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Kodi mukuganiza kuti mulibe mwayi mu moyo? Ndi "anthu oipa" okha omwe akugwera ndipo mavuto omwe amagwira ntchito amagwera wina ndi mzake? Mu psychology, pali nthawi yapadera kwa anthu omwe nthawizonse amakhala wokonzeka kukhala ozunzidwa ndi anthu ena ndi mkhalidwe - "umunthu wa wozunzidwa". Makhalidwe aumunthu akugwirizana ndi kuti samadzimvetsa okha ndipo sagwirizana ndi lingaliro la "udindo". Kotero, tiyeni tiwone mitundu itatu yowonjezereka ya "ozunzidwa" pafupi.

Ng'ombeyo: "Iye ndiye wodzudzula!"

Olya anandiuza ine ndi vuto lotsatira. Iye anakwatiwa ndi mwamuna yemwe anali wosakhwima kwambiri ndi iye asanakwatirane, ndipo kenako anadzakhala "weniweni waukwati." Anatenga ndalamazo, amayendetsa phazi lililonse, amayang'ana mafoni ndipo sanawalole kuti agwire ntchito - mwachidule, anachita zonse kuti ateteze mkazi wake kwa oyanjana ndi anthu akunja. Olga adadandaula chifukwa cha gawo lake lowawa, misozi misozi idati: "Ngati sikuli kwa iye, moyo wanga ukhala wosangalatsa, wowala, wosangalala".

Komabe, pamsonkhano woyamba, adadziŵa kuti ali ndi phindu lake pambaliyi - ali wotetezedwa, ndipo sakusowa kugwira ntchito payekha. Zinapezeka kuti ankaopa moyo wodziimira yekha ndi zoopseza zake zonse. Ndipo mosadziwa ndikuyang'ana kwenikweni mtundu wa amuna omwe angakhoze kukomana naye kusowa kwake kuti akhale otetezeka ndi osaganizira. Mkazi amasintha udindo wake kwa munthu wina, ndipo amamuimba mlandu.

Kodi mungasinthe motani?

Kuti moyo wa mkazi wa mtundu umenewu ukhale wosintha, m'pofunika kudutsa muzigawo zingapo zofunika kuti mumvetsetse vutoli. Choyamba, munthu ayenera kuzindikira, kuzindikira kuti "wozunzidwa" ali ndi vutoli phindu lake. Pambuyo pozindikira kuti nthawi yonseyi wasintha udindo wake kwa munthu wina, angafune kusintha chirichonse. Kuti mupititse patsogolo kusintha, mungathe kugwiritsa ntchito njira zamaganizo zomwe munthu amadziwonetsera yekha kukhala ndi makhalidwe omwe alibe. Muyenera kudziwonetsera nokha, mukuyesera makhalidwe monga ufulu, udindo, kudzidalira, kudzipereka, kudzidalira.

Nkhani yofunika: ngati mkazi asankha kutenga moyo wake payekha, ndiye kuti chikwati chofuna kutembenuza tsogolo lake kwa mwamuna sichitha kusintha.

Woferedwa: "Ndikuthamangitsidwa ndi thanthwe loipa!"

Ndili ndi Elena nthawi zonse zimachitika, mavuto ali paliponse pozungulira iye. Koma samaphunzira pa zolakwitsa zake, nthawi iliyonse akanena kuti: "Chikhoza kukhala, chomwe sichidzadutsa." Pamene mwamuna wake woyamba anamumenya kwa nthawi yoyamba, nayenso sanakana kapena kuteteza - chifukwa chiyani? Ndilo tsogolo lake. Anabweretsedwa kumsonkhano ndi ine ndi mnzanga, wosakhoza kunyamula kuwona kwa mikwingwirima yake kuchokera kumenyedwa kwina.

Choncho, patsogolo pathu pali nthumwi ya amayi omwe atha kusintha udindo wawo pa moyo wawo osati kwa wokondedwa wawo, koma cholinga chawo. Chikhulupiriro chosadziŵa chimakopa iwo: "Sindine woyenera kukhala osangalala." Ali mwana, makolo a Elena ankakonda kunena mawu akuti: "Koma ndani akukufunirani zambiri?", "Palibe chabwino chomwe chingakuchitikire," "Chirichonse chimene uchita, sichidzapindula kanthu," ndi zina zotero.

Kodi mungasinthe motani?

Ngati munthu sanayesere kumanga tsogolo lake payekha, ndiye kumutsimikizira kuti si "wochimwa" mu yankho pa zonse zomwe zimamuchitikira ndi ntchito yovuta kwambiri. Komabe, mungamuuze zotsatirazi: pamene adzalingalira kuti moyo umayenda mwaokha wokha ndipo palibe chomwe chingasinthidwe mmenemo, mavuto ake satha, koma amangodziunjikira.

Ngati mudzidziwa nokha mukulongosola ndikufuna kuti mupangitse moyo kukhala wopindulitsa, ndiye yesetsani kutengapo lingaliro la mphamvu yonse ya thanthwe ndi lingaliro lakuti mukhoza kusintha zambiri pakupita kwanu. Kubwereza mobwerezabwereza m'maganizo osiyanasiyana akuti "Zimadalira zambiri pa ine," ngakhale ngati simukukhulupirira poyamba, pakapita kanthawi zidzatsimikiziridwa pa kusintha kwabwino pamoyo.

Penyani momwe ntchito yanu imatsogolere ku zomwe mukufuna, ndipo kuchenjeza kumasungidwa ku cones zambirimbiri ndi cuffs. Wachiwiri "kutsogolo" ndiko kukweza kudzidalira ndi kuzindikira kuti ali ndi ufulu wokhala osangalala. Kumbukirani, ntchito yanu iyenera kukhala ntchito ndi chizindikiro chowonjezera. Choncho dziyeseni nokha zolinga zanu, musanyoze luso lanu ndi luso lanu.


Wosangalala: "Ndikufuna kuyenda pambali"

Nthawi iliyonse, kutenga chinthu choopsa - kutenga ngongole yaikulu kubanki kapena kuyenda paulendo wopanda ndalama - Anastasia ankakhulupirira kuti amatenga maudindo ndipo amaika pangozi kumvetsetsa kwathunthu. Koma sizinali chomwecho - mavuto anagwera pa nthawi yosayembekezereka, ndipo nthawi zambiri amadziimba mlandu wa machimo onse ochimwa. Iye amakhulupirira moona mtima kuti iye akuyang'anira zochitikazo, ndipo sakanamvetsa chifukwa chake malingaliro ake agwa.

Zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuti lingaliro loti palibe kanthu likudalira pa inu, lingaliro lakuti zonse zimadalira pa inu ndizovulaza. Chinachake chimadalira nthawi zonse, ndipo izi sizingasamalidwe.

Vuto la Anastasia linalinso chifukwa chakuti adatamanda kukondwera. Kwa iye, uwu unali mwayi wokha woti umve chinachake - sanazindikire kuti ndizochepa bwanji za moyo wamaganizo.

Kuti adventurism ingakankhidwenso ndi mwana wamkati, yemwe anali atatsekeredwa ufulu, yemwe nthawiyonse ankalimbikitsidwa ndi makolo ake. Tsopano inu mukhoza kuzindikira zolinga, zofanana ndi chikhumbo cha ana kuti azikhomerera kusambira mu chisanu ndikukhudza chitsulo. Sindinayambe ndatenthedwa ndili mwana, mkazi woterowo sawona kuopsa kokhala wamkulu.

Kodi mungasinthe motani?

Kwa amayi amtundu uwu ndiwothandiza kupeza moyo mu zinthu zopanda malire monga, monga chakudya chokoma, filimu yochititsa chidwi, kuyankhulana ndi abwenzi, momwe ndingathere, kukondwera ndi zonse zomwe zilipo. Ngati mwapeza mikhalidwe ya "wolimbikira", ndiye nthawi zambiri mumaganizira kuti palibe chilichonse chimene chimayendetsedwa, nthawi zina zinthu zimakhala zolimba kuposa ife. Nthawi iliyonse, podziwa zoopsa, ganizirani za zotsatira zomwe zingatheke chifukwa cha zochita zanu. Munthu wamkulu ndi wosiyana ndi mwanayo, zomwe zingathe kuneneratu masitepe angapo.

Ngati mwadzipeza nokha mwa chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zafotokozedwa pamwambapa ndikufuna kuti moyo wanu ukhale wotetezeka, ndiye kuti muyenera kugwira ntchito. Ntchito yanu tsopano ndiyo kulemba nokha ndondomeko ya zochita zenizeni zodzipangira nokha, zomwe zikuchitika kuchokera kuzinthu zomwe mwakhala mukudziwiratu kale. Ndipo mulole chirichonse chikugwiritseni ntchito!