Mu maloto athu timaganiza kuti moyo wa banja ndi chinthu chapadera, tikuyembekeza kuti izi zidzakhala kusintha kwenikweni, pambuyo pake, padzakhala nthawi ya chisangalalo chonse ndi chimwemwe. Kuiwala kuti m'moyo pali mavuto, omwe tidzakumana nawo posachedwa.
Koma moyo weniweniwo ndi wovuta kwambiri, ndipo uli ndi mikwingwirima yoyera ndi yakuda. Izi zikuwonekera makamaka m'chaka choyamba cha moyo wa banja lachinyamata, pamene banja lawo likuyamba kukhazikitsa malamulo awo.
Anthu omwe anakulira mosiyana ndi kulera, njira za banja, omwe adawona khalidwe losiyana la makolo awo, ndipo nthawi zina amakhala m'mabanja osiyanasiyana - poyamba zimakhala zovuta kusankha njira imodzi yomwe apitirize kumanga banja lawo. Pali zifukwa zingapo za momwe mungakhazikitsire moyo wa banja laling'ono, lomwe liyenera, ngati silikuchita ndemanga, ndiye lingaganizirepo.
Makolo.
Makolo ndi apamtima komanso okondedwa kwa ife omwe amafuna ife zabwino koposa. Koma zimakhalanso kuti kusankha kwathu kwa mzake kwa moyo wathu wonse, sikugwirizana, pansi pa chithunzi chowalacho, chimene adakokera kwa zaka zambiri m'malingaliro awo. Choncho, nthawi yomweyo ndikofunikira kuthetsa funso ili, ndipo fotokozani zomwe mukufuna, ndipo mukukhala. Komanso kawirikawiri, makolo omwe amatha kukhala ndi moyo wapamtima amayesetsa kuti azitha kukwatirana ndi malangizo a momwe angakhalire moyo, kuthandizana komanso kuyang'anira ndalama. Inde, pakati pa zonsezi pali phindu, koma monga momwe amasonyezera, amayi onse amayamba "kukoka bulange" pa mwana wake. Kotero, "palibe ntchito ya munthu", "mkazi wopanda mkazi" ndi zina zambiri.
Choncho, ngati n'zotheka mwamsanga ukwati utangoyamba kukhala wosiyana ndi makolo - chitani. Yesetsani kuti musapirire mikangano yanu ndi mavuto popanda chidziwitso cha chidziwitso cha makolo, kuthetsa iwo okha pakati pawo.
Ngati mukuyenera kukhala limodzi ndi makolo anu - musalole mikangano kusiyana ndi chipinda chanu, chilichonse chimachitika, musamaphule makolo anu, kuwachitira ulemu. Ngati mutalandira uphungu wochokera tsiku loyamba - funsani kuti ndikupatseni mwayi wochita nokha. Ngati pempholi lisanawathandizire, limakhalabe kumvetsera, kumvetsera kapena ayi - izi ziri mwanzeru yanu.
Bytovuha.
Pali lingaliro lomwe mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku m'banja lachinyamata, nthawi zambiri amachititsa kugwa kwa malingaliro. Mu ichi pali choonadi china. Koma kugonjetsedwa kumalekereredwa ndi okha omwe sakudziwa momwe angapiririre mavutowa, kapena m'malo mwake sakufuna. Ntchito zapakhomo zinali, zilipo ndipo zidzakhala, ndipo sizipita kulikonse. Pano pano kuchokera momwe mumagawira iwo, zimadalira moyo wonse wotsatira. Pogawira ntchito m'nyumba, zonsezi ziyenera kukhala zogwirizana. Kusintha moyo wa banja lachichepere kungathandize anthu omwe angokwatirana kumene. Musayang'anenso m'mbuyomo ndi kugawana maudindo onse kwa abambo ndi amai. Komanso, lero, monga mwamuna, amalandira ndalama, ndikuphika, kuyeretsa ndi kusamba, chifukwa cha zamakono zamakono, safuna khama kwambiri. Kuyambira tsiku loyamba, avomerezani kuchita zonse pamodzi, ndikutsatira mgwirizano uwu. Pamene aliyense wa inu akudutsa msilikali wachinyamata kumudzi, mudzatha kuyamikira zoyesayesa, zomwe zidzathetsa mikangano yambiri.
Musati mukhale okwiya ndipo musapange zojambula, ngati, chinachake chachitidwa molakwika. Zonsezi ndizochitika pamoyo wanu, ndipo pakapita nthawi ntchito zonse zidzakwaniritsidwa ndithu.
Zamalonda.
"Chikondi chimabwera ndikupita, koma nthawi zonse mumafuna kudya" - aliyense wa ife, ngati sakunena, amamva mawuwa. Ndipo akuyandikira mwachidule kufotokozera moyo wathu kuposa kale lonse. Ndipo pokhala ndi moyo wachimwemwe, komanso wofunikira kwambiri wamtendere, banja lachinyamata limafuna zinthu zakuthupi. Kuyembekeza kuthandizidwa ndi makolo sikuli koyenera, pambuyo pake mutasankha kuyamba moyo wodziimira. Koma kawirikawiri kumayambiriro kwa ndalama zambiri sizichitika. Ndipo ndi bwino kukonzekera m'malingaliro.
Ngakhalenso ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi onse akugwira ntchito, njira yopezeka yowonongeka komanso osakhoza kugawana bwino ndalama zimadzimva ngati miyezi yoyamba. Choncho amakangana, amakwiya, ndipo nthawi zina amakhumudwa. Mabanja ambiri sangathe kupirira ndipo amazisiya chifukwa cha mavuto azachuma, makamaka ngati sakuwonetseratu.
Pofuna kupeĊµa zochitika zoterezi, yesani kugawa bajeti yanu ya banja kukhala ndalama zofunika, zina zowonjezera ndi ndalama zaulere. Ndipo kumbukirani, kuyambira tsopano lingaliro la "lanu" ndi "langa" likukhala "wathu", ndipo bajeti ya banja iyenera kugawidwa. Pazochitika zotero simungakhale ndi mikangano yokhudza izi, ndipo zidzakhala zosavuta kusintha moyo wa banja lachinyamata.
Inde, banja lirilonse limakhala ndi malamulo ake, akazi ena safuna kugwira ntchito ndi kulandira ndalama zina kuchokera kwa mwamuna wawo sabata iliyonse pa chakudya ndi zinthu zofunikira, kapena, mwamuna yemwe amapereka zonse zomwe amapeza kwa mkazi wake pa "zowonjezera" zoterozo. Koma dzifunseni nokha, kodi mukufuna kubisa stash, kapena kuibisa kwa inu? Inde, ziri kwa inu.
Musaiwale zakumverera.
Ngakhale mavuto onse, musaiwale kuti mumavala mphete ngati chizindikiro cha chikondi chanu, osati kugula limodzi ndi kutsuka mbale. Choncho, muyenera kupeza nthawi yosonyeza malingaliro anu. Pitirizani kuyenda mofanana madzulo, pitani kumalo odyera ndi malo odyera, muzipatsana mphatso ndi zodabwitsa, pitirizani kugonana madzulo. Komanso, tsopano simukufunika kuthamangira kupita kumalo otsiriza, ndipo perekani kwa makolo anu. Gwiritsani ntchito mwayi wonse womwe banja limakupatsani. Musaiwale kuvomerezana wina ndi mzake m'chikondi, muyitane mayina achikondi, kusonyeza chisamaliro ndi kukoma mtima, ndiyeno mavuto onse adzapita kumbuyo. Kumbukirani chikondi chanu, makamaka pamene mkangano uli pafupi, ndipo kumbukirani kuti pambuyo pa kukangana kulikonse kudzakhalanso kukondweretsa.
Pambuyo pake, mwinamwake posakhalitsa nthawi yanu yonse yaulere mudzachotsa khama lomwe likugwirizana ndi kubadwa kwa zinyenyeswazi.