Kutembenuka kwa vutoli kungathe kuwerengedwa kuchokera kwa zaka 30 zazimayi. Pali njira zingapo zomwe munthu angakhalire pa nthawi yofanana: kaya kuopsezedwa kapena kufotokoza zinthu zina pamoyo wanu. Chinthu chovuta kwambiri muvuto ndi kuganiza kuti kumbuyo kwa zaka zambiri, ndi patsogolo - osapumula, maloto osakwaniritsidwa. Zidzakhala zovuta kupirira izi.
Musati muziimba mlandu. Pankhani ya mkazi yemwe akugwira ntchito yokhayokha pa moyo wake pa kulera ana ake, kawirikawiri amapeza kuti ali ndi zaka 30 mpaka 40 adapeza kuti waphonya zambiri pamoyo wake. Mwanayo akukula, ndipo samawasamalira amayi anga. Mwamuna wina, pamene mkaziyo anali pakhomo, ankayesetsa kuti apititse patsogolo ntchito yake. Ndiye pali zotonza. Woyamba wa iwo amakhala kawirikawiri mu adiresi yawo, chifukwa cha kupusa kophweka, ndipo posakhalitsa - kwa mwamuna, chifukwa cha kudzikonda. Sindikudziwa choti muchite tsopano, kodi mungayesetse chiyani? Izi ndi momwe mavuto a amai amadziwonetsera. Pofuna kuthana ndi mavuto a uzimu, chinthu choyamba chimene muyenera kuiwala ndi chitonzo. Kudumphadumpha kuchokera pamapewa, kutanthauza bizinesi, kapena kusudzulana, kapena kuchotsedwa kuntchito, sikofunikira. Mtsikana wina wazaka zapakati angadziwike kuti ayamba kukonza zonse mosamala asanachite chinachake.
Musamafanizire. Vuto la zaka zapakati, ndi lakazi, lidzakhalanso khalidwe kwa mkazi wamalonda. Pamayi amodzimodzi omwe angakwanitse kupambana pa ntchito zawo, vuto lomwelo ndi lakuthwa. Chifukwa chake chingakhale mwa zotsatirazi: osati chiwerengero chochepa cha moyo, komanso osadziletsa, sanakhale abwino kwa iye. Careerists sangakhoze kulephera, iwo nthawizonse amafunikira chigonjetso. Poyesera kuyerekeza ndi makumi awiri, mayiyo akuyamba kumvetsa zomwe zikufalikira pawatsopano. Kukhumudwa pa moyo, kudzudzulidwa chifukwa chosapereka chuma kumayambiriro sikuli koyenera. Ndipo yerekezerani zithunzi zanu zakale ndi chiwonetsero chomwe chilipo pagalasi, mopusa. Muzidzikondana nokha kuti musathe kulekerera ngakhale pazinthu zovuta kwambiri. Kungokuthokozani chifukwa chothandizira kukongola ndi unyamata wanu, sangathe kuchotsedwa kwa inu.
Sinthani kalembedwe. Kusintha pang'ono pamasewero kungathandize kuchepetsa vutoli. Malangizowo adzakondweretsa amayi ndi amalonda. Mbali yaikulu ya zovala zanu sikutanganidwa ndi suti zosavuta? Yesani kuika jeans yanu. Palibe chosowa, kuwopa kuyesera ngakhale ndi mitundu yowala. Kodi pali mantha a kuyang'ana zopusa? Yesetsani kuyanjana ndi ma stylists abwino. Yesani kutsogolera malingaliro onse bwino. Mu zaka 30-40 musaike mfundo pazofuna. Kusintha kwa kalembedwe kungakhudze, komanso kusintha zovala, ndi makongoletsedwe kapena zodzoladzola. Njirayo ingaphatikizepo kusintha kwa njira ya moyo. Mwinamwake muyenera kupeza zosangalatsa zodzikongoletsera, kapena dzipangire nokha zachilendo.
Chilengedwe. Panali mpata wabwino wosasunthira mawa zomwe nthawizonse ankafuna kuzichita. Mwinamwake, kuti muphunzire zomwe munkafuna poyamba, panalibe mwayi wapadera, kapena ayi. Musaope kubwera ku masukulu ojambula kapena kuvina. Inu mukhoza kungokhala ndi chidwi ndi nyimbo, kulengedwa kwa ndakatulo. Malire a kusinthako salipobe. Khalani wokwiya chifukwa cha msinkhu sikofunikira. Atasankha kunena kuti sikuti ndikutaya mtima, koma ngati chinthu chodziwika, munthu akhoza kukhala wochuluka kwambiri. Mitsempha yachilengedwe mu izi idzakuthandizani. Zochitika tsiku ndi tsiku zosangalatsa kapena zochitika, kapena anthu atsopano, sasiya nthawi ya maganizo oipa.
Odziwa atsopano. Anzanu achikulire ndi odziwa nawo ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa mkazi aliyense, mosakayikira. Oimira amayi akukula mderalo, pomwe onse awiri akuwonekera mwachidwi. Kuzindikira kwachilengedwe ndi kuyesera kupanga anthu atsopano, komanso mabwenzi. Zokambirana zimakulolani kuchoka pamtima. Anzanga atsopano akuwala molimba mtima? Kambiranani nawo za funsolo. Mzanga watsopano akhoza kukhala mlangizi kapena mukhoza kukhala wothandizira nokha. Anthu omwe adziŵa zambiri pamoyo amafuna kufotokozera kwa wina, chifukwa ali ndi msinkhu, kufunikira kufunika kumawopsa.
Chiphunzitso. Mu theka lachikazi la anthu, osati mphamvu yaing'ono yophunzitsira yabisika. N'chifukwa chiyani ndipanda phindu kupulumutsa, kusonkhanitsa, pamene iwe ukhoza kuphulika osati m'badwo wakale ?! Ndipotu, mukhoza kukhazikitsa cholinga chokhala mphunzitsi. Kuzindikira ntchito ya aphunzitsi sikufunika kufulumira. Zinthu zoterezi zingakhale zosiyana. Yesetsani kutsegula maphunziro ena pamsana ndi mavuto a zaka zapakati. Kapena yesetsani mukuphunzitsa kuvina. Kumanga sukulu yaing'ono, kapena kusindikiza mabuku osiyanasiyana mothandizidwa ndi amayi omwe apeza malo omwewo. Mwinamwake ndi kofunikira kuti muzindikire mu ntchito ina. Ngakhale kukhala chiphunzitso si njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli. Mwinamwake, izo zingakhale chimodzi cha zochita pa masitepe.
Chikondi. Akhale ndi maonekedwe okongola, kapena kuti apambane muntchito, ngakhale chiyanjano choipa ndi mwamuna wake, koma amayi amodzi omwewo akhoza kumva kuti palibe chodziŵika bwino. Kuonongeka kotereku kungagwirizane ndi chitsimikizo chopanda phindu. Mwinamwake tiyambe kuchita zinthu zabwino! Yesetsani kuthandizira ana, kapena anthu okalamba, kapena nyama zopanda pakhomo. Chikondi choterocho chingasinthe moyo pazu. Lekani kuzungulira dziko lonse lapansi loyera, muyenera kuyesa kuthandiza mnzako. Ntchito zabwino zingakhale zovuta. Atayamba izi, mkazi amabweretsa zabwino, chimwemwe, ndi chimwemwe, ndiye amakhala moyo wopanda pake.
Chikhulupiriro. Zili kuyembekezera kukhulupirira Mulungu, komanso m'mipamwamba, ndiye kuyesa kuthana ndi mavuto oterowo. Makamaka, njira iyi ili ndi udindo wofunika kwambiri. Popanda chikhulupiriro, chiyembekezo, tsogolo, thandizo lalikulu, zidzakhala zovuta kuyamba moyo wosiyana, kutsogolo kosiyana. Kawirikawiri, zolengedwa zofooka zimafuna kugawana, kufotokozera mavuto omwe alipo, osati ndi anthu pambali. Ndi pamene chikhulupiriro chotero chimathandizira. Pambuyo pa zonse, ndi Mulungu, mukhoza kulankhula momasuka ndikugawana zomwe mwakumana nazo. Chikhulupiriro chingakhoze kutenga malo a kuululidwa. Kuyang'ana pa chikhulupiriro chanu, mukhoza kuona kuti okhulupirira ali ndi njira zina ndi moyo, ndi maubwenzi kwa achibale, ndi iwo okha.
Musataye mtima. Chitani zisankho mmanja mwanu. Onse pa inu akhoza kutuluka.
Mavuto a amayi a zaka zapakati
Mavuto a zovuta zokhudzana ndi zaka zingathe kuchitika kwa mtsikana aliyense. Pambuyo pa kuthetsa mavuto atsopano, kudzipangira nokha kungachitenso. Tiyeni tiwone zina za mavuto akuluakulu omwe amadalira maumulungu: izi ndizovuta kwa achinyamata, ndizovuta kukhwima, komanso kukalamba. Nthawi zambiri mavuto azimayi amayamba pakapita kusintha kwa zaka zambiri.