Kodi ndi zolinga ziti zomwe zimalimbikitsa mkazi wokhwima kufunafuna ubale ndi anyamata? Ubwenzi pakati pa anyamata ndi atsikana oposa 30 - nkhaniyi ndi yovuta kwambiri pamaganizo. Yankho la funso ili ndi lovuta. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, zaumoyo, za maganizo ndi zamoyo. Kawirikawiri awa ndi akazi omwe atha kale kukwanitsa ntchito zina, amakhala ndi ndalama zokwanira komanso ndalama zowonjezera. Ndi mkazi wokhazikika komanso wodziimira yekha, yemwe ali ndi moyo wake weniweni komanso wolemera moyo wake. Iye sangakane yekha pa zovala, kapena mu mpumulo, kapena mu moyo waumwini. Pogwiritsa ntchito maganizo ake, amadziwa kuti sali wamng'ono, ndipo kukongola kwake sikungokhalapo, koma abambo amamunayo amamvetsera nthawi zonse. Inde, adzafuna kupeza nthawi yowonjezera anyamata ndi mnyamata, chifukwa adakali ndi nthawi yochuluka yopanga, kutanthauzira zina mwa maloto omwe siali thupi lokhazikika. Ndipo amuna a msinkhu wake omwe atopa ndi ntchito, nkhawa zapakhomo sizimapereka chisamaliro chokwanira pa kugonana, kotero amamukonda mwana wamng'ono, wokhoza kuzindikira zilakolako zake. Zochita zonsezi zidzakweza kudzidalira kwake, zidzathandizanso kuti muzimva zofunikira, kugonana ndi okondedwa.
Kwa mkazi, kuyesera koteroko kumapindulitsa kwambiri. Amatha kupeza zonse kuchokera kwa mnyamata wolimba pa kugonana, zomwe sanapezeke pazaka za moyo wapamtima wokwatirana kapena maubwenzi apamtima. Aliyense amadziwa kuti achinyamata ali ndi mphamvu zambiri komanso mphamvu. Kotero, mnyamatayo amadyetsa mphamvu zake zowonjezera mkazi wokhwima, kugonana naye - ichi ndi kasupe wa unyamata. Madona oterewa amakula ndi kuwatsitsimutsa pamaso pawo, amakhala ndi mphamvu komanso mphamvu. Izi, ndithudi, zikufanana ndi mphamvu vampirism. Koma, ngati mkazi atenga mphamvu kwa anzako, ndiye kuti amawoneka kwambiri kwa iwo, ndipo, ngati mnyamata wamng'ono, mphamvu zake zazikulu zimasungidwa nthawi zonse. Choncho, pakadali pano, njira yothetsera mphamvu ndi yopanda malire komanso yopanda phindu. Koma, mzimayi amachoka osati chifukwa cha kuwonjezeka kwa mahomoni komanso mphamvu zamagetsi. Poyamba ndi chinthu chomwe akukumana ndi chikhalidwe chachiwiri cha maganizo. Pambuyo pake, iwo asanagwadire, amayamikira, amafuna kumapeto. Amadziwa kuti mnyamata wamng'ono pakati pa amayi zikwi zambiri ndi atsikana aang'ono amamukonda.
Kodi amatsogoleredwa ndi anyamata, posankha ubale wachikazi? Pazochitika zonse, cholinga chake chikutsatiridwa. Koma, ngati titenga zochitika zonse, ndiye kuti ubwino ndi mbali ya chikhalidwe ndi kugonana. Mnyamatayo amayamba kukhala mkazi wokhala ndi chidziwitso kwambiri, yemwe angamupatse zambiri kuposa mnzako, yemwe sadziwa chilichonse chochita, amapanga zolakwika zambiri mu ubwenzi, komanso ubongo kompositi. Masiku ano, milandu ya mgwirizanowu wakhala wochuluka chifukwa anyamata achichepere amatha kuthetsa mavuto awo a ntchito potsalira awo olemera omwe akusamalira okhwima. Icho chimakhala chogwedeza, iye amakwaniritsa zonse zomwe ali nazo mu gawo lapamtima, ndipo iye, mothandizidwa ndi ndalama zake ndi malumikizano, amamulimbikitsa iye payekha la ntchito.
Inde, palinso mgwirizano wapamwamba m'gulu lino. Ngakhale izi sizikusowa kwambiri, mnyamata akakhala wokhutira komanso ali ndi malingaliro akuluakulu pa moyo omwe salowerera "moyo wachikulire" ponyengerera mnzake, koma amangodzitama chifukwa cha udindo wake komanso maganizo ake amakhala pafupi kwambiri ndi anthu apamwamba. Mnyamata uyu sagonana pachiyambi. Amakonda mbali imeneyi ya ubale wawo, kumene mungathe kuyankhula. Pambuyo pake, amayamikira mnzanuyo zomwe zimamuchitikira komanso kudziwa zomwe angachite naye. Iye ali ndi chidwi polankhulana naye, kuphunzira chinachake chatsopano ndi chothandiza pa moyo. Iye samakhutitsidwa ndi atsikana achichepere, osadziŵa zambiri komanso osadzikonda omwe ali ndi nzeru zochepa. Chifukwa cha mnzake wokhwima, iye amatsimikizira, amakwaniritsa zolinga zake. Kudziwonetsera kwa iyemwini ndi ena kuti iye, mnyamata wamng'ono, ndi wofunikira kwa mkazi wokhwima ndi wodziwa zambiri. Samasamala kuti apambane mitima ya atsikana atsikana, chifukwa anzako onse amachita izo, ndipo n'zosavuta kuchita. Koma zomwe amachita ndizisonyeza kuti akhoza kugonjetsa mapiri onse.
Ubale pakati pa anyamata ndi anyamata oposa zaka 30 sungakhoze kukhalapo kwanthawizonse, monga wina aliyense. Ziribe kanthu momwe mkaziyo akufuna kuti akhalebe wautali kwa zaka zambiri, zaka zimadzimverera. Ndipo, mnyamata wamng'onoyo, poyamba amayamba kuyang'anitsitsa atsikana aang'ono, ndi thupi lolimba ndi nkhope popanda makwinya. Ndipo chiyanjano chidzasunthika kuchoka pa msinkhu wa "wokondedwa kwambiri" kufika pa msinkhu wa "mwana wamwamuna." Mwa njira, maubwenzi oterewa amapezeka kawirikawiri mu dongosolo lachiyanjano. Mkazi mwa njira zonse zotetezera amateteza wokondedwayo, ndipo iyeyo amamva kuti ali otetezeka pansi pa chisamaliro chake. M'badwo wabwino kwambiri wa maubwenzi osiyana ndi kusiyana kwa zaka kuyambira zaka zisanu mpaka zisanu ndi zitatu. Zoonadi, kusiyana kochepa, ndikofunika kwambiri. Kusiyanitsa kwa zaka zingapo kungakhale kovuta, mkati mwa khumi - osati zovuta, koma oposa khumi - kusiyana koopsa. Mwachidziwikire, mkazi akhoza kuyesa kuti adzichepetse ndikuoneka ngati wamng'ono kuposa momwe aliri. Koma zonse zimaloledwa moyenera. Simukusowa kuvala ngati mwana komanso kuchita ngati mwana. Sungani malire a zaka, ndiye zonse zidzakhala bwino.
Kawirikawiri, pali zifukwa zosiyana zopezera chiyanjano chotero, ndipo zolinga zosiyana zimayendetsedwa. Inde, maukwati oterewa amakhala ochepa kwambiri, chifukwa cha zinthu zonse zodziwika, iwo, mwamsanga kapena mtsogolo, amalekanitsa. Ali ndi mwayi wochepa wopitilizabe kupitilirapo kusiyana ndi ubale umene mwamuna amakhala wamkulu kuposa mkazi. Koma ichi si chopinga kwa chilengedwe chawo.