Komabe, palibe vuto lalikulu mmoyo uno. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pali nthawi zoleredwa ndi ana, pamene zovuta pakati pa ana ndi makolo ndizosapeŵeka. Kotero mtundu uwu wa vuto si wamba chabe, ndi wamba, ukhoza kunenedwa kuti ndilofunikira kwa pafupifupi banja lililonse.
Akatswiri a maganizo osiyanasiyana amapereka zosiyana zosiyana za mavuto a ana. Ngakhale zili choncho, ambiri a iwo amakumana ndi mavuto awa: kukula kwa chaka chimodzi, mavuto a zaka zitatu, mavuto a zaka zisanu, mavuto a sukulu ndi zaka zapakati pazaka zisanu ndi ziwiri (6-7), vuto lachinyamata (zaka 12-15) ndi mavuto a achinyamata 18-22 zaka).
Kuyamba kwa mavuto onse mu chiyanjano pakati pa ana ndi makolo ndipadera pa nthawi, kotero kuti mayina a zaka ndizofunikira. Pali ana omwe akukumana ndi mavuto a zaka zitatu mu 2.5 zaka. Ndipo zikuchitika kuti vuto lachinyamata likufika pafupi ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri.
Ndipotu, mavuto omwe ana amakumana nawo ndi ofunika kwambiri pakukula kwa mwana yemwe amasonyeza kusintha kwake kupita ku gawo latsopano la chitukuko. Zomwe zimachitika pa nthawi imeneyi zimadalira mgwirizano pakati pa ana ndi makolo. Choncho ana ena amapita patsogolo pa zochitika zowonongeka ndi zovuta komanso zovuta, pamene ana ena amalephera kuzindikira. Vuto lachibale silingabwere ngati makolo atangoyamba kulera mwana wawo, kapena osachepera amaphunzitsidwa bwino m'maganizo a ana.
Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chimene makolo ayenera kudziwa za mavuto a ana kuti athetse mikangano ndi zovuta muzoyanjana ndizo zimayambitsa mavuto. Chifukwa chachikulu, monga momwe talemba pamwambapa, ndikutembenukira ku gawo latsopano la chitukuko. Mwanayo wayamba kale kusintha kupita ku siteji yatsopano, koma sadakwanire mokwanira kuti makolo amulandire iye mwatsopano. Choncho, pali mikangano yambiri mu ubale wa mwanayo ndi makolo ake.
Mwachitsanzo, ali ndi zaka zitatu mwanayo akuyamba kumva kuti akufunikira ufulu wodzilamulira. Amafuna kuganiziridwa ndi maganizo ake posankha zovala kapena chakudya, posankha nthawi yoyenda ndi kugula zoseweretsa m'sitolo. Mawu akuti: "Ine ndekha" - amakhala osowa kwambiri m'mawu a mwanayo. Makolo ambiri amawoneka kuti ndi opanda pake zomwe amafunazo akadali mwana wamng'ono, ndipo akutsutsana ndi njira yatsopano ya mwanayo. Chotsatira chake, amalandira amatsenga otha msinkhu, kukana kutuluka, kuvala kapena kudya. Maganizo oterewa monga amatsenga komanso zosangalatsa sizingakhale zofunikira ngakhale mavuto, kotero makolo ayenera kuphunzira momwe angachitire moyenera pa kusintha kwa moyo wa mwana.
Makolo amabwera kumathandiza malangizo ambiri ndi malangizo a akatswiri a maganizo. Tiyerekeze kuti mwana wanu wazaka zitatu akufuna kuvala yekha, koma sakudziwa momwe angachitire. Ambiri amathandiza mndandanda wa zojambula zomwe zimapangidwa mogwirizana ndi mwanayo, komanso momwe chikwama chonse cha kavalidwe chimagwirira ntchito. Chomwe chimayikidwa - zovala zojambulidwa zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi mivi, mwanayo amayang'ana zithunzi izi ndipo zimapangitsa kuti mukhale ovuta kuvala nokha. Chithunzichi chikhoza kupachikidwa panjira kapena m'chipinda chogona ndipo mwanayo amatha kudziyang'ana yekha. Zomwezo zimapita ku chakudya. Ngakhale mwana sakudziwa kudya, koma akufuna kuti azichita yekha, ndi bwino kuti akhale woleza mtima ndi kumuthandiza ndi zitsanzo kapena zitsanzo zake. Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito dzira yophika, kusunga supuni, kuti msuzi usawonongeke, - zonsezi mwanayo ayenera kuphunzitsidwa kuti asawononge nthenda zake.
Njira yabwino yothetsera mavuto amenewa ndi kuleza mtima komanso kuleza mtima. Idzakupatsani mphoto m'tsogolomu. Pambuyo pake, mavuto a zaka zitatu amayamba nthawi yachisamaliro chapadera cha mwanayo kuti apange chitukuko, ntchito, kulingalira komanso cholinga cha moyo. Ngati ziwawazo zikuchotsedwa, ndiye kuti n'zotheka kukula munthu wosafuna, wosayanjanitsika, kungoyankhula - "rag". Ndipo kukonza mu msinkhu wachikulire makhalidwe awa osangalatsa a munthu ndi khalidwe laumunthu adzakhala ovuta kwambiri.
Ngati mukuganiza za chikhalidwe chachikulu cha mavuto pakati pa ana ndi makolo, n'zosavuta kupeza "kusagwirizana" pakati pa chikhumbo ndi mphamvu pa nthawi iliyonse ya vuto la mwana. Achinyamata akufuna kukhala odziimira okha, koma osakwanira mokwanira ndipo amadalira makolo awo azachuma. Izi zimayambitsa mavuto pakati pa makolo. Ana a msinkhu wa kusukulu ndi sukulu ya pulayimale akufuna kale kuŵerenga ndi kulemba, akufuna kusonyeza chidziwitso cha sukulu kunyumba. Komabe, nthawi zambiri sangathe kuchita izi, zomwe zimakwiyitsa amatsenga komanso maganizo. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala woleza mtima ndi "kukokera" mwayi wamwana wa zikhumbo zake zatsopano. Ndiyeno palibe mavuto omwe angakhale oopsa kwa inu!