Tsoka ilo, palibe yankho lapadziko lonse ku mafunso ngati amenewa. Ndipotu, mtsikana aliyense ndiyekha. Aliyense amakhala ndi mfundo zawo, malingaliro pa moyo, malingaliro a dziko lozungulira iwo, ali ndi zizoloŵezi zawo, zovuta ndi "ntchentche". Koma, ngati mumaganizira bwino nkhaniyi, ndiye kuti mungadzipatse nokha malangizo. Ndiye chifukwa chiyani moyo waumwini nthawi zambiri umapangitsa aliyense wa ife kuganiza kamodzi kuganiza kuti: "Chifukwa chiyani sindili ndi mwayi pamoyo ndi anyamata?".
Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani atsikana a msinkhu wa zaka 13 mpaka 15. Nyengo imeneyi ndi nthawi yosintha moyo wa munthu aliyense. Pamene chirichonse chikuwonekera kupyolera mu ndende ya kupha. Ngati chinthu chabwino chikuchitika, chirichonse chiri chabwino kulikonse, ndipo ngati kuli koipa, ndiye mapeto a dziko abwera ndipo Posakhalitsa Dziko lapansi lidzalowa mu mdima. Zaka zotero, asungwana akadali achibwana komanso osayera, kusiyana ndi anyamata achikulire omwe angasangalale ndi zosangalatsa. Vuto lina lalikulu lomwe lingasanduke tsoka. M'nthawi yathu ino, mwatsoka, wamba. Izi ndikutayika kwaumwali. Zochitika za achinyamata amakono a m'badwo uwu pali lingaliro lomwe limawoneka kuti sililibwino, ndiko kusunga kusayera. Choncho, atsikana ambiri, akugonjetsedwa ndi achinyamata omwe amayandikana nawo, amachitapo kanthu, akudziwonetsera okha kukhumudwa kwa thupi ndi maganizo. Pa chifukwa ichi, mtsogolo, msungwanayo angakhale ndi mavuto pakuthana ndi anyamata. Pokhapokha mu moyo wapamtima, nthawi zonse amaopa kuti kubwereza kwakumva chisoni ndikumva kupweteka kumene kumabwera naye poyamba kugonana.
Pa msinkhu uwu, atsikanawo ali, motero, mu "malo osokoneza bongo" siteji, choncho anyamata sangathe kuwamvetsera. Iyi ndi nthawi ya kusintha kuchokera kwa msungwana kupita ku msungwana. Ndipo, ponseponse, muyenera kuyamba kusintha. Ndikofunika kuti pang'onopang'ono kusintha zovala za ana awo kuti zikhale zodzikongoletsera, ndikuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito zodzoladzola. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuvala mikanjo yaing'ono, kusamalitsa mimba kapena kudzikongoletsa ngati mapupa. Chilichonse chiyenera kukhala chokhazikika. Pa nkhaniyi mukhoza kulankhulana ndi amayi anu. Adzakuuzani ndikulangizitsa kuti, ndi motani zomwe zikuphatikizidwa. Pang'onopang'ono konzekerani moyo wachikulire. Ndipo kunena pa 13, kuti mulibe mwayi ndi anyamata, ndi oyambirira kwambiri. Okondedwa atsikana, musadziteteze nokha ubwana.
"Kuyambira zaka 16 kapena kuposerapo." Inde, ndi anyamata sangathe kunyamula ngati zaka 16, ndi 25. Apa inu ndi kukongola, ndi anzeru ndi manja anu pa golide, ndipo samanyamula zonse. Tiyeni tiyang'ane pa zochitika ziwiri za moyo, ndiyeno yesetsani kulingalira chifukwa chake tilibe mwayi ndi anyamata m'moyo.
Nambala ya nambala 1. "Kusukulu ndinalibe chibwenzi. Kawirikawiri, ndinali mtsikana wodzichepetsa, sindinatuluke madzulo, ndinaphunzira maphunziro onse. Kenaka ndinalowa ku yunivesite, ndipo ndinasamukira ku makolo anga mumzinda wina. Moyo wa ophunzila umene ndinakondana nawo nthawi yomweyo. Maphwando onsewa, maphwando ndi maphwando ankandikonda. Pa maphwando amenewo, ndinakumana ndi mnyamata. Iye ankawoneka kuti achoka mu maloto anga, osewera wokongola kwambiri, woimba mpira mpira. Kawirikawiri, ndinayamba kukonda naye kumakutu. Tili ndi ubale. Panali maluwa, mphatso, chirichonse chiri chokongola kotero, ngakhale mwakachetechete. Ndinamukonda kwambiri moti nthawi iliyonse yaulere ndinamulembera ma SMS, ndikupereka ndakatulo ndipo nthawi ndi nthawi ndimamupatsa zidole zofewa zosiyanasiyana, mitima ndi makadi ndi kuvomereza chikondi. Koma chimwemwe sichinakhalitse. Pambuyo pa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi ya ubale, anandisiya. Ananena kuti anali atatopa ndi ine ndipo anandiuza kuti ndisabwererenso, kuti ndisalembe komanso kuti ndisamacheze naye ... "
Oksana, wazaka 18
Kuchokera mu mbiri yachidule iyi inu, atsikana okondedwa, muyenera kudzipirira nokha kuti sangathe kupanga fano kuchokera kwa mnyamata ndikumupembedza ngati fano. Nthawi zonse ziyenera kulimbikitsidwa kukupatsani mphatso, osati kuzidzaza nazo. Ngati mnyamata wanu amadziwa kuti chibwenzi chake ndi chake ndipo ali wokonzeka kutsatira malangizo ake, ndiye kuti simudzasangalatsa, choncho simukufunikira. Pambuyo pake, iwo amafunikira mwambi womwe ukusowa kuwululidwa, msungwana yemwe akufuna kuti azifunidwa, ndipo palibe yemwe amagonjetsa izo. Iwo samakonda kwambiri malingaliro, monga ma SMS ambiri patsiku, komanso ma teddy ambiri amene mumapereka omwe chipinda chawo chatsekedwa. Iwo si atsikana, koma oimira amuna!
Chiwerengero cha nambala 2. "Takhala tikukumana kwa zaka ziwiri, monga momwe ndinalangizira kuti azikhala pamodzi. Iye sanali kutsutsa izo. Ndinkakonda kukhala pamodzi. Ndinamuphika mokondwera kuti adye, kusamba ndi kusunga malaya ake. Tinagona tulo ndipo tidadzuka pamodzi. Ine ndinali wotopa, ndithudi, nthawizonse sindinkakhala ndi mphamvu zokwanira pambuyo pa ntchito ndipo zonsezi zimapita ku salon, koma iye sananene kalikonse kwa ine, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti iye anali wokondwa ndi chirichonse. Pano pano akuyenda maulendo ake ataliatali ndi kuchedwa kuntchito mwamsanga kumapeto kwathu. Tidakambirana za izo, koma adanena kuti mwanjira ina sikutheka. Pambuyo pake, uwu ndi ntchito yake, ndipo kawirikawiri, koma iye amayesera ine. Chabwino, apa ine ndinayanjanitsidwa ndi izi. Ndiyeno, iye ankanyamula zinthu zake ndi kupita kwa mkazi wina. Chaka chotsatira iwo anakwatira ndipo ali ndi mwana kale. Ndipo ine sindingathe kubwera ku malingaliro anga "
Katia, wazaka 26
Atsikanafe tikufunikira kukumbukira lamulo limodzi la golide pochita nawo amuna, simungathe kuwakakamiza kuti azikhala pamodzi kapena, ngakhale koopsa, pitani ku ofesi yolembera! Amawopa izi ngati zizindikiro zamalonda. Ndikumvetsetsa bwino kuti pali amuna omwe sangathe kupanga malingaliro awo, choncho awathandize pa izi, koma ndizofunikira kukankhira ndi nzeru, ndi nzeru za akazi, osati pamphumi. Chinthu chachiwiri chomwe tingathe kupirira ndi ichi ndikuti sitiyenera kukhala atumiki awo. Kusamba nthawi zonse, kuyeretsa ndi kuphika sizingatipangitse kukhala osasangalatsa komanso zofunika kwambiri kwa iwo. Ndikhulupirire, iwo sadzazindikira ngati mumasamba pansi osati sabata iliyonse, koma kamodzi pamwezi. Ndi bwino kugwiritsa ntchito nthawiyi pamanja kapena kupanga mask nkhope. Iwo ndithudi adzaziwona izo. Musati mupite kunyumba mukasambira. Valani zovala zolimba zomwe zidzatsindika ulemu wanu ndi kubisala zolakwika. Ndipo chachitatu, musakhale opanda nzeru. Kuyenda kawirikawiri zamalonda popanda chifukwa, komanso kuchedwa kwake kuntchito mpaka usiku, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chifukwa chomwecho - mkazi wina. Koma musakhale fungo lopweteka ndikuthandizani kukhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu, kungolankhula momasuka ndi iye, ndipo mutatha kuwona kuti mawu ake ali owona. Monga ngati mwangozi, kuti mutsimikizire.
Tinabweretsa mavuto awiri okha kuchokera ku moyo, koma adapeza zambiri zedi zomwe adatibweretsera! Izi siziri zonse. Koma, ngati mutenga malangizowo kuti mutumikire, ndiye izi zidzakuthandizani pazomwe mukugwirizana ndi anyamata, funso: "Chifukwa chiyani ndilibe mwayi pamoyo ndi anyamata" adziwonongera okha. Chikondi ndi kukondedwa!