Momwe mungakhalire moyenera ndi mwamuna

Chiyanjano pakati pa anthu chimakhudza mbali yofunikira m'miyoyo yathu yonse. Momwe mumagwirizana ndi chilakolako chanu, kupambana payekha kumadalira kwambiri. Nkhaniyi idzakhala yothandiza kwa amayi omwe akufuna kuphunzira momwe angachitire bwino ndi mwamuna.

Zolinga za kukwanitsa kumvetsetsa ndi chikhalidwe cholimba

Pofuna kumvetsetsa momwe angakhalire ndi mnyamata, chinthu choyamba mtsikana ayenera kusankha kuti ndi ndani yemwe ali naye: chidziwitso chophweka kwa buku lalifupi kapena munthu amene mukufuna kukhala ndi moyo zaka zambiri. Pachiyambi choyamba, palibe malamulo apadera sayenera kutsatiridwa, ngati mukufuna kungosangalala - chitani ndi kusasamala konse, osamvetsera mwatsatanetsatane. Chabwino, ngati mayi akufuna kukondweretsa mwamuna kwa nthawi yayitali, adzayenera kuchita zinthu zina.

1. Tsiku loyamba loyamba ndilo chitsimikizo cha ubale wam'tsogolo, kotero mutenge mozama. Kuti mukondweretse munthu yemwe ali ndi mphamvu zogonana pachigawo chino cha chibwenzi, onetsetsani kuti mumamvetsera ndikutenga zonse zomwe akunena. Onetsani chidwi chake pa umunthu wake, chifukwa ngati muphonya nkhani yake payekha, mwamunayo amvetse kuti "sanakugwirani".
2. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi makhalidwe abwino komanso khalidwe lanu liri pafupi kwambiri, simukufunikira kufotokoza zida zanu zonse pamsonkhano woyamba. Kumbukirani kuti mwamuna amakonda kuthetsa mkazi pang'onopang'ono, sitepe ndi sitepe. Kuphunzira za inu nonse mwakamodzi, mumangokhala osasangalatsa naye, ndipo adzapita kukafunafuna phunzilo latsopano.
3. Musamanama nokha. Kudzikweza okha pamaso pa interlocutor amachimwira ambiri, koma kumbukirani kuti pa nthawi yaitali yodziwa, zomwe mukuyembekeza, chinyengo chimatseguka. Ndiko kunyoza ndi kosasangalatsa kuona chokhumudwitsa pamaso pa wokondedwa.
4. Pafupifupi tonsefe tikuyang'ana anzathu omwe ali ofanana ndi ife mumzimu ndi zokondweretsa. Zomwezo zimapita kwa wokondedwa. Pamene mayi ndi mwamuna amakhala ndi zofuna zambiri, ndibwino. Pezani zomwe munthuyo amachita mu moyo, momwe amachitira nthawi yake yaulere, mwinamwake chizoloŵezi chake chidzakondweretsa inu. Mukhoza kukhala ndi phunziro latsopano, zosangalatsa kwa onse awiri, zomwe zingakugwiritseni ntchito mwambo wambiri.
5. Kusamala ndi mdani wa mtima wabwino. Kupitilira kuyenda pa chidendene cha mwamuna wake mu nthawi yochepa kumayamba kumukwiyitsa kwambiri. Ngakhale mutakhala wokonda kwambiri chilakolako chanu, mumusiye chidutswa cha ufulu ndi malo ake enieni ndikukhulupirirani ine, adzayamikira.
6. Musaope ngati mutayamba kukangana nthawi zina ndi wokondedwa wanu. Kusiyana kwakukulu ndi mbali yofunikira pa moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Zitha kunenedwa kuti maubwenzi opanda mikangano ndi osangalatsa kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti musamangokhalira kukangana, pewani kunyozedwa ndi mawu ochititsa manyazi, ndipo yesetsani kuthetsa mkangano ndi mtendere ndikumbutseni munthu wanu kuti mukumukonda kwambiri komanso mumamulemekeza.
7. Ngakhale pamene muzindikira kuti mumapambana mtima wa mnyamata, musamasuke. Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino nthawi zonse, muyenera kuyesetsa kukhala ndi chidwi ndi iye mwini, yesetsani kusunga chikondi chake, kumenyana ndi chizoloŵezi ndi maganizo atsopano, kusonyeza makhalidwe abwino omwe sakuwakayikirapo.
8. Musamupangitse munthu nsanje pa inu. Kuwongolera ndi ena, simungapindule nokha. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, inu mudzaonedwa kuti ndinu mkazi wachifundo amene alibe makhalidwe apamwamba. Kuwonjezera apo, munthu wachifundo kwambiri wokwiya kwambiri angagwiritsenso ntchito mphamvu za thupi, choncho ndibwino kupeŵa mavuto ngati amenewa.

Kodi mwamunayu ndi woyenera kuyesetsa kwanu?

Tinazindikira momwe mkazi ayenera kukhalira bwino ndi mwamuna, koma tifunikira kuganizira mfundo ina: kodi woimira amuna kapena akazi amafunika kuyesetsa? Malingana ndi kafukufuku pakati pa amayi, mndandanda wa makhalidwe aumunthu unayambitsidwa, powona kuti wokondedwa wake ayenera kuganizira bwino za ubwino wopitiliza kukhala naye limodzi:

1. Despotism imakhala ndi udindo waukulu pakati pa makhalidwe oipa kwambiri a umunthu. Akazi 77 mwa amayi omwe adafunsidwa adayankhula motsutsana ndi khalidweli.
2. Kusuta mowa kunapatsidwa ndalama zasiliva. 59% mwa anthu omwe anafunsidwa sankafuna kuwona ngati bwenzi labwino ndi munthu yemwe amamwa mowa nthawi zonse.
3. Kulimbana ndi umbombo 38% ya oimira zachiwerewere analankhula.
4. Zina mwazovuta, kuwonongeka, kuwonongeka, khalidwe lofooka ndi zonyansa zinaitanidwa.