osatheka ndi omwe amadziwonetsera okha.

Ksenia Ivanova , makamaka pa webusaitiyi