Malingana ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, choyamba ndi koyenera kulingalira mozama za ndalama zawo ndi kupeza njira zogwirira ntchito. Izi ndi zofunika kwambiri kwa okwatirana. Pamene mudakondana, simukusowa gawo limodzi lachitatu. Koma ngati mulibe zipangizo zamakono, nthawizonse mumakhala ndi chisankho ndi achibale anu apamtima kuti agawane malo ogona.
Kukaona agogo anga
Njira yabwino ndiyo kukhala ndi agogo aakazi m'nyumba imodzi. Pambuyo pake, zakhala zikuzindikirika kwa nthawi yaitali kuti agogo ndi zidzukulu zimakhala bwino. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, nthawi zambiri agogo ndi amayi amafunikira chisamaliro, ndipo ichi ndi chifukwa chabwino. Komabe, sizinthu zonse zosalala. Choyamba, agogo ndi agogo aamuna sangakhale okoma, koma amatsitsimutsa, amanyansidwa, komanso amadzivulaza. Ndipo, kachiwiri, kusamalira anthu odwala kungakhalenso mayeso aakulu kwa inu komanso pa ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu.
Choncho, ntchito yanu ndi kusonyeza kuti simuli kamtsikana kamene kamabwera kudzachezera agogo anu monga alendo, koma mkazi wachikulire yemwe angathe kutenga udindo pa moyo wake. Ngati mwasankha kukhalira pamodzi mu nyumba imodzi yokhala ndi aksakals, kumbukirani: agogo anu, ngakhale kuti ndi achikulire bwanji, ndi akuluakulu kuposa inu ndipo amafuna ulemu. Musayese kutsimikizira agogo kuti chovala chamkati sichiphika tsopano, koma gwiritsani ntchito ufa. Muloleni iye azikhala mu dziko lake ndi kumachita monga iye ali womasuka, ndi kumachita momwe iwe umawonekera. Musakhumudwitse okalamba omwe sakuyembekezera. Musataye chakudya chimene agogo anu adakukonzerani, kapena ntchito zapakhomo zomwe agogo anu amakupatsani.
Komabe, musalole agogo kapena agogo anu agone pamutu panu. Apo ayi, moyo wanu wa banja udzasanduka bwalo. Musalole achibale achikulire kuti ayang'ane obwera ndi oyenda, kapena kuchotsani nthawi yanu yaulere. Nthawi zina kukambirana kwakukulu ndi kolimba ndi akuluakulu kungakhale koyenera. Amuna achikulire ndi akuluakulu. Musamvetsetse mawu awa: "Ndinakupatsani zonse monga mwana," "Inu nonse mukufuna imfa yanga," "Pano ndimwalira, ndipo mumakhala bwino" Ngati mumasamalira munthu wodwala - musatenge udindo wonse wodzisamalira nokha. Ndi bwino kugawa ntchito pakati ndi mwamuna wanu ndipo musaiwale za banja lanu.
Ndi apongozi apansi pa denga limodzi
Kukhala limodzi ndi apongozi ake mu chipinda chimodzi ndi luso lolowerera. Ndipotu, azimayi awiri amavutika kuti azikhala m'nyumba imodzi. "Simukuphika monga choncho!" Kodi ndi chikhumbo chotani chokhala ndi thanzi labwino? Mwana wanga amakonda nyama ndi mafuta! Mukulera mwanayo njira yolakwika. Mukumuveka bwino, ndipo nthawi zonse amadwala! Nchifukwa chiyani mwamuna wako amakhala kuntchito? Mwinamwake, iye sali wabwino kwambiri ndi iwe "- iwe ukhoza kutchula mosalekeza apongozi ake.
Amayi apathengo, ochulukitsidwa ndi chidziwitso cha mwamuna wake, amatha kuletsa kukhalapo kwa banja lililonse. Muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu ndi kuleza mtima kuti muthe mgwirizanowo ndi apongozi anu. Muyenera kusokoneza. Dziperekeni nokha ku mfundo iyi. Ndiwe amene wabwera kunyumba kwa apongozi ake ndi apongozi ake, choncho sangathe kukhazikitsa malamulo awo apo. Komabe, izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kugonjera kwathunthu amayi a mwamuna wanu. Inde, penapake (mwachitsanzo, mu nkhani za moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku) muyenera kuchita zomwe apongozi anu amafuna. Komabe, mu ubale wanu, pankhani za kulera ana komanso ngakhale kukongoletsa chipinda chimene mukukhala, makolo a mwamuna sayenera kusokoneza.
Mverani chisoni mwamuna wanu ndipo musamuuze mavuto onse ndi amayi ake. Iye sangakhoze konse kukhala kumbali yako. Khalani anzeru: yesetsani kusayankha nthabwala za apongozi anu, kuvomerezana nazo, kulonjeza kuganiza ndikuchita mwanjira yanu. Ndipo mulimonsemo musayambe kuyankhula za mayi wa mwamuna wake kuchokera kumlandu. "Ndimalemekeza amayi anu, koma ndikufuna kuti ..." - ndiwo mawu olondola.
Ngati panyumba mwamuna wanu sasamala za ukhondo, ndipo mumagwiritsa ntchito kuti zonse ziziwala m'nyumba, funsani thandizo la mkaziyo ndikuyamba kuyika zinthu pamodzi. Komabe, musaganize ndi kubwezeretsa makolo a mwamuna wake. Sadzasintha, ndipo mumangotaya nthawi ndi mitsempha. Potsiriza, pezani makhalidwe abwino m'mabanja a mwamuna wanu ndikuwakonda. Ndemanga "Ndinkafuna kukufunsani", "Mumamva bwanji", "Mukuganiza bwanji ..." zingakuthandizeni kupeza chinsinsi cha mtima wa apongozi anu ndi apongozi anu.
"Musayang'ane kulikonse kwa adani." Ngati mumavomereza kuti palibe achibale anu kapena amuna anu apamtima omwe amakufunirani zoipa, zidzakhala zosavuta kukhala ndi moyo.
- Musaiwale zazing'ono zanu, koma banja lofunika kwambiri. Kumbukirani kuti cholinga chanu sichikudziwa kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali bwana m'nyumba, komanso kuti asamacheze maubwenzi onse ndi apongozi ake, koma kuti musunge ubale wanu.
- Musakhale ndi malingaliro anu. Ngati mutha kuuza aliyense komanso paliponse za makolo ozunza a mwamuna wanu kapena kudandaula za "osokoneza" anu, ndiye kuti izi zidzangowonjezera mkwiyo wanu.
Mayi wokondedwa
Zimakhulupirira kuti n'zosavuta kukhala pamodzi ndi amayi anu m'chipinda chimodzi kusiyana ndi apongozi anu. Koma pakadali pano, simungathenso kuchotsa chisamaliro cha makolo. Amayi anu adzavutika kuti mumvetsere mukukula kwanu. Chabwino, iwe_iweke udindo wa mwana wamng'ono, zomwe chirichonse chimasankhidwa ndi makolo, kapena kuchotsa kumverera kwa kulamulira. Kuwonjezera apo, moyo m'malingaliro a makolowo momveka siwathandiza kukulitsa ubale ndi mwamuna wake.
Choyamba, muyenera kuswa chotchedwa "chingwe chakumverera" chomwe chikukugwirizanitsani ndi amayi anu. Ndiwe mkazi wachikulire ndipo muyenera kukhala ndi udindo wa banja lanu. Inde, mukusowa thandizo komanso malangizo kuchokera kwa amayi anu, koma mumasankha nokha. Kuti musayambe kutsogoleredwa ndi amayi anu, mumayenera kugwira ntchito zina zapakhomo. Aphatikizeni mwamuna wake kuthetsa mavuto a m'banja. Iye sali ogona, koma wamphumphu wathunthu wa banja.
Musakambirane ndi amayi anu chiyanjano chanu ndi mnzanu. Ndipo musamapatulire mwamuna wanu zonse zokhudza zovuta zaunyamata. Aliyense, kuphatikizapo makolo, ali ndi ufulu wolakwitsa. Iwe ndiwe wamkulu kale, ndipo chotero mokwanira kuti upeze mizu ya mavuto, ndi nthawi yoti awathetse.
Ndani akukhala mu teremochke?
Agogo ndi agogo aamuna amagona khitchini, amayi ndi abambo m'chipinda chodyera, inu ndi mwamuna wanu ndi mwana wanu m'chipinda chogona, ndi mchemwali wanu ndi chibwenzi chotsatira ndi ana awiri kuchokera kumabanja apabanja omwe amachitcha kuti ana? Ngati mkhalidwewu uli wofanana ndi wanu, ndiye kuti mumadziwa nokha za zokopa pakati pa amuna, zonena za amayi ku khitchini, misonzi ya ana komanso kusowa kwathunthu kwa malo. Pakuti malo okhala achibale ambiri pamodzi mu nyumba imodzi muli malamulo a nyumba yogona. Mpaka vuto lanu la nyumba lidzathetsedwe, muyenera kukhala mogwirizana ndi malamulo a nyumbayi. Dziperekeni nokha ku izi ndipo yesani kupeza zotsatira. Monga momwe kafukufuku amasonyezera, ana, amene anakulira kutsogolo kwa mibadwo yambiri ya achibale, akudzidalira kwambiri.
Mfundo yakuti simusokoneza ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu, imati muli ndi banja losangalatsa. Ndipo tsopano nkhani yoipa: wamkulu ana anu amakhala, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa inu, ndi iwo, ndi ena onse okhala mu nyumbayo. Choncho, phunzirani malamulo a dera lomwe mukukhala ndikuyesera kukwera kumalo osungirako zipatala. Ndibwino kuti mufunsane ndi katswiri mu nkhani za nyumba. Mwinamwake ndinu woyenera pulogalamu ya nyumba yabwino.
Kumbukirani: simukufunikira kupanga mgwirizano pakati pa banja lomwelo. Lero inu ndi amayi anu mukukambirana za mchemwali wanu ndi chibwenzi chake chatsopano, mawa iwo ndi "abwenzi" pa inu ndi mwamuna wanu. Yesetsani kuchepetsa mikangano yonse, komanso bwino kuti musalowe mu bizinesi la anthu ena.
Musakambirane achibale pamaso pa ana. Ubwenzi wanu ukhoza kusintha, ndipo ana, makamaka achinyamata - akhoza kutenga bwino. Kuphatikiza apo, ana angagwiritse ntchito zolakwa ndi mikangano ya achibale kuti aziwagwiritsa ntchito. Konzani malo mu nyumba kotero kuti aliyense m'banja akhale ndi nook.
Nthawi yomweyo ayenera kufotokozera za kuphika ndi kuyeretsa, pamene mumakhala limodzi m'nyumba imodzi. Mabanja ena amapeza kuti ndi bwino kuti apite kukadya ndikuphika imodzi pamodzi. Winawake ali woyenera kwambiri kusankha ndi mphamvu yosiyana. Pankhaniyi, m'pofunikira kukhazikitsa ndondomeko ya kukhalapo ku khitchini ndipo, ndithudi, kuyeretsa. Chinthu chachikulu sikutenga chinthu china chofunika kwambiri. Ngakhale wina ataphwanya malamulo, palibe chigawenga mwa izi. Pambuyo pa zonse, simukukhala ndi alendo. Kodi ichi si chifukwa chokhalira olekerera, phunzirani kutseka maso anu ku chinachake ndipo muteteze maganizo anu mwamtendere.