Ndipotu, tchalitchi chathu sichitetezeka kwambiri. Amuna ndi akazi amayamba kufunafuna ubale weniweni ndi wokhalitsa. Ndi zosiyana ndi zosawerengeka, sizingatheke kuzinyenga zamakono. Ndipo ngakhale pali chisudzulo chochuluka chaka chilichonse, ndipo pali maukwati ochepa, ndi ochepa okha omwe amayesetsa kugonana nthawi imodzi.
Pachifukwa ichi, nkofunika kuti tisanyalanyaze kupezeka, kudzikonda komanso kudzikonda. Mwadzidzidzi mudzakumana ndi mnzanuyo, ndipo chifukwa cha kulimbika kosafunika, simudzazindikira kuti ndi nthawi yoti mutsimikize kuti munthuyo ndiwe wovuta kwambiri.
Tiyeni tione mfundo zina zokhudzana ndi nkhaniyi, momwe tingatsimikizire kuti munthuyo ali wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi.
Chidziwitso cha anzanu
Musakhale olimba mtima ndi kunena kuti mukungoyang'ana munthu yemwe mungathe kupita naye ku phwando kapena kugonana naye. Ngakhale kuti tsopano ndi yapamwamba, sikudzakupatsani malingaliro abwino. Amuna samakhulupirira amayi omwe ali ofikila komanso odziimira okhaokha. Kawirikawiri amadziŵa kuti amasiye okha amatha kugona ndi kuiwala za mwamuna. Komabe, zolinga zofunikira kwambiri kulengeza poyamba sizothandiza - mungathe kuwopsyeza wopempha kuti akhale paubwenzi ndi inu.
Zimene munganene pa zokondweretsa
Mungathe kukonda maphwando okondwa, mabala a usiku ndi ma discos. Koma musangoganizira zofuna izi. Si chinsinsi chakuti anthu amapita kumaphwando otere kuti akapeze anzanga atsopano. Ndipo ngakhale mutasangalala ndi nyimbo zokha, kuvina ndi kulankhulana kosangalatsa, amuna amatsenga amatsutsana nawe. Kawirikawiri, ngati mukufuna kumuthandiza mwamuna kuti ali wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi kwa zaka zambiri kapena miyezi, musafulumize kumuuza kuti mumakonda kutayika.
Mmene mungagwirire ndi "wakale"
Nthawi zina akazi amawongolera ndi chikhumbo chawo chotsimikizira kuti amadziwika okha ndi anyamata anzawo. Iwo amaganiza kuti ndizo zokongola zopweteka, zomwe zimatha kusokoneza mitima. Munthu amadziwa izi mosiyana. Iye amaganiza kuti ngati mkazi nthawi zambiri amasintha zibwenzi komanso amalimbikitsanso izi, amangotenga zopambana. Willy kapena mwakachetechete, amayamba mantha, kuchitira nsanje kuchokera pachiyambi ndikudandaula kuti bwenzi lake silinakonzekere kukhala pachibwenzi. Ndipo ngakhale atalengeza ufulu wa chiyanjano m'mawu ake, nthawi zonse adzakhumudwa pamutu pake kuti sadzakhala nanu kwa nthawi yayitali, chifukwa sakufuna kapena sangathe kulimbana ndi akatswiri ambiri amthandizi kapena enieni.
Momwe mungasonyezere kukula
Ubwana ndi ziphuphu ziyenera kuponyedwa m'katikati mwa tebulo, ndikupaka kukhwima. Yankho losavuta la yankho la funso la momwe angatsimikizire kuti mnyamata ali wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi ndi kutha kukhala wamkulu. Izi zikutanthawuza kukhala wokhoza kuphatikizapo mfundo zomveka komanso zomveka mu chiyanjano, luso la kulingalira mwanzeru, chilakolako ndi mwayi wopeza udindo pa zosankha zina, kuthekera kusunga mawu a munthu. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti zosangalatsa komanso chilakolako chopusitsa ziyenera kuchoka pa moyo wanu - osati ayi. Pokhapokha panthawi yofunikira komanso yovuta kwambiri munthu ayenera kuwonetsa kukula, kupanga zisankho zolondola. Ndipo chinthu chachikulu ndicho kumuwonetsa iye.
Gwiritsani ntchito maubwenzi
Chifukwa chakuti chidziwitso cha maganizo chimakhala chofikira kwambiri m'zaka zaposachedwapa, ngakhale amuna omwe sali ndi maganizo odziwa kuti maubwenzi akuluakulu ayenera kugwira ntchito. Zimatanthauza - kuthetsa mikangano ndi kusagwirizana, kukwanitsa kulankhula popanda kuwopa mavuto omwe akubwera, chikhumbo chokumvetsetsa mnzanuyo, kugawana naye zofuna zake ndi zokondweretsa. Musati muzivala chigoba cha munthu wodziwazonse, komanso chithunzi cha mkazi yemwe nthawizonse amafunikira chisamaliro ndi chithandizo - izi zingakhale zokhumudwitsa. Yesetsani kumuuza munthuyo kuti ndinu wokonzeka kugwira ntchito payekha, pa ubale, muuzeni za zovutazo, mwakonzeka kupirira mavuto ndikukula.
Kugonana komanso kugwirizana kwambiri
Nkhani yaikulu yomwe imadetsa nkhawa amayi, imakhudza nthawi yoyenera kuyamba moyo wapamtima. Ena amatsimikiza kuti timalola kugonana pa tsiku loyamba. Ena ali okonzeka kuyembekezera nthawi yayitali asanapsompsone, kufikira pali ubwenzi wa uzimu. Sipangakhale yankho losagwirizana. Ndi bwino kuyesa "kumva" maganizo ake pa izi. Pali chimodzi chokha "koma": Amuna alidi ochuluka kwambiri kuposa momwe amatiwonetsera. Amadzimangira okhaokha ndi omasuka omwe ali otsimikiza kuti sizothandiza kuchepetsa kugonana ndi chiyambi cha ubale watsopano. Ndipo komabe simuyenera kugonjera masewera a masewera awa, chifukwa ndi masewera, osati enieni. Amuna ambiri adakali okongola kwambiri ndipo akukayikira amayi omwe amapezeka mosavuta komanso opondereza kwambiri. Komabe, sizothandiza kuchedwa nthawi yoyamba ya kugonana, kapena zowonjezera.
Kuwonjezera pa zonsezi, ndizofunika kuganizira kuti munthu aliyense ali payekha. Ali ndi zifukwa zake zokhazokha, malingaliro ake okhudza mmene mkazi amachitira, cholinga cha ubale wautali. Kotero malo opambana kwambiri mulimonsemo ndi kulankhula mochepa, mvetserani zambiri kumayambiriro kwa bukuli. Njirayi ndi yosavuta kuyigwiritsa ntchito: Amuna amakonda kulankhula za iwo okha, malingaliro awo pa moyo, amamvetsera akamvetsera mwatcheru ndi chidwi. Palibe chovuta kapena chodabwitsa kuti iye "ayese" pang'ono, amvetse zomwe akusowa, zomwe akufuna, zomwe akuwopa, zomwe amatsutsa. Pambuyo pake, mukhoza kutsegula pang'onopang'ono, ndipo nkofunika kuti musadzipereke nokha. Izi ndizo, mungathe kusewera, kubwereza - osayenera. Chigoba cha chithunzithunzi, chimene timaika kumayambiriro kwa bukuli, potsirizira pake chidzatha, ndipo akhoza kukhala pachitsime chophwanyika. Komabe, iwo omwe poyamba samalankhula mochepa ndi kumvetsera zambiri, amapeza mwayi waukulu pamabuku opangira mauthenga. Iwo amatha kumvetsa ngati uyu ndi munthu yemwe ayenera kutsimikizira kufunika kwa zolinga ngakhale nkhaniyi isanakhale yoyenera mu chiyanjano.