Choyamba, munaganiza chifukwa chake mukufuna kusiya kulankhula ndi munthu uyu. Ndipo zifukwa, monga mumadzimvera nokha, zingakhale zovuta kwambiri. Tiyeni tiyambe ndi banal: mwangotopa ndi munthu uyu, mumakhumudwa ndi iye komanso kulankhulana kwake, adataya kufunika kwa inu - anayamba kukukhumudwitsani, munakumana ndi mnyamata wina wokondweretsa kwambiri kuposa iyeyo. Mwachidule, zirizonse chifukwa, zizindikireni izo. Podzidzimva nokha, mungathe molimba mtima kutsutsa chifukwa chake simukufuna kuyankhulana ndi munthu uyu. Zisonyezerani zinthu monga momwe munakhalira ndipo munadziwa kuti simukufuna kulankhulana naye, kaya mudzatha kuthetsa chizoloŵezi cholankhulana (chiyanjano) ndi munthu uyu ndipo makamaka izi ndizo zana lanu. Ngati zonsezi sizikugwirizana naye, ndibwino kusintha mofulumira. Sadziwa momwe mungakhalire ngati simukufuna kuyankhulana ndi mnyamata? Muuzeni zinthu zonse moona mtima komanso molondola. Ikani kudziwa kuti simukufuna kupitiriza kulankhula naye. Simukufuna kumuonanso pa mndandanda wa abwenzi anu, kuti mugawane chikondi ndi chiyanjano naye. Ndikhulupirire, ngati munthuyo si wopusa, ndiye kuti akuyenera kumvetsa. Musayesere kumanga munthu mlandu. Musamunene mlandu chifukwa cha kulakwa kwa zomwe zikuchitika. Musayesere kumukakamiza kuti musiye ubale uliwonse ndi iye, makamaka chifukwa cha khalidwe lake - ngakhale liri loona. Kumupangitsa iye kukhala wolakwa, iwe, kumakhudza kwambiri umunthu wake wamkati, kuwulula maso ake ku ungwiro wake (kawirikawiri anyamata akuda nkhawa kwambiri ndi izi). Ndipo inu, mwa ichi, mumupatseni chiyembekezo cholakwika kuti ngati atasintha yekha, amalephera kuchita zoipa, mumayambiranso kulankhula kwanu. Ndiponsotu, chifukwa chake, monga momwe angamvetsere mwa iye yekha komanso mwa umunthu wake. Ndibwino kuti mumusangalatse. Mwa njira, khalani wokonzeka kuwona kuti mnyamatayu samasiya nthawi yomweyo ndikusiya moyo wanu wonse. Amuna onse ndi eni ake mwa chikhalidwe chawo. Ndi chifukwa chake kuti ndizovuta kwa iwo, anyamata, kuti adziyanjanitse ndi lingaliro lakuti akuchotsa ubale wina uliwonse, motero nthawi zonse amachotsa miyoyo yawo. Choncho, musakhale mfulu, mnyamatayo ayesa, akugwedeza pa udzu uliwonse, konzani mkhalidwewo. Ndinaganiza zowotcha milatho - osatembenukira ku khalidwe lake, osasamala, mwamsanga kapena mtsogolo adzayanjanitsa, kuiwala chirichonse ndipo mwinamwake amvetse.
Kukambirana ndi mnyamata kuli bwino, kumuika msonkhano (mwa foni kapena SMS palibe mfundo). Musanayambe kukambirana, ndi bwino kuchita maphunziro oyambirira. Pezani mitu yanu nokha chilichonse chimene mukufuna kumuuza ndi kuganizira mayankho ake, monga momwe mukuganizira, mafunso omwe angathe. Chinthu chachikulu pa zokambirana sizingachedwe ndi kuyimilira kwa nthawi yayitali, panthawi yomwe mnyamatayo akhoza kukuthandizani. Yambani mwachangu kukambirana kwanu ndi zomwe munaganiza kuti mutengepo nthawi yaitali. Ndiyeno muzitsimikizira zoona. Yesani kuumirira kuti zikhale zabwino kwa inu nonse. Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti simudzamukonda, ndiuzeni momwe zilili. Pakati pa mawu, zikomo chifukwa cha nthawi yabwino ya ubale wanu. Yesetsani kuyankhula momasuka monga momwe mungathere, kupeŵa mtima, musamupemphe kanthu. Yambani - lankhulani momveka bwino popanda mawu. Ngati simukufuna kukhumudwitsa - kuyankhula, kuchepetsa, ndipo ngati simusamaliranso - mukhale osanyalanyaza. Ndinaganiza zitsimikiziranso, ndikumbutsanso kuti mu moyo wake padzakhala mtsikana wokongola komanso wokongola kwambiri, choncho musayime pamodzi (kumbukirani). Ponena za mkwiyo pa mbali yake, ndiye kuti izi sitingathe kuzipewa. Choncho musankhe nokha kapena mutakhala pamodzi, kapena kukangana sikungapewe. Sikuti anyamata onse amatha kumvetsa pamene apatsidwa kuchokera ku chipata - kutembenukira.
Pambuyo pa zokambirana zanu, yesani kuthetsa kwathunthu. Musamayang'ane kuti awonane naye, chotsani nambalayo, chotsani anzanu pamalo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, kumvetsetsa kamodzi ndi nokha kuti sikuli m'moyo wanu. Izi, poyamba, ndizofunika kuti mwadzidzidzi mwadzidzidzi, mwa chizolowezi chakale, musayambe kudzifunsa funso ili: "Kodi adzabwezeretsa bwanji?". Ndikuchoka pambali, ndicho chisankho chanu. Chinthu chachikulu, ngati ali ndi malingaliro a inu - osamulola kuti azikondana nanu momveka bwino. Ngati ndiubwenzi, musalole kuti kumverera kwa attachment kukule, mwinamwake m'mabuku onse awiri zidzakhala zovuta kuti avomereze kuti akusochera inu mosalekeza. Kotero kukambirana msanga ndicho chisankho chokha choyenera. Koma, ndipo ngati izi zakhala zikuchitika kale, mudzayesa kuzisintha, zikhale zosokoneza. Zikatero, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti musiye chiyanjano chifukwa zochita zilizonse pambali yanu zidzatsutsidwa ndi kuyesayesa ndikuyesera kusiya chirichonse pamasita ake. Pachifukwa ichi, chinthu chachikulu kwa inu sikuti musagwe ndipo musapitirire nokha ndi kutembenukira koyamba, maganizo ake. Yembekezerani kuti asiye kukukondani ndikudzipatulira kumbuyo, palibe nzeru. Musadzipereke nokha chifukwa cha chifundo chanu. Mudzamumvera chifundo - mumadzivulaza.
Chitani izi pakali pano, chifukwa posachedwa ziyenera kuchitidwa. Koma kuchoka popanda kumupweteka, sikugwira ntchito. Choncho musachedwe ndi kupuma. Kuyankhula kwanu momveka kudzakhala koyenera ulemu.
Ngati mumumvera chisoni kapena ngati mumadziwa kuti alibe wina kupatulapo inu, ingomulankhulani kwa bwenzi lanu, omwe muli otsimikiza, ngati mtundu uwu. Palibe mabwenzi abwenzi abwino, musakhale okwiya chifukwa cha izi. Zonse zomwe zinkafunikira kwa inu, mwakhala mukuzichita kale. Ndipo kumbukirani, palibe njira mmbuyo_yomwe ili patsogolo. Ndimo momwe muyenera kukhalira ndi mnyamata amene simukufunanso kulankhula naye nthawi zonse ndi pansi.