Kawirikawiri ana amazindikira kuti makolo awo amawasamalira ngati maganizo oipa. Ana amakhulupilira kuti makolo sayenera kuwagwiritsira ntchito, kulowerera mosadziwika m'miyoyo yawo. Ndipo makolo nthawi zonse amasangalatsidwa momwe mumavalira lero, zomwe amadya, amapereka malangizo othandizira kukonza zolakwa zanu. Zikhoza kukhala, ngakhale mutakhala kale wamkulu, mukukhala nokha komanso mosiyana ndi iwo. Inde, makolo samawakonda khalidwe ili la makolo awo. Koma mungatani kuti musiye vutoli? Kodi mungathetse bwanji maganizo oipa?
Ndi zifukwa ziti zowonjezera?
Chifukwa chachikulu ndicho mantha a makolo. Iwo amaganiza ngakhale kuti mwanayo wakula kale, sakufuna. Kuwopa kwambiri kuti mulole kuti pakhomo panu mukhale wamkulu. Sitingaganize kuti ndi bwino kuchita chiyani popanda iwo? Kodi mwana wanu wokondedwa angayankhe bwanji zochita zanu ndi moyo wanu?
Kodi makolo amaopa chiyani?
Iwo ola lililonse amaganiza kuti chinachake chosasangalatsa kwambiri chiyenera kuchitika kwa mwanayo. Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti ndodoyo imapindika kwambiri. Izi zikufotokozedwa mwachindunji chachikulu cha zochita ndi zochita za mwanayo. Mumsewu mukhoza kukhala pansi pa basi, kusukulu akhoza kugwedezeka. Ngati malipiro ali pamwamba, ndiye kuti pali chinyengo. Ndipo kwa iye akhoza kulanga, anakumana ndi mtsikana wokongola - izi ndi zoipa. Adzasintha mwana wawo.
Ngati ngati munthu akukula, nthawi zonse amadzazidwa ndi phobias zosafunika, zomwe sizimulola kukhala ndi moyo. Mchitidwe wosayenerera wa makolo pokhudzana ndi mwana wawo umasokoneza maganizo awo. Iwo amaganiza za mtendere wawo, osati momwe munthu wamkulu angalowe mudziko la anthu. Ndipo, monga lamulo, pokhala wamkulu, iye amalowetsa ovala ndi osasintha. Zimamuvuta kupanga zosankha mosiyana, chifukwa makolo ake sanamuphunzitse.
Kuopa zosankha zosayembekezereka
Nthawi zambiri makolo amawopa mavumbulutso odabwitsa a mwana wawo. Ngati alinjini onse ali m'banja, ndipo mwana wawo adayamba kuledzera nyimbo ndipo akufuna kupereka moyo wake kwa iye, ndiye amamupatsa maganizo oipa oimba. Patapita nthaĊµi, munthu wamng'ono amayamba kukhulupirira kuti oimba amamwa mowa ndi mowa. Choncho amayamba kuiwala changu chake. Osati udindo wotsiriza pamaseĊµero awa makolo. Koma akanakhoza kukhala woimba wotchuka, ngati osati "malangizo abwino" a makolo abwino.
Kodi mungapewe bwanji kusokoneza maganizo?
Kotero, tsopano ndinu wamkulu. Kusokonezeka nthawi zonse kwa achibale anu m'moyo wanu kumayamba kukukwiyitsani, kukulepheretsani kupanga zisankho zazikulu. Tengani nokha dzanja ndi kuthyola ulusi wosaoneka womwe umakugwirizanitsani kwa iwo. Pambuyo pake, chingwe cha umbilical chimadulidwa chifukwa mwanayo safunikanso kudyetsa mayi. Iye amayamba kuchita izo mwiniwake. Fotokozerani momveka bwino kwa makolowo, zikomo chifukwa cha kusungidwa kwanu ndipo munena kuti simukusowa. Ndi nthawi yoti mupite moyo wanu nokha.
Konzani zolankhula zanu pasanakhale, muzinene, muyimire pagalasi. Sankhani nthawi yomwe makolo ali omasuka, omasuka.
Pamene akulankhula, ayang'anirani maso awo, liwu lakulankhulidwe liyenera kukhala lokhazikika, kuchotsa mawu achinyengo. Musanayambe uthenga wolimbikitsa, muziwakumbutsa chikondi chanu chosatha. Nenani kuti nthawi zonse akhoza kudalira thandizo lanu ndi kusamala. Ganizirani momwe mungapewere vuto lalikulu kapena kukambirana pazithunzithunzi zapamwamba.
Zitha kuchitika kuti makolo sangachoke kwa inu popanda nkhondo. Pewani kukhala mwamtendere ndi iwo okha. Inde, zidzasokoneza mkwiyo wawo, kukukhumudwitsani mwa inu, ndipo mwinamwake udani. Musataye mtima. Nthawi imachiritsa chirichonse. Adzafika pozindikira kuti ndinu munthu wamkulu, muli ndi ufulu wokonza nkhani zanu nokha. Ubale ndi makolo udzabwerera ku chikhalidwe.
Koma n'zotheka kuthetsa vutoli mosiyana, mogwira mtima. Sonyezani zochita zanu ndi zochita zanu zoyenera, kuti simukusowa thandizo la makolo. Iwo okha adzawona kuti kuphunzitsa kwawo kukuletsani kale. Ndipo mwakachetechete pitani okha.
Khalani paubwenzi wolimba ndi makolo anu, yesetsani kuwamvetsa. Ngati mulibe ana anu, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri. Koma zikawoneka, zochita za makolo anu kwa inu zidzakhala zomveka bwino. Simudzatha kuona chilichonse chachilendo mwa iwo.