Nchifukwa chiyani amuna amakonda ena, ndi kukwatira ena?

Malinga ndi chiwerengero, mabanja 10 pa 100 ali ndi chikondi chachikulu. Tiyeni tiyesetse kumvetsa chifukwa chake amuna amakonda ena, ndi kukwatira ena.

1. Amuna amaika cholinga chokwatira mkazi wokongola ndi wanzeru. Pamene munthu ayamba kusankha mkazi wake wam'tsogolo, amayamba kudziwerengera yekha zoyenera. Malingana ndi izi, mkazi wam'tsogolo ayenera kulemba ngati mkazi komanso mayi. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti amuna amakonda mtsikana mmodzi, koma samamuwona iye fanizo la mkazi wabwino, popeza sakudziwa kuphika kapena samakonda kupukuta fumbi tsiku lililonse.

Ndipo pano panthawiyi, ayamba kuganiza momwe zingakhalire bwino kukwatira Kate Simonina, chifukwa amadziwa kuphika, amatha kusamalira maluwa a amayi, ndipo akhoza kukondanso kumbali, monga momwe akuganizira. Makolo ambiri amauza ana awo kuti amamukonda, koma amakhala ndi munthu wina ndipo iwo amawaona kuti ndi abwino. Mwanjira imeneyi amauza ana awo kuti palibe cholakwika ndi izi.

2. Amuna nthawi zambiri amafunafuna zabwino. Ndipo monga zatsimikiziridwa ndi sayansi, palibe anthu abwinobwino, koma iwo samawaletsa iwo. Zimapezeka kuti munthu samapeza bwino. Ndipo zimachitika, ndipo mosiyana, amakumana, koma kenako amakhumudwitsidwa ndikuchita zinthu zopupuluma.

3. Zimakwaniritsidwa ndipo izi ndi pamene amuna akwatirana molingana ndi kuwerengera. Pambuyo pake, amuna akufunikira kwambiri chidaliro m'tsogolo. Pambuyo pa zonse, sikuti munthu aliyense akhoza kuthana ndi vutoli pa umoyo, kukula kwa ntchito, mphamvu, kutchuka, zonsezi zikuphatikizidwa ndi mkazi wake. Ambiri amapanga maukwati ndipo chifukwa cha kuwerengera ali okonzeka kukwatira ngakhale mkazi wokalamba wokalamba.

4. Zimakhalanso kuti anthu amaganiza kuti anthu okwatira amakhala nthawi yaitali kwambiri. Aliyense wamwamuna amalota banja. Anthu ena amangoganizira za chimwemwe ichi, chifukwa muutsikana wathu timalota, ndipo pamene tikukula timayang'ana kufuna kwathu ndikuyang'anitsitsa kuti tisapangidwe. Ndipo pamapeto, palibe chimene sitingathe kusankha. Ndipo tikuyamba kuzindikira kuti zonse zakhala zitakhazikitsidwa chisa chake, koma mulibe. Ndiyeno pali achibale omwe amanena kuti muyenera kukwatira. Ndipo apa mwamuna amamatira ku mawu ndipo ayenera kukwatira popanda chikondi.

Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimachititsa amuna kukwatira ena. Koma makamaka maukwati oterowa adzalephera. Pambuyo pake, ubale wa banja sungathe kumvetsetsa, kulemekezana, komanso chofunika kwambiri, kumverera.