O zonyenga maso
Maso - osati galasi la moyo, komanso otsogolera woyamba. Timayang'anitsitsa mwachidwi wothandizana nawo, ngati tikufuna kupeza yankho lolondola komanso lodalirika la funsolo. Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu zomwe interlocutor wanu akugona, padzakhala maso "othamanga". Kapena iye nthawi zonse amabisala, akuyesa kuti akuyang'ana chinthu china. Amuna nthawi zambiri amachita izi, ngati bodza liri lalikulu. Omwe akugonana amphamvu amayang'ana pansi, pomwe akazi akuyang'ana pansi. Chonde chonde! Zizindikiro izi pafupifupi zana peresenti zimanena kuti mukuyesera kunyenga (kupatula - ngati munthu ali ndi mantha amodzi, omwe maso ake "amatha"). Chizindikiro china chabodza ndi khalidwe limene, poyankha funsolo, interlocutor amayesera mwadala kutenga mpweya pambali, kapena, kutsegulira, kuti muwone maso anu. Kawirikawiri chizindikiro choterocho chimaphatikizidwa ndi mtunda wa thupi kutsogolo: wotanthauzira motero "akulimbikira" pa iwe, kukukakamiza kuti ukhulupirire mawu ako.
Woyang'anira pakamwa
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu kwambiri zabodza zomwe zimachokera mu ubwana wathu. Kumbukirani zomwe adachita pamene adangokhalira kufotokozera choonadi kwa munthu, anasiya chinsinsi cha wina kapena "anaphwanya" zomwe sanafune? Moyenera, mwakachetechete anatambasula mmwamba dzanja lake, kuphimba chidziwitso. Momwemonso munthu wamkulu yemwe amanama: dzanja lake limatambasula mosamalitsa kuti lisokoneze uthenga wonyenga. Zoonadi, nthawi zina izi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati munthu akufuna kubisalako kuti adzuke. Ngakhale, n'zotheka, kani, ngati munthu samakumverani, ndipo salankhula yekha.
Pochesyvaniiosa, maso kapena makutu
Kwenikweni, chizindikiro chomwecho, koma chopangidwa ndi munthu, kuyesera kuti adzisunge yekha ndikulola kokha kugwira kwa nkhope. Chizindikiro ichi chikufala kwambiri kwa amayi: Amapangitsa kuti apukutire pamwamba pamwamba. Khalani tcheru, mkaziyo mwachiwonekere ndi wochenjera! Mwachidziwitso munthu aliyense amadziwa kubisa pakamwa, osalola mawu osayenera kuti amutsogolere kuyeretsa madzi. Pa mphindi yotsiriza, wabodza amakumbukiridwa ndi njira ina, momwe angakhudzire mphuno, satero. Ngati munthu ali ndi mphuno yochuluka (izi zimachitikanso), ndiye adzaziwombera, osati kukhudza msanga. Chizindikiro ichi chimagwiritsidwanso ntchito ndi iwo amene amamvetsera bodza ndikudziwa kuti akunyenga iye.
Chizindikiro china, chomwe chingasonyeze chinyengo - kukukuta kapena kupukuta maso kapena maso. Izi zimapereka chikhumbo chakudzibisa kubisala kapena kubisa pamaso pa munthu wakuyima pafupi naye. Amuna oterewa akung'amba khungu lawo, amai amathamangira kamodzi pamutu, ngati kuti akukonza maonekedwe. Kawirikawiri izi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati munthu akugona "wamkulu". Amuna amachita izi molimbika, ngati chinyengo chili chachikulu, zonsezi zimaphatikizapo kutsika kwa maso pansi komanso kusafuna kuyang'ana m'maso mwa interlocutor.
Kudula kapena kugunda makutu ndi dera la parotid kumasonyezanso kuti wanu interlocutor akunama. Izi zikufotokozedwa ndi mfundo yakuti munthu amene amalankhula zoona amamva bwino kwambiri pamutu ndi makutu: kuyabwa, kubwezeretsa khungu. Pofuna kuthetsa kumverera kwachisokonezo chachikulu ichi, wabodza amayenera kuwombedwa kapena kungogwira malo awa.
Lankhulani mano anu
Chifukwa chake chimodzimodzi - mantha a kumasula mawu abodza, kuika chopinga mwa mawonekedwe otsekedwa. Zoona, nthawizina anthu amalankhula monga choncho, chifukwa amangokhala osakhutira ndi chinachake. Tiyeni tikhale osamala ndi chochita ichi - musachedwe kuti mudzaweruzidwe ndi bodza. Koma simukusowa kukhulupirira munthu wakhungu ngakhale.
Kulira
Kawirikawiri, ngati munthu amanama, amalemba mosamala malo omwe ali pansi pa khutu kapena mbali ya khosi ndi cholembera chala. Zimazindikiranso kuti pachithunzi ichi munthu amachita chimodzimodzi kumenyana. Chizindikiro ichi chimayankhulanso za kukayikira kwa womvera mwabwino kwa oyankhulana. Munthu nthawi zonse amagwiritsa ntchito manja osadziŵa ngati sakunena zomwe amaganiza. Mwachitsanzo, iye akuti: "Ndikumva iwe", koma swamis sagwirizana.
Kukoka kolala
Zimatsimikiziridwa kuti bodza m'munthu limayambitsa kuyamwa m'maso osokoneza nkhope ndi khosi. Mwadzidzidzi Ine ndikufuna kuwombera kuti ndichepetse chisokonezo ichi. Ngati munthu akubweza msangamsanga, amakhulupirira kuti bodza lake latsegulidwa. Wonyenga nthawi zina amatulutsa kabuku pamphumi pake. Komabe, chizindikiro chomwe munthu angachigwiritse ntchito ngati ali wokwiya kapena wokwiyitsa kwambiri - ndiye akukweza kolalayo kuti ayese kuzizira. Choncho, musanamveke munthu, muwone. Nthawi zina, kuti "mutsirize" wabodza, funso limodzi ndilokwanira: "Kodi mungafotokoze?". Etaphraza ikanikakamiza wobwezera kuti asiye kupitiriza bodza lake.
Mankhwala
Munthu woteroyo akuti munthu amafunika kuthandizidwa. Uku ndi kuyesa kwakukulu kuti tibwerere ku malo otetezeka kuyambira ali wakhanda, pamene palibe wina amene aname. Munthu amafuna thandizo lanu kumabodza ake, kotero ngati uyu ndi bwenzi lanu, musamamuweruze mwankhanza. Mwinamwake, iye akhoza ndipo amafunikira chinachake ndikusowa thandizo, ndipo mabodza ake ndi otetezera okha.
Awa ndiwo njira zoyamba zachinyengo, kunena kuti woyimilira wanu akunena bodza. Koma kumbukirani: munthu aliyense ndi thupi lovuta lomwe silingalekerere njira yosavomerezeka. Mvetserani mwatsatanetsatane wanu wothandizana nawo, ganizirani zochitika, musaphonye mwatsatanetsatane. Mwinamwake mwamunayo amavomereza mfundo kuti akupangitseni inu, kapena amangoganiza chabe chinachake chokondweretsa iye mwini ndi inu. Izi zimachitika, ndipo palibe chifukwa chodzizunzira nokha ndi mabodza achinyengo. Mwinamwake chikwangwani chophimba pakamwa ndi dzanja chimanena momveka bwino kuti wolumikizanayo akunena bodza, koma kuti, mwachitsanzo, iye anaiwala kuti akuthira mano ake.