"Chifukwa chiyani iwe wakwatira?" Simungakhale ndi banja! Inu mwamtheradi simungakhoze kuphika! Simungathe kusunga nyumbayo mwadongosolo! Inu simukusiyana ndi kugonana! Iwe nthawizonse umakhutitsidwa ndi chinachake! Iwe siwe banja, iwe umangofuna zosangalatsa! Inu simukudziwa momwe mungachitire ana, inu simungakhoze kukhala mayi! Nthawizonse mumakhala ndi mutu! "- mawu ngati amenewa, mwinamwake, aliyense wa inu anamva madzulo a chisudzulo.
Zimatipweteka pamtima ndipo musati muwonjezere chidaliro ndi chiyembekezo. Timatembenuka ndikuyesa kukhala yekha . Koma chisangalalo cha ufulu chimapita mofulumira kwambiri. Ndipo ife timayamba kumverera kuti tisamasuka.
Mkazi sayenera kukhala yekha. Iye akutsutsana. Ndikofunika kuti iye asamalire munthu wina.
Kukhala ndi banja ndi chilakolako chovomerezeka, cha munthu aliyense, chifukwa ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu. Zimatsutsana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi zizindikiro zotsatirazi:
• Kumaliza kukana anthu oyandikana nawo, makamaka abambo;
• kupatsirana kosalekeza kuntchito ya m'banja;
• kulephera kukana;
• Kusakayikira anthu kuti azilimbana ndi zofooka, zizoloŵezi ndi zozizwitsa za anthu ena;
• Kuwongolera machitidwe a khalidwe losagwirizana ndi anthu, kudalira mankhwala osokoneza bongo, uchidakwa;
• Kusakhala ndi chikhumbo chokhala ndi banja.
Mwamwayi, zopambanitsa zoterozo sizodziwika. Ngakhale zina mwa izo sizikusokoneza ndi kupanga chinthu chofanana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, otchedwa anthu "ukwati" ... mwazinthu zonse za mawu awa.
Tonsefe timafunikira anthu oyandikana ndi malo omwe tingabwere ndi chimwemwe ndi mavuto athu ndi kumveka. Ndipo palibe pomwe simungathe kufika.
Ndipo pamene sitingathe kukhazikitsa banja losangalala kuyambira nthawi yoyamba, sitidayika chiyembekezo chozindikira chilakolako ichi mu chikwati chachiwiri ndi chachitatu. Ndipo kulondola! Pokhapokha ndisanachite izi, ndikuganiza, nkofunikira kumvetsetsa bwino chifukwa chake kuyesa koyamba kunalephera, komanso kuti musabwereze zolakwa.
Banja lachiwiri ndi lachitatu nthawi zambiri limamangidwa m'chifanizo ndi momwemo. Kungokhala ndi kusintha pang'ono. Ndipo watsopanoyo ali wofanana ndi wakale ngakhale kunja. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika? "Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikugwa ndi ndodo yomweyo yokawedza ndikumenyana ndi msuzi womwewo," mukuganiza. Tiyeni tiyesere kulingalira izi.
• mumakopeka ndi mtundu womwewo, zimachitika mazenera (nthawi zamtsogolo satana amawoneka ngati bambo);
• simunaphunzirepo kuchokera ku zolakwa za banja lapitalo, ndipo moyo umakupatsani mwayi wina, zomwe mumadziwa nokha ndi maubwenzi ndi anthu;
• Maganizo anu amachitidwa ndi zisonkhezero, zomwe mungathe kunena mwachangu chifukwa cha khama lamphamvu;
• Izi zimachitikanso ngati simunatsimikizidwe kuti mukufunadi moyo wanu, chomwe mukufuna ndi ukwati wanu.
• Simunasinthe nkomwe, malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, zoyembekeza zanu, zochita zanu, zizolowezi zanu ... Kotero mukufuna chiyani kwa ena. Kunja kuli kofanana ndi mkati. Sintha - ndipo dziko lozungulira lidzasintha.
Nthawi zina zimanyoza ndi zachilendo kukumana ndi mnzanu watsopano ndi makhalidwe omwe anali okhumudwitsa kwambiri. Zotsutsana kotero zimabadwa, monga "anthu onse ali awo" malingana ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita.
Ngati mutapatsidwa mpata wopitilira mawu, kodi mungalembe chiyani pa webusaiti yake "yake ..."? Masewerawo mu gulu, monga mu ofesi ya psychoanalyst. Chimene chinabwera m'maganizo mwanu ndizoona mtima wanu pa vutoli. Apa ndifunika kufufuza.
Kodi mumadziwa za zochitika zokhudzana ndi maganizo - zolephera zomwe sitimakonda kwambiri mwa anthu ena ndi zomwe timakonda nthawi zambiri ndi ena, makamaka zilipo mwa ife? Zomwezo ndi zobisika mkati mwa chikumbumtima.
Mwa njira zonse timayesera kubisala kwa ena. Koma molingana ndi lamulo lachinyengo, chimene mukufuna kwambiri kuzibisa chiri chowonekera. Simunazindikirepo? Ganizirani za izo panthawi yosangalatsa. Onetsetsani kuti mupeze nokha mzere umene mumadana nawo bwana wanu.
Anthu omwe amakamba za mphamvu zamagetsi kapena zowonongeka za avarice, iwowo amatha kukhala amphamvu kapena kuwopsa. Nazi choncho!
Yesetsani mwachidwi, kutaya zodandaula ndi malingaliro anu a kusakhulupirika kwanu, kuganizira zomwe zimayambitsa mavuto anu akale. Osangokhala pambali ya munthu wonyengedwa, koma kuchokera ku malo a munthu amene amadziyang'anitsitsa yekha ndi moyo wake. Kumvetsetsa zifukwa ndi maphunziro.
Pamene zonsezi, kuyang'ana moona mtima pa zenizeni, mwadzidzidzi kuzindikira - anthu amatha kuchoka ku moyo omwe amavutika ndi zochita zomwe zimazunza ndikukupangitsani kukhala ophwanya. Kwa ichi, wina sasowa kuchita chilichonse, makamaka kuzindikira ndi kuvomereza izi mwa iwekha, mwamtendere ndi mwanzeru.
Kodi ndikugwiritsa ntchito bwanji kudziuza ndekha kuti sindinasinthe aliyense, chifukwa ndine wokondana kwambiri, wokhulupirika komanso wodzipereka. Wodabwitsa! Wokhulupirika, wokhulupirika! Koma kodi akusangalala? Lembani kudzipembedza kwanu mu chithunzi pa khoma ndikuyamikira! Kapena ikani chipilala pakati pa khitchini. Mwadzidzidzi ana oyamikira adzagwada.
Ndipo ndi zofooka kuti iwe udzivomereze nokha ndipo dziko lapansi ndi lopanda ungwiro, kotero kuti pangakhale chiwonongeko, ndi zolakwa, ndi zolakwika?
Pano inu muli okhulupirika ndi odzipatulira, koma "wapamwamba khumi" Amayi anga aang'ono, Masha, sanapereke ngongole. Iwo anadandaula nazo. Ndipo kumbukirani, Loweruka, pamene panalibe munthu, simunathamangire mozungulira nyumbayo ndi choyeretsa monga mwa nthawi zonse, ndipo simunamve ponseponse kuti mudatopa kukhala antchito, koma mumangogonera pamaso pa TV tsiku lonse, ngati munthu waulesi wotsiriza yemwe ali ndi tray -kuda, zomwe mumadana nazo kuti muzitha kuchoka pamakona atakhutira ndi ana anu. Mukukumbukira? Aha! Kotero inu simuli angwiro kwambiri. Ndipo kwa ena, muyembekezere mtundu wina wa zochitika zabwino ndi mawonetseredwe. Pitani pansi pano, wokondedwa! Ndipo muzilandira izo momwe zilili, opanda ungwiro ndi osadziŵika!
Ndipo muiwale za ubale wabwino ndi mabanja a Hollywood mafilimu. Silipo!
Moyo ndi wokongola kwambiri moti suli bwino!
Zingakhale zothandiza kwa inu muukwati watsopano
... ndipo ndithudi zidzakupulumutsani kupsinjika ndi zolakwika monga izi:
• Kupirira . Mtengo wothandiza kwambiri suuperekedwa kwa aliyense. Chifukwa zimafuna khama. Mwachitsanzo, momwe mwaulemu komanso zamaseŵera mukuumirira kuti mwamuna ndi ana anu asankhe masokosi awo pansi? Ndi khama pang'ono, mukhoza kuchita. Koma makhalidwe enaake a satellites sadzasintha. Inde, ndipo ndi ntchito yosayamika kukonza wina. Inu simungakhoze kukhala osasamala za zofooka zathupi, malingaliro a munthu wina, zofooka zake. Chifukwa chiwonongeko cha malo ofooka ndi chowawa kwambiri.
• Kumva kuseka . Yesani kuyang'ana chirichonse ndi kuseka, ngakhale pamene simukuseka. Pali nyimbo yakale, kufotokoza momveka bwino lingaliro ili: "Dzukani ndiyimba, yesani moyo kamodzi kuti musatuluke m'maso. Lolani bwino kupambana kwake, amasankha kwa iwo amene angathe kuyamba kuseka okha. Imbirani tulo, muyimbe mu loto, dzuka ndi kuimba! "Kwakukulu, ndithudi! Anthu omwe amatha kuchita bwino, amatha kukhala okondwa nthawi iliyonse.
• Kusakhala ndi ziyembekezo zosayenera komanso zofunikira kwambiri . Simukuganiza kuti ndinu wovuta kwambiri kwa mnzanuyo. Ndipo pang'onopang'ono kusiyana ndi zomwe mukuyembekezerako mumakhala okhumudwa, kukwiya, kukwiya. Ndani wakuuzani kuti muli ndi ufulu. Munthu wina sanalengedwe kuti akwaniritse zomwe mukuyembekezera komanso zomwe mukufuna. Kufunika kwake kudziko sikudalira malingaliro anu. Kumbukirani izi. Ndipo kuvomereza, monga izo ziri. Kapena musati mutenge izo.
• Kuthazikika . Musakhale maximalist muukwati wachiwiri. Kukhumudwa ndi kunyada, kusakhoza kulekerera, kusalephera ndikukweza konkire, zomwe mungatchule kuti mfundo, ndizopusa chabe. Ndipo n'zotheka kuthetsa mavuto. Kodi sikuli bwino kuphunzira kukhala nthumwi, kupanga chiyanjano, kufika pamagwirizano? Nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kuposa kutsutsana kwachindunji. Mwachidule, khalani ochepetsetsa, owonjezera komanso osintha, ndipo moyo umatha kukuwonetsani kumakoma a konkire, momwe mumamenyera mutu wanu mwachangu.
• Kukoma mtima . Yesetsani kuona mnzanuyo zabwino zokha, mukhale ndi makhalidwe abwino. Kwa mawu okoma amene iye adzakuyamikirani kwambiri, ndipo ngakhale chinachake chakutamanda kwanu sichigwirizana kwenikweni ndi chenicheni, koma chiri chofunika, posachedwapa izo zidzakhala zenizeni. Itanani munthu nkhumba, ndipo posakhalitsa akudandaula. Itanani swan, ndipo idzakhala yabwino. Kuwongolera mopitirira muyeso ndi kukhwima sikumapangitsa kuti pakhale chisangalalo m'nyumba. Koma ndi izi zomwe tonsefe timayesetsa.
Musataye mtima ngati nthawi yachiwiri isagwire ntchito, mukhala ndi nthawi, kufikira ukalamba womwe mungathe kufufuza ndi kuyesa. Ena amatha kukwatira pazaka 75, 80. Icho chikanakhala chokhumba!
Musadzipangire nokha mtanda. Akatswiri ambiri apeza kuti m'banja lachiwiri munthu amakhala woleza mtima komanso wofatsa. Anaphunzira ndi zovuta zomwe akumana nazo, sakufunanso kugonjetsa gawo ndipo samenyera nkhondo. Iye akuyesera kukhala moyo. Mukugwirizana ndi inu nokha ndi mnzanu. Kukhalapo kwa chilakolako choterocho ndi njira yoyamba yopambana paukwati watsopano!
Mwamwayi mumtendere wa banja lachimwemwe!