Pofuna kugwirizanitsa ndi zomwe amai amaimira kapena momwe mungadzitamandire, muyenera choyamba kudziwa zonse zakuya kwanu, zomwe tikufuna kukuthandizani. Timapereka magawo angapo omwe angakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa zomwe muli, ndi ndani amene angadzitamandire.
Mau oyamba: kudzifufuza nokha ndi kudzifotokozera nokha.
Malinga ndi akatswiri a maganizo a ku Harvard, malingaliro awiriwa ali ofanana ndi matanthauzo ake, amasiyana kwambiri pakati pawo. Chizoloŵezi chofuna kuchita chidwi chofuna kudzitamandira, makamaka, chimabweretsa zotsatira zosiyana. Timadzivulaza tokha chifukwa chogonjetsedwa ndi kupambana kwathunthu, ndipo zotsatira zathu zonse zingakhale zochepa. Kulemekeza - kuthekera kwa munthu kutenga chimodzimodzi, zonse zoipa ndi zabwino - sikudalira pazopambana ndi zolephereka. Mkazi amene ali ndi kudzikuza kudzikonda amadzikonda yekha yemwe ali. Chiyeso chabwino kwambiri cha kudzidalira ndikuwona momwe mungayankhire pofuna kutamanda. Iwe umamverera wokondwa, ndiye iwe umadzikayikira wekha. Tangoganizani kuti munthu yemwe amalemekezedwa kwambiri ndi inu amayamika chidziwitso chanu chabwino pa tebulo lochulukitsa. Sitikukayikira kuti mudzasangalala. Ndipo malo omwe muli pamtunda ndi osayamika, zochepa pozitsutsa ndi zovuta kukupwetekani. Mwa njira, chochititsa chidwi ndi chakuti anthu omwe amadzidalira kwambiri, mosiyana ndi eni eni odzidalira kwambiri, sakhala ndi mtima wodzimva kuti ndi olakwa, okhumudwa komanso olemedwa.
Ngati mukufuna kulemekeza nokha ndikumvetsetsa "I", kumvetsera zokhumba zanu, ndondomeko zisanu ndi ziwiri zotsatirazi zothandizira mudzakuthandizira kuchita izi.
Gawo limodzi: kukonzekera.
Kumaliza chiganizochi: "Ngati ndikanakhala ndi chidwi, ndiye ...". Mwamtheradi kuganiza, mwangwiro, muyenera kulemba mawu asanu ndi limodzi (osachepera). Ntchitoyi ndiyothandiza kuchita kawiri pa tsiku kwa masiku atatu. Ndiye muyenera kuwerenga mndandanda wa zotsatirazi. Chifukwa cha ichi, mudzatha kudziyang'ana nokha mosiyana ndi momwe mukukhalira, monga lamulo, osadziŵika m'moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku. Mfundo ndi izi: madzulo, ndikuyang'ana pa malo ena, mumadzikakamiza kupita ku cholinga tsiku lonse.
Gawo lachiwiri: kuchotsa maubwenzi oipa.
Pano mungathe kufunsa: "Ndikulankhulana kotani nanga?". Ndipo ndizochita ndi wotsutsa wanu wamkati, yemwe nthawi zonse amalumbirira pamene mukuchita chinachake cholakwika mmaganizo ake. Ndipo kwa iwo omwe amakuuzani pamaso pa galasi: "Sindinkafuna kudya kadzutsa, komanso kudya mkate ...". Kodi mukuganiza kuti liwu lanu lamkati mumadzilemba nokha? Ayi ndithu. Pambuyo pake, akutembenukira kwa iwe kuti "iwe": "O, ng'ombe yonenepa" kapena "cholengedwa chaulesi," ndipo ngakhale iwe mwini nthawi zina umati: "Ndiwe mtsikana wanzeru lero!". Si zoona, ngati kuti simungadzilemekeze mpaka mutaphunzira chinenero cha Chijapani, simungathe kulemera, simungagule chovala kuchokera ku "Dior" nokha. Kodi mumakonda chibwenzi chanu chifukwa chakuti amalankhula Chiitaliya chabwino? Ayi ndithu. Chabwino, ngati bwana wanu akuwonetsani zosungitsa zanu, mutakhala nawo limodzi. Kotero ndi "woweruza wamkati" muyenera kuchita chimodzimodzi. Simukuyenera kuyankha ndemanga zake, ndipo amvetse kuti mulibe kanthu kochita naye.
Gawo lachitatu: kudzidziwitsa nokha.
Nthawi zonse kuti mukondweretse wina, yesetsani kugogomeza makhalidwe anu abwino. Koma n'chifukwa chiyani mumadzibisa nokha komanso osadzikuza? Pofuna kukweza umunthu wanu wamkati, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungabweretsere zest kumoyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo, mukamakangana ndi abwenzi anu, simufunika kuwopa kuteteza mfundo yomwe palibe yemwe akuthandizira kupatulapo inu. Kapena, mutatha kuwerenga nkhani yomwe mumakonda m'magaziniyi, musachedwe kutembenuza tsamba, koma dzifunseni zomwe mukuganiza za izo.
Gawo lachinayi: kufotokoza kwa malingaliro kudzera m'mawu.
Kulemba mapepala anu ndi chinthu chofunikira. Tenga vuto lolemba kalata yachikondi. Fotokozani chomwe chimakupangitsani inu kukongola ndi kokongola. Mudzapeza nthawi zoposa khumi ndi ziwiri. Mwa njira, za zofooka zazing'ono zomwe zimakupangitsani inu mosiyana ndi ena, muyenera kutchulaponso. Ingolemba zomwe iwe uli, osati za zomwe ukuchita. Chifukwa cha ntchitoyi, ndizomveka kumvetsa chimene mkazi ali woyenera, kapena mmalo mwake, ndikumasintha zolakwa zanu kukhala zopindulitsa.
Khwerero 5: Perekani mphatso.
Kuti monga mphatso zopanda kudzoza kwa iyemwini zingachititse kudzidalira kwa mkazi. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mphatso izi zisakhale chitonthozo, koma zokondweretsa basi. Yambani tsiku lirilonse ndi lingaliro la chisangalalo chosangalatsa, chomwe mukufuna kuti muchite lero ndi momwe mungasangalatse nokha.
Gawo lachisanu ndi chimodzi: ndimasangalala.
Thupi lanu limalakalaka kukondedwa - khungu labwino kapena tsitsi labwino. Koma masentimita owonjezera ndi kilogalamu pano sagwira ntchito iliyonse - ndi mfundo. Dzivomerezeni nokha ndi thupi lanu, mukamachita zomwe mumakonda: mvetserani nyimbo yomwe mumaikonda, mumavina. Chitani izi mwanzeru, mvetserani nyimbo ndi mtima wanu. Kumbukirani kuti monga momwe mukugonana, mumayamba kuyesa kuzindikira thupi lanu, ndiyeno mumagwirizanitsa wina ndi mnzake. Ndi njira iyi yokha, podziwa nokha ndi kuvomereza zofunikira zanu momwemo, mutsimikiza kuti mumadzilemekeza nokha ndikuyamba kudzilemekeza nokha.
Gawo lachisanu ndi chiwiri: inu nokha.
Khalani moyo, dzikondeni nokha kwambiri komanso kwa nthawi yaitali, ndipo muzisangalala nazo! Ndikhulupirire, ndiwe wofunika kwambiri, choncho gwiritsani ntchito nthawi zonse. Kungokhalira kufufuza bwino makhalidwe anu ndi mphamvu zanu! Bwino!