Chimodzi mwa zikuluzikulu ndi zofunikira kwambiri pazimenezi zidzakhala chikhumbo cha kuphunzira za kugonana ndikupeza chisangalalo mu msinkhu wochuluka kwambiri kuposa momwe tilili. Ponena za kugonana timatanthauza zonse zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe, thupi, malingaliro ndi magalimoto, pogwiritsa ntchito chikhumbo chogonana. Koma sikuti nthawi zonse munthu ali wokonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito mphatso imeneyi, kotero kuti kugonana mumayenera kukhala okhwima maganizo ndi anthu.
Mchitidwe wathu wa kugonana umakhudzidwa ndi zikhalidwe, zamaganizo ndi zamaganizo - ndizo zomwe zimayambitsa zokhudzana ndi kugonana koyambirira. Kwachilengedwe timaphatikizapo, mwachitsanzo, mlingo wa mahomoni omwe amayendetsa khalidwe lathu, kukula kwa thupi ndi zizindikiro zazikulu za kugonana kwathu. Zomwe anthu angakhazikitse zidzakhudza chilengedwe chonse cha munthu, chikhalidwe chake, banja lake, makhalidwe ake ndi chipembedzo chake. Zinthu zamaganizo ndizo malingaliro onse a mwana, maganizo ake ndi malingaliro ake, zomwe zimayambitsa kugonana koyambirira.
Ukhungu ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri pa moyo wa munthu aliyense. Ino ndiyo nthawi yomwe timatsegula tokha, timapanga njira kuchokera mwana mpaka wamkulu, timaphunzira dziko lapansi ndikudzipeza tokha, kuzindikira kufunikira ndi udindo wathu. Achinyamata, kaŵirikaŵiri, amatsutsana ndi tsankho lawo, ndi udindo wa munthu wamkulu ndi mwana pamutu pawo, amayang'ana njira yolondola yosiyana, ndikuphunzira kukhala ndi moyo. Pali mavuto osiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo vuto lodzidalira. Nthaŵi zambiri, kudzidalira kwa achinyamata kumasintha ndipo kumatha kulumpha kuchokera kumtunda mpaka kumunsi. Mavuto ndi kudzidalira amatipatsa chimodzi mwazimene zimayambitsa kugonana koyambirira.
Mnyamata angagwiritse ntchito kugonana kuti adzivomereze yekha, chifukwa njirayi adzakhala ovomerezeka kwambiri pakati pa abwenzi, okhwima, kudziwonetsera yekha kuti ndi wofunikira, kutsegula mwayi watsopano. Munthu wokhala ndi ulemu waukulu adzatsogoleredwa ndi chilolezo, chifukwa munthu wodzichepetsa amatha kusamalira, choncho munthu wina akhoza kutumiza wothandizirayo popanda kukhudzidwa ndi mavuto aakulu. Ozunzidwawo sangathe kunena "ayi", kukana pempho losafunika.
Pano, komanso, chifukwa chofunikira ndi mantha a zosadziwika, ndipo imodzi mwa njira zothandizira kuthana nacho ndi kuyesa nokha. Mwachitsanzo, pamene mukuwopa chilombo chokhala pansi pa kama mu ubwana wanu, mutha kuyesa kumenyana nokha, ndi kovuta kugona usiku uliwonse, koma mukhoza kuyang'ana pansi pa bulangeti ndikuwona kuti palibe wina pamenepo ndipo mukumva bwino . Kugonana kungagwiritse ntchito ngati nyamakazi, ndipo nthawi zina njira yothetsera vutoli imawoneka kuti ikuyesera nokha ndikuonetsetsa kuti palibe choipa pa izi, kudutsa mzere umene mumawopa.
Inu mukhoza kuwoloka mzere osati chifukwa cha chifukwa chotero monga mantha, komanso chifukwa cha chidwi. Musaiwale kuti m'nthawi ya kusintha kumayambitsa kukula kwa mahomoni ambiri, kumawonjezera chilakolako cha kugonana, munthu amadziwa za kugonana kwake ndipo akuyenera kukhutiritsa chikhumbo chake. Komanso, mutu wa kugonana ukuchepa kwambiri ndipo umakhala wotchuka kwambiri, atolankhani amatipatsa zidule kuchokera ku zojambula zogonana, kukopa moyo wofanana, kuwonetsa miyambo yatsopano ndi zochitika zatsopano.
Kuchokera potsatira izi, kukonzanso kwa chikhalidwe cha anthu onse, zida zatsopano ndi malamulo okhudza maganizo a mwana wachinyamata, kumusokoneza, kumukakamiza kuti asankhe zochita zowonongeka, zoyenera kuchita. Chidwi chakuzungulira sichiri chachilendo, chomwe chimapangitsa anthu kuti achitepo kanthu.
Zomwe zimayambitsa kugonana koyambirira zidzakhalanso zotsutsana komanso zokhudzana ndi thupi, monga: kutha msinkhu, kufulumira kwa achinyamata. Poyamba, zaka zokhudzana ndi kugonana zikubwera, mahomoni ambiri amapangidwa ndipo chidwi cha amuna kapena akazi chimakula. Kukula kosalamulirika kumabweretsa kugonana koyambirira, kulolera kuyesetsa ndi chidwi. Pachifukwa ichi, chikondi nthawi zambiri chimadziwika ngati chikondi, malingaliro amamangidwa omwe posachedwa amadzazindikira ndikufika kumapeto, ndipo malo awo kwa nthawi yaitali akukhala ndi vuto la maganizo.
Ngakhale kuti ena mwa achinyamata okhwima mwauzimu, achinyamata ndi achinyamata, chifukwa cha ubale weniweni akhoza kukhala chikondi, kotero sitingathe kutulutsa chinthu ichi, chomwe sichikhala chosowa.
Chifukwa cha maganizo, n'zotheka kuphatikizapo maphunziro. Izi ndi maphunziro osasamala, okhudzidwa kapena osaphunzira kwa ana. Kwa achinyamata, zingakhale zopweteka kugonana, kusayanjana ndi vutoli, ndi zolepheretsa zambiri, zovuta, zosiyana ndi nkhani za kugonana, lingaliro m'banja mwawo zokhudzana ndi kugonana monga chinthu chodetsedwa komanso chosavomerezeka.
Phunzitsani mwana wachinyamata kuderali kuti akhale wolondola. Choyamba, kuwona mtima ndi kutseguka ndizofunikira apa. Musakhale chete, manyazi ndipo mutanthauzire kukambirana ku mutu wina. Siyeneranso kufotokozera kuletsedwa kwa mawu a sayansi omwe ogonana pogonana amagwiritsa ntchito. Kukwaniritsidwa kwathunthu ndi kufotokozera kwafotokozedwa kudzakhala kofunika, mfundoyo ndi yowonjezereka komanso yomveka bwino. Zokambirana pa nkhani zomwezo, kukambirana za kugonana mwamtendere zidzakhala zothandiza kwambiri. Kuti izi zitheke, tikufunika kukhala ndi chikhalidwe chogwirizana komanso kumvetsetsa m'banja.
Komabe, ngakhale kuti m'badwo uliwonse msinkhu wa chibwenzi choyamba umachepa, ndipo mwanayo akukakamizika ndi zosiyana, ndipo mabwenzi "apamwamba" amawongolera miyambo ndi malamulo awo, komabe ntchito yofunikira yomwe pamapeto pake idzasewera kulera ndi mtendere wamunthu wa munthu. Ngati mwanayo ali ndi vuto la maganizo ndipo adzalandira njira zothetsera kugonana, izi zidzangowonjezera vuto la mkati. Pamene wachinyamata alibe mavuto aakulu komanso amatsutsana ndi iye mwini, ubwenzi weniweni umabwera osati mwadzidzidzi, koma mozindikira komanso moyenera.