N'zoonekeratu kuti choyamba chimene ena amachita ndi bodza ndi mkwiyo. Koma pano povozmushchalis, ndiyeno chiyani? Kodi mungalimbane bwanji ndi mabodza? Ndipo ambiri, momwe mungakhalire ndi munthu yemwe amalephera kunena bodza ngakhale pazinthu zazing'ono, pamene ziri zowona kuti chirichonse chidzatsegulidwa.
Tidakambirana ndi maanja omwe mabodza anali chokhumudwitsa, ndikuyerekeza mavumbulutso ndi kufufuza kwa maganizo.
Kuvomereza kwa mwamuna wonyengedwa
Stanislav anati: "Moyo wanga wonse ndinkangodziwa kuti ndikupeza chinyengo cha mkazi wanga, koma Tatyana sasintha ine, tsiku ndi tsiku, ndikugona kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi za moyo wathu pamodzi." Inde, aliyense akudziwa kale! kukota.
Nchifukwa chiyani akunena kuti anapita kumsika ngati akucheza ndi chibwenzi chake panthaŵiyi? Ndipo ngati akusowa kanthu kena kakagula, amaika penti kuti aphe ngati simutero. Ndikakhala ndi chidwi ndi ntchitoyi, kaya mwanayo wapanga maphunziro, mkaziyo amanama, kuti maphunziro ali okonzeka. Ndikafika kunyumba, amachedwa kuchita ntchitoyi. Ndingakhale bwanji ndi moyo, sindimalola chinyengo? "
Tatiana amaona kuti ukwati wake uli bwino. Ali ndi ntchito yabwino kuntchito, amagwirizana ndi abwana ndi abwenzi. Tiyenera kupereka ulemu kwa luso lake. Komabe, ngati Tanya si wochita masewera komanso osati wogulitsa, kodi ndi panthawi iti yomwe angasonyeze luso lake? Ndikofunikira m'banja ndi kupanga. Mabodza a amai nthawi zonse amayenda pazojambula, izi ndizo momwe malingaliro opangidwira a kugonana okondweretsa amaposa ndi kumapangitsa zochitika - zokhudzidwa zimakhala zovuta ndikusocheretsa zoona.
Kawirikawiri mabodza a amayi alibe cholinga, amangogona "chifukwa chokonda luso." Koma ambiri mwa abambo sangathe kumvetsa izi, komanso kusonyeza luso lapadera lamakono, ayambe kufufuza chifukwa cha bodza, kuyesera kutsegula chinyengo. Ndiyeno tanthauzo la moyo wa banja limathamangira kwa "amene ati agwire." Mwamuna wina ndi mkazi wake anavomereza kuti kwa nthawi ndithu tsopano akusewera masewera: ndani angagwire munthu amene angamuchitire chiwembu? Mwamuna ndi mkazi sali otsimikizirana ndi wina ndi mzake, ndipo izi, malingaliro awo, zimayambitsa chiyanjano. Momwe chidwi cha masewera awiriwa chikhoza kukhalira, palibe amene akudziwa.
Mgwirizanowu wa Stanislaus ndi Tatiana bodza sichikhudza mafunso a chikondi. M'malo mwake, uli ndi khalidwe lachibwibwi. Koma, monga mukudziwa, moyo uli ndi zinthu zazing'ono. Tatiana amakonda mwamuna wake, iye sali ndi chidwi ndi amuna ena, amasamala za okondedwa ake, amayesetsa kugwiritsa ntchito bajeti yake, amayesera kuti apindule. Pamene Tatyana akunena kuti maphunzirowa apangidwa ndipo zonse ziri bwino, amangofuna kusonyeza kuti ndi mayi wabwino, amatha kuchita zonse ndikusamalira mwana wake. Ngati adakhala ndi bwenzi ndikubisala, ndiye chifukwa chakuti amamuchitira nsanje mwamuna wake kwa bwenzi lake. Komabe, mndandanda wa kusamvetsetsana ndi kusamvetsetsana kukhoza kuthetsa mgwirizano uwu. Ndipo chifukwa chake n'chakuti zimawoneka kuti mwamunayo sanganame.
Mwa njira, akatswiri a zamaganizo apeza kuti: "Anthu oona mtima", monga lamulo, amanama mobwerezabwereza kuposa ena - amapereka maganizo okhumba. Komanso, "okonda choonadi" amaona kuti maganizo awo ndiwo choonadi chenicheni, ndicho chifukwa chake akazi awo ayenera kusintha ndikutsatira malangizo okhwima a anzawo.
Zimayambitsa
Chiyambi cha mabodza chingakhale chosiyana. Tatyana adanena kuti nthawi zina samadziŵa momwe amanyengerera kapena kupindulitsa zochitika. Mwinamwake, mayiyo akusowa chizoloŵezi, ndipo mothandizidwa ndi mabodza ake osayeruzika amafufuza "kumverera kwakukulu": amanyenga ndikuganiza ngati mwamuna wake angaganizirenso? Chifukwa china ndi "kuti iye samafuula ndipo samakwiya", ngati chirichonse chikanakhala bata ndi bata, ndiyeno ife tizilingalira izo. Chifukwa china: "Sindimadziona kuti ndine wabodza, koma ndi nzeru za akazi." Ndipotu, mwamuna wake sayenera kunena chilichonse, "anatero Tatyana.
Chifukwa mtsogoleri wamaganizo ndi mkazi, ayenera kusankha chowonadi kuti akauze mwamuna wake. Komabe, sikoyenera kupita patali kwambiri, chifukwa munthu ndi wogwira mtima komanso wonyenga. "Ngati nthawi zambiri amaphunzitsa zinthu zazing'ono, ndiye amayamba bwanji ndi njira yaikulu?" iye amaganiza. Kukayikira kumabweretsa, ndikubwezeretsa kudalira kwa mwamuna kumakhala kosatheka.
Ntchito ya mkaziyo ndiyo kupeza chiyanjano choyenera, maonekedwe abwino ndi zokoma, kuti asamve ngati "mtsikana wakukwapulidwa" kosatha ndipo osatembenuza mwamuna wake kuti akhale wotsutsa komanso wotsutsa. Masks ndi "kutchova njuga" pambali ya banja sizitetezedwa. Musatengeke poona kuwerenga kwa malingaliro kuchokera kwa mwamuna, ndiye sakuyenera kunyozedwa chifukwa chakupangitsani "kutuluka mkati."
Kuvomereza kwa mkazi wonyengedwa
Nadezhda anati: "Mwamuna wanga Nicholas ndi munthu wabwino, koma amanyenga nthawi zonse, ndipo mabodza ake amachotsedwa ndi ulusi woyera, nthawi zonse ndimafufuza kumene amagwiritsa ntchito ndalama, kapena amene amamwa mowa dzulo. kuti mwamuna sangalipire foni kapena nyumba, ndipo amandiuza kuti analipira zonse, ndikubweretsa ma receipti - ndinganene chiyani? Nikolay amabisa kuti anatenga ndalama chifukwa amadziwa momwe sindimakonda. ndipo mwamuna wake sangadalire konse. Mabodza ake onse ndi osakaniza, koma amatha kwambiri moyo wanga ".
Tikuyembekeza kwambiri kuyamikira banja lake ndipo sakulekana, kotero iye anayesa njira zosiyanasiyana zokopa mwamuna wake - kuwopseza, misozi, zokondweretsa, koma palibe chomwe chinathandiza. Kuti mumvetsetse vutolo, muyenera kumvetsetsa zifukwa zomwe zimamukakamiza mwamuna wake kumanyenga ndi zidule zazing'ono.
Ali mwana, Nikolai anakulira m'banja lomwe liri ndi machitidwe ovomerezeka a kholo: bambo ndi mayi adakumbukira mwana wake kuti "akhoza kutaya mtima kosatha." Kufotokozera mnyamatayo kunali cholinga cha makolo ake, choncho Nikolai wakhala akudziŵika zonse kuyambira ali mwana. Atakula, adaphunzira kudziteteza - kunama, kuti asapsere mkwiyo wa makolo ake. Ana ochokera m'mabanja otere amadandaula: "Ngati amayi kapena abambo anu akunena zoona, ndizovuta kwambiri, ndiyeneranso kuchita chiyani?" Mwanayo amaopa kutaya chikondi cha makolo ake komanso kupeŵa udindo wa wolakwa, zimakhala zosavuta kuti amunamize. Zoterezi zidzasamutsidwa ku banja lake. Ndipotu, ndizochita zowonongeka.
Nicholas, poyesera kukhala mwamuna wabwino, bodza panthawi iliyonse, ndipo sasamala kuti chinyengo chidzadziwulula. Chowonadi ndi chakuti njira yodzitetezera pa msinkhu wosadziwika ndi chizoloŵezi, chomwe chinapangidwa kuyambira ubwana, chiri champhamvu kuposa zifukwa zomveka. "Munchhausen Syndrome" sizongoganiza chabe, komabe, zotsatira za ukalamba. Motero, munthu amapewa kumva kuti ndi wolakwa komanso wamanyazi. Makamaka anthu ambiri akugona ndi zovuta za "superman". Kuyesetsa kuti zinthu zikhale bwino muzinthu zonse (ntchito, zopindula ndi mphamvu zathupi), akupereka chithunzi "Ndili ndi zonse O'K" nthawi zonse. Maso a mkazi, munthu woteroyo amawoneka wofooka komanso wosapota. Mbali inayo, munthu amafuna kupewa chilango cholingalira. Mkaziyo amachitira izi mosiyana, amadziona kuti ndi wopanda chilungamo, amadzilemekeza yekha, akumverera mumtima mwake. Amakonda komanso amadana ndi mwamuna wake, ndipo nthawi zina zimawoneka ngati zovuta komanso zopanda chiyembekezo.
Zindikirani kuti poyamba mkaziyo amamvetsera ngati mayi wolamulira. Koma zoterezi sizimathetsa mkangano. Mwamuna amadziwa kuti amayi ake "amamvetsetsa ndikukhululukira chirichonse," ndipo pambuyo pake amatsutsa, adzamukonda. Ndiye ntchito iyi imakhala yosasamalika kwa mkazi - iye akutsutsa, akukonza zoopsa. Kugonjetsa ndi kupsa mtima nthawi zonse sizitha kupanda kanthu, sitepe ya kutopa imayamba. Pa zovuta kwambiri, mkazi amadzimva kuti alibe chitetezo, kapena, atambasula dzanja lake pa mwamuna wake, amakhala ozizira kwambiri ndipo amafunafuna m'malo mwake.
Kuti muteteze tsoka limeneli, muyenera kuthandizira kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli pang'onopang'ono, yesetsani kuthandiza mwamuna wake kuti ayambenso kuchita. Koma kumbukirani kuti zolakwika zomwe zimakhalapo kuyambira ubwana sizikhoza kugonjetsedwa mu mphindi imodzi.
Momwe amuna amanama
Pokhala mwachibadwa kuzindikira, akazi aphunzira bwino zachinyengo za amuna awo. Ndipo iwo amadziwa kuchenjeza ndi kuwakhululukira iwo. Pano pali mndandanda waung'ono wamatenda omwe amapezeka.
- Mkazi nthawizonse amakhala wolondola. Mawu a mkazi ndi lamulo. Kutsimikizira izi, munthu samakhulupirira konse m'mawu ake. M'malo mwake, iye amawombera. Kumva izi kuchokera mkamwa mwa mwamuna wanu, musayembekezere kuti nthawi yomweyo amayamba kukwaniritsa zonse zomwe mumachita, kusokoneza ndi mwana, kutsuka mbale ndi kutsuka. Mwamunayo, tsoka, si womenyera ufulu wa amayi.
- Ndinayenera kukhala kuntchito, kuwonjezera - pamsewu woopsa kwambiri. Mkazi wochenjera sangatengepo mawu awa mozama, ngakhale kuti akuwonetsa kuti mwamuna wake sangathe. Fungo la mowa pang'ono limalankhula lokha.
- Inu mwa ine, chimmeza, zokongola ndi zachuma. Mwamunayo akufuna kuti achoke ku kuyeretsa kwathunthu. Mgwirizano wokakhudza mtima wa kukongola ndi chuma sungagwirizane ndi njira yachibadwa ya malingaliro a munthu.
- Ndinali ndi akazi okongola ambiri. Ndinu mkazi wanga wachiwiri m'moyo. Zonsezi ndizokayikitsa. Mwina akufuna kuoneka monga Don Juan, kapena akuyembekezera chifundo ndi kudzichepetsa. Zonsezi, ndi zina zowonjezera, kukakamiza mkazi kugonana.
- Idyani 50 magalamu okha. Malipoti okhwima amenewa amasonyeza kuti amamwa mowa kwambiri. Funsani zomwe mwamunayo amamwa, ndipo adziganizira. Munthu wochenjera safotokoza momwe amamwa.
- Palibe mkazi aliyense amene sanamve zimenezo kwa inu ... Mwamuna akufuna kukhala nokha, choncho muuzeni kuti mumakhulupirira.
Momwe akazi amanama
"Mkazi ayenera kukhala chinsinsi kwa mwamuna ndipo osanena zoona," - choncho amanena zambiri za kugonana kwabwino. Kutseguka msanga komanso mopitirira muyeso kumayipitsa ubwenzi. Kamodzi kamodzi ndamva kuchokera kwa anthu kuti akufulumira kwambiri ndipo amatseguka kwa amayi - ngati palibe chinsinsi komanso chokakamiza, kukayikira ndi chikondi, ndizosautsa. Mayi sayenera kunyalanyaza ndemanga zoterezi.
Kwa mkazi, izi si zabodza:
- pa m'badwo winawake kuiwala m'badwo wawo wa kalendala;
- kusokoneza 3-4 nthawi mtengo wa lipstick (kuti asavulaze mwamuna wake mu zinthu zing'onozing'ono);
- chifukwa cha chidwi cha nkhaniyo, kupanga zinthu zokongola ndi kuwafotokozera kwambiri - Stanislavskaya amangokhala;
- pokambirana ndi munthu kuti azitamanda maonekedwe ake, ngakhale mlungu wa nsapato zopanda kanthu komanso zonyansa.
Zizindikiro zapakhomo zabodza
Sikofunikira m'nyumba kuti mukhale ndi chipangizo chovuta ngati chonama. Ndipo ngakhale kuti mkazi aliyense ali ndi zizindikiro zake zowonyenga okhulupirira, akatswiri a maganizo amagwiritsa ntchito njira zina.
Manja obisika. Mwamunayo amabisa manja ake nthawi zonse m'thumba mwake. Mukakambirana pang'ono mumatsegula pakamwa. Amagwira mapewa kapena nkhope.
Kusuntha kwa thupi. Mwamuna amatha kunyalanyaza mapewa ake ndi kupukusa pang'ono. Chibwano chake chimakopera tayi yake, mwamuna wake amamanga tie yake, yemwe safuna kudziwa zomwe zikuchitika, ndipo akufulumira kuthetsa zokambiranazo. Kukhotakhota kwapangidwe komanso kusuntha.
Zizindikiro zamaso. Kuthamanga maso ndikuyang'ana kutali.
Muyenera kudziwa
Mmene mungachitire ndi bodza
Monga mwamuna wina wanzeru anati, atatha kusudzulana anaphunzira kudziwa bodza lililonse. Komabe, izi sizichitika nthawi zonse: "Chabwino, ndi chiyani chapadera kwa munthu yemwe anganyengere mkazi?" Chabwino, ndinamwa vodka popanda chofuna kapena ndalama "zanykal", ndizo zonse.Ndipo mkazi? Chabwino, ndinagula malaya amoto, mafuta onunkhira. chifukwa chopanda pake? " Pano pali malangizo ophweka opezekapo.
Zizindikiro za kunja za bodza ndi abambo ndizosiyana.
Mwamuna, akamanamizira, amakhala wansanje, samayang'ana wothandizana naye, amapuma mozungulira, amalankhula ndi mawu okwezeka, amasuntha zala zake pamaso, amatha kudumpha ndi kutuluka m'chipindamo.
Mzimayi amene ali ndi vutoli nthawi zambiri amamwetulira, amamva mawu a mwana, amasula zovala zake, amasinthasintha phazi lake ndipo amamveka mobwerezabwereza kuposa momwe amachitira.
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