Moona, aliyense ali ndi lingaliro lake pa izi. Ndipo zifukwa zokwatira (mawu owopsya) ndizokhaokha kwa aliyense wa ife. Ndipo nthawizina iwo sali konse. Zomwezo "zinachitika", kapena "sizinatheke" ... Ndipotu, ndizosangalatsa: chifukwa chiyani tikufuna kapena sitikufuna kukwatira? Mwina, kuvomereza kwa ife tokha, tidzadzipulumutsa tokha ku mavuto ambiri m'tsogolomu? Ndipo osati nokha ...
Ndikufuna Kupeza!
Monga anyamata onse ozolowereka, ndinkafuna kukwatira. Muzaka 16 - pafupifupi ndi kutsekedwa. Mu 19 - ndizopenga komanso mwamsanga. Pa 22 Ndinasangalala kuti sindinadumphe munthu woyamba amene ndinakumana naye ndipo sindinasinthe moyo wanga mwachidule ndinasangalala ndi zomwe ndinali nazo. Pa zaka 25, ndinayambanso kukwatira, tsopano moyo unkafuna kuti nyumba ikhale yotonthoza, chitonthozo cha pakhomo ndi kukhazikika. Ndipo pa 27, ine mwadzidzidzi ndinazindikira - ndimasangalalo kukhala moyo monga mukufunira nokha! Chitani zomwe mukufuna, bwerani kunyumba pamene mukufuna, osasamba mbale, kuphika chakudya, musayankhe maitanidwe, kuvala zofiira zam'nsalu zosaoneka popanda zovala, kuyika zojambula pa gawo lirilonse la thupi lanu ndikugona ndi aliyense amene mukufuna, pamapeto pake! Osati moyo, koma nthano! Nthaŵi zina zimangopeka ngati chinachake. Monga mtundu wina wa kaduka kwa ena. Mwinamwake, pambuyo pa zonse, iyi ndilo loto langa losadziwika la sitampu mu pasipoti limadzimva lokha?
1. NDIKHANJA BANJA. Inde, ndikufuna banja, ana komanso, pambuyo pa zonse, mwamuna. Ndikufuna kuti wina andikonde, ndichitire nsanje, ndisamalire, ndikudandaula kuti ndimabvala matumba olemera ndikupumula pang'ono, anandipatsa maluwa ndikuyeretsa nsapato zanga. Ndikufuna "kukhala wina" - mkazi, mayi, komanso, apongozi ake kapena apongozi ake. Ngakhale ndili ndi wokonda, ndikufuna kukhumudwitsa mwamuna wanga, osati kwanga kwamuyaya kufunafuna chinachake "Ine". Ndikufuna kukhala pansi pa chitetezo cha wina, mumsanja wina, kumbuyo kwa khoma la miyala. Mwina ndine chinthu? Ndipo mukufunafuna wogula? Chabwino, zikhale choncho.
2. NDIMAKHALA MALAMULO. Ngati kwa munthu ndi nyumba yopanda kanthu pa madzulo a phwando, ndiye kwa ine mawu akuti - "Kodi muli ndi aliyense tsopano?" Munthu wosungulumwa ndi munthu wotayika. Nthawi zonse ayenera kutsimikizira kwa ena kuti "si ngamila." Mukuona, sizinapangidwe ndi ife ndipo sikuti ife tisinthe kayendetsedwe ka chirengedwe. Ngati anthu akufuna kupatulidwa kukhala awiriawiri, ngati zinalembedwera kwa mtundu wake kuti zidzipangire mtundu wake, ndiye musayambe china chatsopano. Ili ndi lamulo la chirengedwe. Inu mukhoza kutcha icho chidziwitso cha kudzipulumutsa. Mwa njira, kukhala pamodzi ndiphweka mosavuta komanso kosangalatsa kwambiri. Ngati chonchi chogwirizana. Ndipo ngati mwamuna wanu sangakhale wokondedwa wokha, komanso bwenzi lenileni, ndiye kuti muli ndi mwayi!
3. GIRL ONSE AMADZIWA MALE. Ndikumva kuti ndikugonjetsedwa ndi anthu opusa, koma ndikugwirizana. Zikuoneka kuti tinakulira monga chonchi. Poyamba ndi banja. Ntchito, chinthu chokondeka, zofuna zaumwini - zonsezo "za mtsogolo." "Ndiwe mtsikana!". Kuyika mu ubwana onse anali ndi chinthu chimodzi - kukhala ndi kuyembekezera kalonga. Monga ngati mulibe ena. Mwa njira, ndipo kodi chilimbikitso chotani kuti kalonga akukufunani, osati mfumukazi? Ayi, palibe chifukwa choti mulepheretse ulemu wanu. Inde, ndine wokoma mtima, wokoma mtima, wokongola ... Koma sindiyenera kuiwala za zolakwika mwina. Chifukwa ndizochitika pamene munganene kuti "chikondi" osati "chinachake", koma "chosiyana" ndi chinachake ... Mwatsoka. Mgwirizano wa "Prince-princess" ndi wosavuta komanso wofooka kwambiri moti sikuti nthawi zonse amakopeka ndi chisankho cha ukwati. Mwina ndi bwino kuyang'ana pozungulira?
4. "MOM, MUSATHA!". Amayi, ndithudi, m'choonadi, moona mtima, ndikulumbira - Ndine wokwatira! Tsopano simukusowa kudandaula za "tsogolo langa". Mwamunayo watsiriza kuwonekera ndi ine. Ndipo zindikirani - mwamuna wanga, mwamuna wanga. Ndipo ziribe kanthu kuti tidzakhala m'chipinda chake chimodzi kunja kwake, chifukwa chidutswa changa cha kopeck chimakana kulowa. Ndipo ife tidzakwera pa "asanu" ake, ndipo galimoto yanga idzaikidwa m'galimoto, chifukwa "tsopano ndivuta kuti tigwire magalimoto awiri kwa ife. Koma chofunika koposa, Amayi, ndine wokondwa kuti ndinu wokondwa. Ndipo tsopano, pokambirana ndi anzako kapena anzanu kuntchito, mukhoza "kuziyika pamodzi" - "... koma mlamu wanga!", Ndipo yang'anani moyenera. Ndikuyembekeza, tsopano ndasiya kukhala cholengedwa choyipa, popanda chomwe chiri m'banja mwa njira iliyonse! Ngakhale kuti poyamba zinanenedwa zosavuta - "mayi wokhala ndi ngolo, mare ndi yosavuta."
SINDIFUNA KUKHALA!
Nchifukwa chiyani amuna akukwatirana? Ine sindikudziwa. Akazi, ambiri, amakwatirana chifukwa cha chisankho cha, nyumba yoyamba, komanso mavuto a zachuma. Ndipo pamene zonse ziganiziridwa, ndiye ndiuzeni-kodi ndi mfundo yanji? Palinso gulu lina - "oyendetsa ndege". Chabwino, iwo omwe ali "pa ntchentche." Ndemanga yopusa, mwa njira. Ngakhale kwa iwo amene akufuna kuphatikiza - njira ndi yolandiridwa. Kudalirika (chifukwa chakuti mukukwatirana) - 70 peresenti. Ngakhale kuti ndili m'malo mwa munthu wotere, sindikanakwatirana. Pankhaniyi, pali tsankho la ufulu wa theka lachilendo - chifukwa chiani chimangokhala chowopsya chifukwa chosafuna kukhala ndi mwana ndi kuyamba banja? Nthano ya mdima umene ukuyenera kunyamulidwa iyenera kuuzidwa poyamba kwa atsikana. Kuti apange chisankho chogona, adapanga kupanga zosankha zawo zokha. Sindikufuna kukwatira! Chifukwa, ngati chokongola kapena chokongola, koma ndi cholemetsa. Ndipo ndilibe chidaliro choti ndingachikoka. Ine ndiri chomwe ine ndiri. Ndipo ndizovuta kuti ndisinthe ndekha. Sindimakonda kuphika, ndine waulesi kwambiri kuti ndisunge zinthu, ndipo ndimadana ndi kuyeretsa chipinda chogona. Sindinapite nthawi yoti ndigwire ntchito, choncho ndikatseka chitseko, nditatha kukhala m'nyumba - ngati kuti Mamai adadutsa! Ndikuyeretsa madzulo. Ndipo ndidzachotsa zinyalala madzulo. Ndipo ngakhale, sindiwona chifukwa choti ndikhale ndi wina m'nyumba yanga.
1. "KUKHALA KUKHALA KUTI MOSE". Polimbana ndi zoterezi, ndikupepesa, simudzapondaponda. Aliyense akaima pamzere wa "chinachake", pazifukwa zina, ndipo muyenera kukhala mmenemo (mzere) kuti mudzuke. N'chifukwa chiyani "kukwatira"? Chifukwa aliyense ali kunja? Ndipo sindikufuna kukhala ngati chirichonse. Ndikudziwa kuti kukhala osakwatiwa ndikutengeka pamaso pa ena. Mzimayi womasuka amachititsa mantha. Makamaka - mkazi yemwe angathe kukhala wopanda thandizo, kupanga ntchito, kuthandiza achibale. Kukhumba "kukhala monga wina aliyense" sikuli chifukwa chokana kukwatira. Sikoyenera kupanga mgwirizano, mukhoza "kuyesa" boma ...
2. UFULU. Zokongola ngati zikuwoneka, ndimayamikira kwambiri. Osati m'lingaliro la moyo wotsutsa kapena ubale, koma kusunga moyo monga kale. Mu ukwati sitingathe kugwira ntchito. Zizoloŵezi, zokonda, abwenzi, ntchito, pambuyo pa zonse! Zonsezi zimawopa kutaya amuna okha. N'zosamveka kuteteza ufulu wotsatira maulendo a Mendelssohn. Kapena kuti kusinthanitsa ufulu ku khitchini - ndi ndani amene amasamba mbale? Koma sindikufunanso kukhala mtumiki wogonjera kunyumba. Mzere wochepa wokaikira. Kuopa "kudzipatula nokha". Ndipo kodi chidaliro chotani chomwe ndili pano ndi CHOONA?
H. STRAX. Ndikuwopa kuwononga ubalewu. Ukwati walamulo umatsitsimutsa - "Tsopano ndife okwatira, kodi mungachoke kuti ine?". Momwemo, palibe. Ndikhoza kungosiya chikondi, ndikutha kuzizira, sindingakukondeni, ndimasokonezeka! Ine tsopano ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la "moyo wathu wa banja"! Monga, ndithudi, inu. Ndikuwopa kutaya chikondi. Bwanji mukupita ku mafilimu? Tili ndi DVD yomweyi. Ndi malo ati odyera? Kodi sitingadye chakudya cham'nyumba? Ndiwe wopenga! Kodi nsapato izi ndi zingati? Mwachidziwikire, mndandanda umenewu uyenera kutha ndi mawu - "Tiyenera kugawa njira ...". Chizolowezi chodziwika, chizolowezi chodziwika bwino. Ndizopusa zokha kupitilira mu dziwe ndi mutu.
4. CHIFUKWA CHIYANI, CHOSATHE KUCHITIDWE ... Ngati sitinalembedwe, ndiye kuti sitingathe kusudzulana? Sitingathe kusiya wina ndi mzake, chifukwa kuti "osasankhidwa"? Nthano yeniyeni ya chikondi chosatha. Ziribe kanthu zomwe ndikufuna, zomwe ndimayesetsa ndi zomwe ndikuwopa. Ife timadzikoka tokha mkhalidwe umene ife timadzipeza tokha. Ndipo ngati sindinakwatirane, ndiye chifukwa chake sindikufuna izi. Ndipo ngati sindikuvutika ndi izi, ndipo ngati ndikumva bwino kukhala ndi moyo, kodi ndiyenera kumvetsera maganizo a anthu omwe sagwirizana ndi malingaliro anga? Iitaneni iyo korona wa chilemale, kumbukirani buluu ndipo mumatha kunditcha ine ngati msungwana wachikulire. Umu ndiwomwe mumaonera moyo WANGA. Koma osati changa.