Moyo wamakono umaphwanya mosaganizira zochitika zowoneka, ndipo sitidodometsedwa kuti nthawi zina wopeza wamkulu m'banja ndi mkazi. Ndalama zomwe amapeza zimathetsa mavuto ambiri azachuma. Koma panthawi imodzimodziyo amalenga mavuto atsopano omwe sali ovuta kuthetsa.
Akatswiri a zaumulungu ndi akatswiri a maganizo a nthawi yaitali anali ndi chidwi pa funso la zomwe amai amaganiza ndikumverera, omwe adawoneka kuti ndiwothandiza kwambiri m'banja. Ndalama zimapereka mphamvu, ulamuliro, ufulu, udindo pakati pa anthu. Kupindula pazitukukozi kumasintha psychology ya mkazi wopambana mu bizinesi ndi mabwenzi ake apamtima. Ndiko kumene mavuto amayamba.
Mkhalidwe 1 . "Mipikisano yosautsa." Kawirikawiri, mkazi wopambana pantchito akukakamizika kuchita ntchito zake mwachizolowezi, ngati kuti sagwira ntchito konse. Ngakhale kuti abambo amavomereza kuti mkaziyo ali ndi ufulu wopeza nawo ndalama, koma kutenga udindo wa "akazi" sikuthamangira. Chifukwa chake, nyumbayo ndi nyansi, mapiri a mbale zosasamba, ndi zinthu zina zambiri zosasangalatsa. Ndipo apa, mano odulidwa, atatopa kwambiri ntchito, pakati pausiku iwe umakoza chimbudzi ndipo nthawi yomweyo mumadabwa chifukwa, kupatula msonkhano, mumayenera kugwira ntchito zapakhomo, ngati mutapindula kwambiri kuposa mwamuna wanu, amene akuwona malotowo. Mzimayi samangolandira chithandizo komanso kuthandizidwa, komanso alibe malipiro abwino. Chinyengo chimasungira, chomwe chikukula kukhala chiwonetsero cha mkati. Zotsatira zake, maubwenzi apabanja amapuma.
Mkhalidwe 2. Osati amuna ambiri omwe amapindula bwino amafuna kuzindikira mphamvu ya mkazi, ngakhale atalandira ndalama zochepa. Mphamvu iyi ya mkazi imawopsyeza oimira onse awiri. Mwamuna mwa chilengedwe ndi wokonzedweratu kuti akhale wothandizira. Ndibwino kuti azitha kusamalira banja lake, kukhala wolimba mtima komanso wodalirika kwambiri omwe amadzimva yekha ndi anthu. Kumbali ina, mkazi-getter amadziona yekha ngati "nkhosa yakuda". Ulamuliro wake ndi kudzidalira zimadwala. Mwamuna samva bwino pafupi ndi mkazi woterowo, ndipo mkazi amamva ubwino wa udindo wake. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti, makamaka, vutoli limakhudza akazi oposa zaka makumi atatu. Azimayi kuyambira zaka 20 mpaka 30, omwe mapewa awo adachotsedwa, amazindikira kuti vutoli ndi laling'ono ndipo sadakonzekere kumuthandiza pa nthawi yayitali. Izi zikutanthauza kuti akazi safuna kuvomereza kuti azitha kugwira ntchito yaikulu kwa wothandizira kwambiri.
Mkhalidwe 3 . Udindo wa chiwongoladzanja cha banja nthawi zina sungasamalike kwa mkazi. Amakumana ndi zovuta nthawi zonse, sangathe kugona usiku. Ndipo zonse chifukwa zimangogwedezeka pansi pa zolemetsa zaumphawi ndi udindo, zomwe zidawoneka ngati za amuna okha. Ndipo izi zili choncho ngakhale kuti ntchito zambiri zapakhomo ndi kusamalira ana zidakali pa iye. Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, udindo womwe amayiwo ali nawo ndi wochepa kwambiri, amunawo amasonyeza kuti amayesetsa kupeza ntchito yabwino. Pamene amayi ambiri akuyendetsa bwino vutoli, kumamenyana kwambiri ndi mwamuna wake. Ubale wa banja kachiwiri umasokonezeka.
Mkhalidwe 4 . Mkhalidwe wa banja limene mkaziyo ali wopindulitsa kwambiri nthawi zambiri umachulukitsidwa ndi kukakamizidwa kwa ena, poyamba, achibale. Zoonadi, okwatirana amayesera kuti aziwoneka ngati "achizolowezi" kwa anthu ena, kugwirizana mgwirizano wina ndi mzake kuti sakugwirizana kwambiri ndi izi komanso amakana mphamvu ya mkaziyo kuti amupatse ndalama. Mwachitsanzo, amuna omwe amalandira ndalama zofanana ndi akazi, amavomereza poyera kuti malipiro a mkazi amapezeka makamaka kugulidwa kwachiwiri, zosafunika kwenikweni, komanso chakudya cha banja. Azimayi ali okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zomwe azimayi awo amakumana nazo pankhani ya kudalira ndalama, choncho amaseĊµera kwa amuna awo ndikunyalanyaza udindo wawo monga kutenga. Kumbali imodzi, akazi amamva mphamvu, komabe, amayenda mumthunzi kuti amuthandize munthuyo. Pamaso mwa ena awiriwa angawoneke achimwemwe, koma chifukwa chake ambiri a mgwirizano amatha?
Mkhalidwe 5 . Azimayi ambiri, omwe ali operewera kwambiri m'banja, amadziwa kuti kulimbana kwakukulu kwambiri, ndi zotsatira zovuta kwambiri, zimawotcha m'chipinda chogona. Mwamuna amapewa kugonana chifukwa amamva kuti ali ndi zofooka zachuma. Amafunikira chithandizo chamumtima, koma mkazi amafunikira chithandizo cha kugonana pofuna kutsimikizira kuti akadakongola. Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti vuto la moyo wa kugonana limakhalapo ndi mkazi. Ngati akudziwa bwino momwe banja liyenera kupita kumalo otchuthi, ndi chiyani chomwe chiyenera kudyetsedwa masana ndi momwe angagwiritsire ntchito ndalama "zaulere", amatha kumva ngati amayi kuposa wokonda. Nanga ndi kugonana kotani komwe kumatheka ndi mwanayo?
Mkhalidwe 6 . Chibadwa chakumayi. Mayi ndizojambula zamatsenga zomwe zimasonyeza mkazi amene amapeza kuti kusamalira banja sizomwe akufuna. Amayi ambiri omwe, atatha kubereka, amakakamizidwa kubwerera kuntchito, azindikire kuti zilibe kanthu kuti amamukonda bwanji. Zonsezi sizothandiza kwa iwo ngati mwana. Komabe, ngati simubwerera kuntchito, banja silidzapulumuka. Amayi ambiri omwe amapatsidwa ndalama ali otopa pogwiritsa ntchito goli la kuphatikizana ndi udindo wa boma ndi wa banja m'miyezi yoyamba mwana atabadwa. Zotsatira zake, sangathe kukhululukira mwamuna kuti mwanayo atengepo mbali yoyamba popanda, ndipo mawu oyambirira sanapangidwe ndi "amayi", ndipo mokondwera bamboyo amatenga manja ake kwa bambo ake, osati kwa iye, kukakamizidwa kuti sangathe kupereka banja la mwamuna wake kotero zambiri kuti zisokonezeke pakuyankhulana kwawo ndi mwanayo.
Zimalingalira pa mutuwo
Mkazi aliyense amasankha yekha njira yomwe angasankhire. Ngakhale kuti ali ndi udindo wapadera, ambiri mwa amayiwa sakufuna moyo wosiyana ndi iwo okha.
Kwa oyendetsa akazi, zikanakhala zophweka kuti asamamve mawu osakondweretsa a ena ngati amva kuti mamembala a banja amanyadira nawo popanda kusungirako.
Komabe, n'zoonekeratu kuti akazi amafuna kuti wina azisamalira.
Ngakhalenso ngati mkazi wasintha udindo wa wogwira ntchito komanso wothandizira banja, wina sangathe kuyembekezera kuti chikhalidwe chatsopano cha banja chidzapangidwanso mofulumira.
Mkazi yemwe amathandiza gawo la mkango ku bajeti ya banja sangakhutire ngati sakuyankhasinkha nthawi yake, amapeza nthawi yolankhulana ndi mwanayo, samuthandiza mwamuna wake poyesera kupeza ndalama zabwino, sadzayesera kuti azikhala naye pafupi.
Malangizo a zamaganizo
Mulimonsemo, musadandaule kuti ndinu wamkulu. Malipiro apamwamba samapereka ufulu. Musamangokhalira kukwiya ndi mwamuna, musakambirane za kuchuluka kwa zomwe mukuchita kuzungulira mnyumbamo. Mwinamwake, "wosakhutitsidwa" kwake mulibe maziko enieni. Izi ndi njira yake yokhayo yodziyimira.
Musamachitire mwamuna wanu zomwe iye mwini angachite pakhomo. Nthawi zambiri akazi ogwira ntchito amalonda amayesetsa kukhala ndi ulesi mwa mwamuna wawo, patsogolo pake ndi kumusamalira. Amasowa kuleza mtima ndi kusasinthasintha koyenera kuti pang'onopang'ono aphatikize mwamuna wake ku mavuto a m'banja. Mwiniwakeyo sangawonetsere. Mupempheni kuti akuthandizeni. Musakwiyire pamene ntchito yatha osati bwino kapena pang'onopang'ono. Osati onse mwakamodzi.
Musamunene mwamuna wake chifukwa chokhala waulesi, wodzikonda, osapindula. Ndemanga iliyonse yanu idzagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chifukwa chotsutsa adilesi yanu. Izi zimafuna ndondomeko yowonongeka kwambiri.
Mukatsimikiza kuti mwamuna akhoza, koma sakufuna kupeza zambiri, zingakhale zomveka kuti asiye kudzipangira ndalama. Izi zidzakakamiza mwamuna wake kuti asamuke.
Ngati mwamuna akukula maofesi, ndibwino kutsindika (nthawi zonse koma osazindikira) kulemera kwake m'banja. "Ndizabwino kuti iwe ukhale nane," "Popanda kuthandizira, sindikanapambana." Kuchokera m'mawu awa kumbuyo kwa munthuyo kudzakula mapiko. Ndipo pokhapokha ngati mumvetsetsa kuti zovutazo ndi zakuya kwambiri komanso kuti mazunzo a mwamunayo amachititsa machitidwe owopsya, machitidwe ochititsa manyazi, gawo lawo, kuti asapse moyo wanu ku gehena.
Pofuna kuti mwamuna azikhala omasuka, ikani ndalama zonse pamodzi (izi zikhonza kukhala ngati bokosi lodziwika, lomwe aliyense wa inu amatenga ndalama). Kambiranani zinthu zonse zomwe mumagula, zodula. Siyani ndalama zonse zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito (zomwe mungakhale nazo - zapadera).
Sikoyenera, kuletsa kudzikuza kwa mwamuna, kubisala miyeso yeniyeni ya malipiro ake. Mpata woululira ndi wabwino, umene umayambitsa mavuto aakulu.
Musamapanikize mnzanuyo. Izi nthawi zonse zimayambitsa kugwedeza. Kukambirana kokha, kukambirana kwachinsinsi kudzakuthandizani kupewa mikangano ndi kusunga mtendere m'banja.
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